Hmmmmm

I will open a can of worms....

First, if my ex SO had been healthy and an actual partner I never would have found my way to the hobby. Not because you ladies aren't wonderful, but because I wouldn't have had a NEED.

Secondly, we had many chances to swing. We were invited many times and I was pursued ruthlessly by one woman who I swear her hubby just wanted to pound my then SO. The problem that I found in swinging was that many of these female SO had expense candy issues that come to find out were a result of the actual swing that they were into. I know, I know, not all ladies feel this way. But eventually, the emotional side really takes a huge hit on most of these ladies.

Third, I have dated many a woman who feel very free sexually, but the thought of sharing would absolutely ruin them. Do they have self esteem issues.... don't we all to some degree.

All this to say, in order to be a successful swinger, and I mean "healthy" swinger, you have to be extremely comfortable with yourself and your sexuality. These types of women are extremely attractive to men because they are not needy types, but fun types...

I would love to go to a swing party with a fun date, but wouldn't want to watch my SO be swapped around. Am I a hypocrite? I don't think so, I have seen to many of the bad consequences to want to risk the relationship. Now, If my SO was one of those strong healthy types who genuinely enjoyed being fucked and could handle the emotional end, then I say batter up....

So no couple in Florida ever uses escort services...?

I'm
Just trying to figure out how the different scene works in America!
San Francisco, LA, las vegas and OC have huge swinger scenes, San Diego not at all...

Just curious to know if you guys rather do it as a solo thing or if you ever consider doing it with the SO?