My ATF was out of town this week and I decided to see someone new. Did my research and chose a lady though somewhat new to the biz, has several favorable reviews from somewhat established hobbyist averaging 9’s. Set up the same day appointment and went to see her. Nice girl, attractive, pretty good skills. Here is the problem. Round one was completed by her orally. Good but not great. We chatted for a bit and I was ready to start round 2 when she informs me that she got her period this morning and FS and DATY were not options. She might have gone for another round orally but I was so taken aback I was no longer in the mood. Of course I got the old “I’ll make it up to you next time” line.
My question for the community here is: Given that she knew her full line of services was not going to be available, does anyone else think she should have informed me of this fact up front when I scheduled with her and given me the option of what I wanted to do? I feel very mislead here.
Maybe it’s time for me to retire from this hobby for a while!
Please include in that information in your Review, & rate her Performance # accordingly.....no covered full sex & Daty for her same rate!
I guess you were at least lucky in the fact she told you during the session & not just stuff a few sponges "up there" & let you Daty on her bacteria in there.
...let me know Aunt Flo came to visit, & aske if I wanted to re-schedule, or discount the date for only oral for me. I thanked her & said no I'll pass, but let's reshedule, so we did after Aunt Flo left.
It happened too w/a touring provider, she contacted me as well to let me know, & I saw her the next time she came to town.
Pretty simple ladies, just be honest, 90% of the time the guy will re-schedule.
She was being deceptive and dishonest. It happened to me one time and I was mighty pissed off. You should name her or review her with the appropriate comments.
Waited a long time to see her, travelled to Ft Lauderdale after making an appointment. That afternoon she says it's that time of the month and "she's spotting" but it shouldn't be a problem. I said it sounds like a problem, since I wasn't prepared for this or whatever her "flow" is normally so I said no thanks. Wasted a buncha money and time and she could've given me a hint that it was that time of the month.
Another local gal here in the TB area had a yeast infection and still made a date. Not good.
I can understand not talking about such things to an unknown person but if she did get good references and saw your whitelists it should have been mentioned in some way. If she is a real newbie and not familiar with using the system to keep herself safe I understand why no mention was made to you. A pro would of or should have handled things in a different way.
Please give this lady the benefit of doubt since she may not be worldly of how this all works. We all started somewhere here and needed to learn to walk before we could run. I'm sorry you didn't get what you hoped for. If you indeed have thought through all the if's without thinking she knew no better then yes you could feel cheated.
What Haley. Did she think he booked her for a BJ? Of course not. Get real! She could have fessed up before she took his envelope. Period. She knew better.
Relax. Calm down. There's no need to try to impress everyone with your board-bouncing attempt at establishing your new identity. We get it. You've been here....new handle...you're cool.
I have been doing this for more years than I will ever admit to. I expect services advertised to be available and not have to ask if they are not. Tell me upfront and I will understand and go from there. I should not have to ask; "by the way, are you on your period?". I was deceived. Period!!!
I did side for you in this post 2cupsplease but wanted to point out that she just may be very inexperienced in what she is doing.
I liked Valerie's answer about trying to meet with the lady for a makeup session and to keep her good name. I just didn't say that which I should have. Only problem is newbie ladies will have no clue how to handle even doing that. If she has never been on this board then she'll move on without learning again what she needs to know.
3 reviews get you to the provider board where she will get all the guidence she cares to ask for. Go ahead and write a review.
Sorry if you misunderstood my intentions written in my first post
I don't believe she should have to refund all of his money, as she did provide some form of service. However, I do agree that she should refund a portion of it if she advertised as GFE, because with a GFE session, certain things are expected.
I also believe a public apology is completely unnecessary. What happened occurred between him and her, and while she should definitely apologize to OP, she owes no one else an apology.
I would never have sex while on my period. It's not comfortable for me and I'm sure it's not comfortable for the client. I agree she should have never booked a session knowing that it was that time of the month.
I understand some of the statements about maybe because she was a new provider she didn't know how to handle the situation, but I have been providing for a year and never made that mistake. I'm not really sure what's hard to handle about that situation. Either don't book any sessions or disclose that your period is on.
She absolutely should have informed you, but had she been a better business person she possibly could have turned it into as positive an experience as possible...and had a repeat customer.
We have to allow that 'shit happens' and it's not fair to say that a gal should know exactly what day her body will be doing what (unless that day her body will be doing Bob..or Bill..or John.....but I digress...LOL). But you said it was a same day appointment. That means she knew for sure.
IMHO what she should have done is let you know so you don't feel tricked (no pun intended) then offer you a discount for THIS visit...none of this future bullshit...and assured you that you'd have an amazing time. A smart woman would know that you wanted same day, so you're in the mood...and not in the mood to go shopping again. So even though it may have been a turn off initially, she could sell (that's part of the job, kids) and get you in. If a guy still refuses after a good sell....then that's probably not the customer you want anyway. But at least that customer wouldn't have anything negative to say if he was told up front. Then, once there and happy about your discount, she could have gone out of her way to rock your world. Two awesome oral sessions? Nothing to bitch about there! You'd most likely leave happy...and return. That's what it's all about.
It might be that she's new to the biz, but we can say in public what's said in private sometimes.....that being good at a job doesn't mean a person is automatically good at business. Almost any perceived negative can be turned into a positive. That's sales. And the best ones in this, or any business, are the ones who know that it's more than the product itself that sells.
So yes, it was handled badly, and yes you should feel misled. The only thing you can do is write a fair and honest review. No need to rip her a new one...but let others know. Please don't be one of these guys who chimes in to almost every conversation of a negative thing and says 'oh, me too' yet there's no inkling of anything in their reviews. Help the community and the community will help you.
Who knows, maybe she'll learn something from this. We can dream anyway.....
There's a rub-n-tug lady up in my neck of the woods who is nice, gives a damn fine massage, and finishes things off with some very enjoyable hand operated whoopie. However, when I saw her the first time, she stated that because of the curse of Leviticus, there was a limited menu. She was very apologetic. It struck me she was making it a point to let me know there could be more goodies in the future.
I saw her two weeks later and she gave the same excuse for the limited menu.
Then, a fellow hobbyist saw her about a week later and lamented in his review that she was having her period, so the options were limited.
I tend to disbelieve that this woman is constantly, perpetually menstruating.
I think it's something like "You can't trust anything that bleeds for 5 days and doesn't die". Well if that's the case....this 30 day a month bleeder is downright scary!!!
Because I run, my period is not regular and spotty at times but I never let it interfere with the hobby.
I wanted to take the birth control seasonique but I was told that some women have a period everyday for a month so I won't take it and Depo Vera will give you a spotty period for a couple months if you stop taking it for a year. That is one reason I started doing Greek but I am completely off all birth control so I don't have the problems and a larger menu
You cant win..You got to call the client and tell them you are sick last minute.
The client is all wound up and hard and gets mad because he has to rub himself of...
The best thing is for her is to contact you and re-schedule you for free, or return the money..
Proper method is call client say your sick and immediatly book another date,or have a short list of friends he can see within his time frame if he is an out of towner.
Yeap thats where the guys win..I been in her shoes before..always cancelled and re-scheduled..
The good news is you are after a woman thats young enough to still have her friend
Girl friend if you are reading this re-schedule him for free or send him his money back..there are many more fish in the ocean, if you dont control this it will cost you 10x more
Great advice for the provider, Val!...Hopefully she will take your advice, .....although, not everyone is "in this" for "long run"....(so to speak), and I don't imagine that it bothers them when the phone stops ringing..........While I am a firm believer in "YMMV"......(Depending on the degree that one is / is not a Gentleman),....My humble opinion on this one is that ...(along with your great advice),....you are too kind....That's just wrong.....it's a "bait" deal.....Get him there, take his donation,....and THEN tell him......C'mon now......How much more limited could you possibly be?.....and why would you even want to be that "intimate" with someone when you already know that you can't possibly be 'fresh" enough?......I don't know....if a Hobbyist came to me lacking in personal hygiene, I would be offended....Why should it be any different for them?......Yeah,.....to quote a dear friend of mine....."THAT'S JUST WRONG"......New to the industry or not,......you know it's not right........As always, just my humble opinion.........Torre
If the full menu was not going to be available, that should be told when the appointment is made, and that way you can make your decision knowing all the facts.
...but not my main reason for the date. I would have been very disappointed by this news mid-session, and would much rather have been given the option to reschedule. Would have respected the provider's honesty more, and looked forward to the future date.
I hope the OP will post a fair review of the provider, but also flagging this part of the experience.
Thanks to everyone for their feedback and to those who PM'ed me as well.
I did talk to the "agency" and they are willing to give a $100 discount off the next appointment with her or any of the other ladies. Something is better then nothing. I will be posting a review in the next day or two and will be as fair as I can be but also stating the facts.
I had an appointment with a very well known provider who didn't tell me she was at the end of her period. When I pulled out there was red on the condom. And this was already after DATY.
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