Ladies – Providing a timely answer to a reference request is beyond just a cordial thing to do.  It is a professional courtesy that is a necessity for safety and protection. It is also part of the core principle of “doing unto others as you would want done for you.”

See you next week....

Please be mindful that giving a reference to another lady is a courtesy.  Furthermore various screening methods should be used. Relying on another lady is a gamble.  
Also worth mentioning is that once a lady does asisit you with a references it’s common courtesy to show a little fucking gratitude.  
Just last week a local lady contacted me through p411 about a client and I provided her with fair warning about getting a deposit as he is a repeat  cancel extended date offender.  
I got no thank you, no gratitude and I will never provide a reference for Tina again.  

I prefer not to give references to be contacted as it is an invasion of my privacy. That is to say I am not interested in having the ladies I see communicating with each other about the timing or my choices. I have a P411 account with 10 okays and formally before TER went off the radar I had a number of reviews and white lists here.  
There are ladies here  that I have been seeing for years and will see again but when should my personal business. Elle is a perfect example. Awesome lady and friend whom I have know for 10 years.  
I think a little professional jealousy is inherent in the business and I would prefer not to impose on anyone, just as Elle said, it's a courtesy, just as asking for an OK on P411 is a courtesy to us which I appreciate, though even that inevitable leads to reply "when will I see you again? soon I hope"
On another note I have exchanged emails with TER recently as I just received my renewal notice. I explained that after 17 years I no longer was going to pay for VIP as I can access the only useful tool left without VIP - regional boards. I am optimistic as here was the reply:  

Mm, I want some “fucking” gratitude too, that actually sounds very nice Elle.
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Was this me because that doesnt sound like I would do that and I know we have communicated back and forth before and if it was me allow be to open;y apologize because that is not who I am  ... Maybe I replied a few days later or to your email ... Assuming it even was me  
I ALWAYS TAKE THE TIME TO GIVE REFERENCES AND GIVE THANKS FOR REFERENCES.

You haven’t written a review in  8 years
🤣 typical ex Indi member

if anyone ask me about a client i have no issue being  a professionalism about it just commonsense and for me kindness as i wish nothing but good fun and safety to everyone ..i only state if they are safe and basic info never in depth info .... me myself the person i am well it is just respect we are all in the same boat and we can make it smooth sailing if we choose ...