Maybe this is a stupid question I feel as if I have to ask it. First about me, I am in my early 40s, am single and aside from my Mom who lives 7,500 miles away in Oahu, I have no family. I have a plethora of friends and business acquaintances but good friends (all two of them) live within a 20 minute drive but I see them at best 3 times a year. I am sure by now you are getting the picture. I am a lonely guy and I am not ashamed to admit it. I tried dating services, singles events, the whole gambit of commercialized dating and interacting with other singles but soon realized that the GFE was the prescription for my happiness.  

My question to the providers, especially the girls who are single and far from home and loved ones, is do you ever get to experience the BFE with your clients? Or is it too risky to let your guard down in this business?

I know I am gonna get flamed so please keep it to a minimum guys.

Anyone who flames this thread should be ashamed of them self...

I for one would much rather have a BFE than to be tossed around in every position possible. There is definitely something to say about the closeness (cuddling, kissing and the passion).

At the end of the day, each and every one of us knows why we are here but the pleasurable experiences that I have been in are very memorable and mean so much to me.

808... not a stupid question at all and I too agree with the dating and single events... it's not the prescription for my happiness either.

All my best...

Xoxoxo,
SS

I couldn't agree more Sindie!

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After my broken engagement/wedding I feel the way you do.     I have never seen my parents except in pictures.    My only family is my grandmother who brought me up.    Since my job involves 20 days travel there is no chance of a steady relationship.    I also found out GFE was a happy option and I have met many caring, beautiful women who filled the void that I miss outside of work, thanks to TER.    Same thing goes when I travel and it is more care free and accepted as part of life outside USA.     Anyone who offers and shows me compassion, he/she is a friend for life.

I can't speak for the women but I am happy you brought it up for us, men.

There are many gentlemen who are in a similar situation as you.  Conversation and good laughs go hand in hand with good sex. It's the icing on the cake that makes a regular friend so much more enjoyable. I have many long term friends that share many aspects of their life with me and I do the same.  

Kisses Haley

I myself just turned 47 so we are not that far apart in age .
I am single and been that way ALL my life - I absolutly LOVE being single, always have !
I don't even have a mom , family or anything - all by myself ALL my life .
I have a "plethera" of friends - upward of 200 , 300 all over the world from my lifetime travels and have them on Facebook and also visit them often, as well as they visit me from thousands of mile around.

Close to home about another 100 , 25 are close that I share EVERYTHING without hestitation or fear of judgement on their part or mine to be honest - true respected friends. Distance by land is NOT even something I consider in a friendship and when we see each other. WHY DO YOU SEE A CLOSE FREIND SO FEW TIMES A YEAR ?  I mean seriously, are you a fucking hermit ? Whenever I'm in town I pick up the car keys and go visit a close friend - its called "socializing" - ever heard of that ? FUCK MAN .....

I've been alone all my life but NEVER ONCE lonely. I'll head out anywhere and actively engage with other human beings and have fun, build respect , friendships, make others think , and they do likewise in return . Its called natural interaction and has been going on for thousands of years !

The honest truth from what youve written and the difference beteewn us - You have ABSOLUTLY NO SOCIAL SKILLS !!! Can you go talk to ANY random dude or chick in ANY social situation ?
Are you up on current events ? Are you shy ? Are you well versed on many subjects to actually be able to talk to actual human beings ( male or female ) ? I say NO ...........

Why are you lonely ?????? YOU LACK SOCIAL SKILLS TO ACTUALLY LEAVE THE HOUSE AND ENGAGE WITH HUMAN BEINGS !!!! Sorry to be blunt !!!! I have fun at the conv. store , the bank , the grocery store ,I actually talk and interact with people - you should try it sometime !!!!

You know why you failed - yes , YOU FAILED on dating sites and the other crap you listed ? YOUR FUCKING BORING AND LACK EXPERIENCE INTERACTING WITH HUMANS ! ITS YOU DUDE - WAKE UP !!!

Keep paying hookers and be in denial that it is YOUR fault for being lonely !

The whore is there ( and on this thread ) to tell you what you want to hear, pray on you insecurities , make you feel "whole " .......................COLLECT THE DONATION AND MOVE ON !

BFE ......................Yeah, right. A term your comfortable with to disguise the real issue - YOU !!!

What a pathetic post from a social loser in denial !!!!!
 

I knew the trolls would come out. Why are you here if you are so well connected? Let me guess you know a bunch of people yet cant get laid.

Where did the you get the idea I was "well connected" ?
I'm a E911 Motorola radio network technician. I'm just a hard working blue collar guy .
The "bunch of people " I know are just average folk I engage with and form friendships with .
You kinda guessed and assumed wrong .  
Where did you get the idea I can't get laid ?
I don't want a girlfriend as I travel too much and am completely happy being single. I'm in this sandbox for the no strings attached, quick , simple in and out, cheap fuck the hookers here provide . I don't have to waste time , money or bullshit some chick and hope to get laid after a nice dinner and night out.
I'm an average guy that has many friends and social skills  who has attempted to get you to see that according to what you wrote, lacks these things and has put you where you are today.
I responded only to the facts you wrote and assumed nothing ...........however you did assume many things that were indeed completely off base and incorrect . This again is another issue that leads to road blocks in your daily encounters with people and yet another reason your list of true friends is short.
You don't see that and resort to calling honest guys " trolls".

Must suck to be you .........

 
 

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So, with all your great personality and social skills I find it hard to figure out why you are here on a public escort board?     Can't you just walk in to some Saks or Neiman Marcus, connect with the most beautiful female shopper and have a good time?

I have hundreds of female friends and coworkers but don't look at them as my next person in bed!

I'm here because I'm about to be coming home after 3 months in Belize.  
I'm horny, got some dough saved up and researching the next hooker for when I return .
Saks and Neiman Marcus ??? Aren't they like WalMart and KMart minus the flashing blue light ?

8o8 I hear where you are coming from.....

As a 44 year old widower I find dating frankly SUCKS .  That's why I partake in the hobby.  A BFE relationship makes total sense.  I think you are onto something my friend.  If a person could find a BFE relationship with a provider that would not turn into a Sugar Daddy relationship, that would be fantastic in my mind.

Buck

I enjoy it better when I have a real connection to someone. It enhances the overall experience for both. I just had this conversation with a hobbyist I met yesterday. He says he seeks out those who offer GFE bc he wants to offer BFE. That's why he brings gifts and books 90min + sessions, to be able to talk, relax, and really connect. It was wonderful being in fantasyland for a while!

love it, darlin!  its what i DO!

i do not wish to complicate my life with the entanglements of a relationship (haven't figured out how to do "this" and "that" at the same time, anyway!), and so i prefer a situation in which there's a connection.  in fact, i screen not only for safety but for compatibility, and i much prefer my longer dates.  my ads speak to romance because that's the kind of date i typically offer - and definitely the type of date i seek.  "let's fall in love...for a couple of hours, anyway" is one of my mottoes.

so yes, we are out here.

Do you want the experience of being a boyfriend for a few hours or do you want to be a real boyfriend?

There is a fine line between being a real boyfriend and sugar daddy.

A negative connotation goes w/ the term sugar daddy for many.  Truth be told, in traditional relationships it is often common that the man contributes more financially to the running of household operations.  Not in all cases is this true.  But from a traditional sense it is.  In addition, if you are dating someone, there are also traditional roles where often times the man will be the one who pays for the date, vacation, buys a gift, etc...  The end result is typically to discover if there is mutual compatibility and eventually a time will come where you both may venture to BCD activities and discover if the benefits of mutual pleasure exist.

Dating, boyfriend, sugar daddy...all of these labels are too closely blended for my liking.

I enjoy steady companionship.  In no way shape or form am I going to be financially responsible for anyone that I spend time w/.  I am a very generous person, however, no matter who you are, you need to come to the table w/ the ability to at least match 50% of the finances.

I speak from a financial level because if you are only looking for an "experience", how I understand the definition, you are not asking for anything long term as in day to day routine boyfriend/girlfriend type activities.  You want the experience but not the commitment.  If I am correct, then you are in the right place.  All you need is cash and the feeling of compatibility.

If I am wrong then please clarify.  Not trying to split hairs, but a real boyfriend is ready to invest time in getting to know his intended.  Time equals money for everyone.  So there is an investment and if you want to break it down into dollars and cents or just from an overall time perspective/investment, you need to know that part of being a boyfriend and/or girlfriend is that you commit to learning the good, the bad and the ugly.  After you have taken the time to learn of each other you both then have the option to decide if you can accept each others packages.

To be a real boyfriend of a provider you have to be incredibly confident in yourself.  There has to be a trusted agreement and mutual understanding about the woman's profession.  If you can wrap your head around the fact that your "real" girlfriend is a pretend girlfriend to other men you can have a very incredible relationship.  You know you’re not going to be w/ a sexually inhibited woman, her hours are flexible as hell so she can be available for a lot of activities, and her appreciation of you for being able to understand what she does for a living and not be judgmental would probably make for a very solid relationship.

I've been a provider for four years, during this time I had the pleasure of one companion who could deal w/ what I did for a living.  Some providers face huge dilemmas when it comes to finding an SO.  They either have to hide it which forces them to lie and not reveal their true self to a person they would like to care for or they take the risk and share what they do knowing that in most cases the guy will bolt.

Companionship is key for all humans.  None of us want to be totally isolated.  Being able to enjoy regular companionship of one specific person has many rewards.  But to be rewarded w/ a fulfilling relationship w/ one person requires commitment from two people to work on the mutual goal.  Nothing comes easy all the time.  But w/ commitment and hard work often comes great benefit.

Your question wasn't stupid in my opinion.  But you have to know that there will always be opposing view points.  When you put something in public you take the risk of being rejected.  Same concept when you are risking opening up your heart to a relationship.