I'm curious to know how others feel (girls and guys) about clients revealing a disability or obvious illness they have before planning a meeting with a provider?
I feel that if I'm going to be put into a potentially uncomfortable situation for BOTH of us that it's best that the client give me a heads up before our meeting and to give me the choice to politely decline if I choose to. There is a man in my NY history who tried his hardest to see me but I never would because of his small size. My girlfriend on the other hand, didn't blink an eye and so they were a match made in heaven!! Another weekend was spent in NY with a gentleman who described himself to be a model type; Imagine my disappointment when the big reveal came and he only had ONE eye. The bad eye was not covered by a patch and was out for all the world to stare at. I had to pretend not to notice the world's jaw dropping at the sight of the guy I was supposed to be sooooo into. Most recently, I went on a date with a gentleman who suffers from kidney problems. I got to hear all about his one kidney, kidney dialysis, kidney failure and his kidney transplant. I was also asked (forced) to touch his "badge of honor" which was an area in his forearm where two arteries had been fused together to create this massive nodule under his skin. Between kidney stories I learned about many failed attempts at relationships. By the time I was done listening to all of his kidney & love stories and after being made to touch something that literally made my skin crawl I had a feeling that the evening probably wouldn't get much better. As I suspected, it didn't. Without going there, let's just say that his disease doesn't just cause kidney failure - it causes failure of some other things as well. It was what it was -- not even God himself could have helped but of course he had to blame someone. I allowed myself to feel guilty and before I knew it I was promising another date off the clock to "make things up to him" even though I felt like I had done everything I was supposed to do. After the fact and sorting things out in my head I decided not to meet him again for two reasons - one, because I really didn't "owe" him any more of my time or myself and two, because I prefer not to spend my time with someone who's so severely affected by their personal illnesses.
I was wondering last night when I read them. That'd explain their unhappiness.
I saw that they had a pattern of unhappy reviews and I know I'll earn another happy one soon enough. I'm not the type to ask someone to write one for me and the clientele that I see aren't the type that typically write them soooooo I'm a fat, ugly redhead for now. hee hee!!! Run into me on a Friday night in my cocktail dress and stiletto pumps and you might think I'm a Phat, sexy redhead!! ; )
While I dont have any physical disabilities myself, I have seen some ladies who dont like to see what they refer to as "Overweight" people.....and while I'm not overweight, I am in the weight range of what they mention....but upon contact, I let them know that I have a more muscular build, and if they are uncomfortable with my size upon meeting me, no hard feelings....and to some who have never met me, i'm but like a linebacker...lol
The only reason I would say they should, is that way there are no surprises, and the lady can be prepared for the person she will be entertaining...
Cheers
I never thought of being "overweight" as a disability...
OBESITY is a handicap of sorts BUT, I have a soft spot for BIG guys.
Just like men who enjoy BBW's.
I have 2 regulars who weigh more than 300# &...
they are 2 of MY FAVORITE friends/lovers.
.... 300lbs and over need to call themselves out. It isn't even that we as providers can't deal with weight because I can. I had a really sexy friend (ex football) who was around 350 who could fuck like crazy. On the reverse, I had a client who was 500lbs who didn't prepare me. I weighed around 103 at the time. It was physically impossible for me to do anything for him. He needed a tall provider. It was a simple as that.
First off some gentlemen can't climb stairs so knowing that if your on a second floor would be important info to share. How sad for them to book and drive to your place only to find he couldn't get to see you.
Any kind of heart condition is info that you need to share just in case something happens. I have had a gentlemen have a heart attack while I was with him and it was very scary for me. He handled it like a pro and had me drive him and his car down the street and he went behind the wheel of his car while I walked back to the hotel. He dialed 911 from his cell to get help and all were saved embarrassment and much more.
Prostate problems if recently treated. Blood could be in the semen which is not good in the case of BBBJ
Kisses Haley
Try to find a female doctor with long skinny fingers for the first exam (unless you like that sort of thing) (:>).
If your stuck with a male doctor, make sure he does NOT have a hand on EACH shoulder (Again, unless you like that sort of thing).
Seriouslly, one of the tests they do before any serious cutting is shove a camera up your backside and occasionally even up the sausage ( they swore to me is was a smaller camera). However, a side effect is similar to what happens to a woman after having a child. The muscles have been extendly streatched and it takes time to recover. Weeps and seeps happen, and it is as embarassing to the weeper as it is to the weepee But you know you have done your job as the weeper is now fully relaxed.
You really don't have to worry about blood until the docs decide to us a Roto-Rooter on you.
The bottom line here is be specific here. That little prostrate work may only be what you thought was gas is shit on the shits, or serious danger to your provider.
Haley, do you still have that 1st e-mail I send everyone, describing myself as old, fat and ugly? It might be a good sample as a first contact.
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as this has happened to me today. We set a time. Then I receive a text message stating, Tara, I forgot to mention that I am a paraplegic, which I hope is not an issue, is your place accessible? And I would like to make this a once a week thing.
I responded that I have a step at the front door. He responded he could do one step. I responded deceiving me from the beginning is not being truthful to me, and I'd rather not go there.
I have had 2 bad experiences with gentlemen in wheelchairs, so I prefer not to see this type of client.
... but he has an obligation to tell every provider he approaches. Eventually he'll find someone who will see him and someone he can repeat with. Otherwise he's wasting his own time and possible money. More than that, he's stomping on his own emotions by setting himself up like that.
I have a very good client up north who is in a wheelchair and is very clean.
But that has got to stink(pun intended) if you came across that, in fact, ts gross when we come across it with a fully capable man as well.
So as a reminder gentlemen of every shape size and ability. 
WASH YOUR ASS BEFORE YOUR DATE!
Regardless of what it is, they are human too and need love. But a heads up would be warranted, incase my incall won't allow them access.
I've worked with many disabled people and I would NEVER deny anyone because of their disability.
So they are in a wheel chair, or blind, or even deaf. That doesn't make them monsters.
That's just me.
Gabby xoxo
What I meant by "not allow them access" bad parking,no ramp, or handicap accessible room.
Sorry xox
I DO appreciate a "heads up" IF their disability is so severe,
that they are unable to change their underwear regularly.
I'm NOT joking around.
I agree with Cinnamon that EVERYONE has needs
& I accommodate people WITH physical issues.
Whether they prepare me or not, "the show must go on".
I had a gentleman here about 6 months ago
who was ALL WRONG physically.
He was SO SWEET, he DID tell me he was a physical mess
but, I never imagined what to expect when he undressed.
When he pulled his pants down...
there were LAYERS of "pads" in his underwear
& the smell was SO AWFUL I almost threw up.
I toughed it out & did a HJ with Purell instead of lubricant.
I told him when he called for another date that...
it would have to be on a SAME DAY his nurse bathes him
& puts fresh underwear on him.
He never called back.
That story with the guy with the pads. I almost threw up reading that! I would hope that he tells me that he is handicapped/disabled. I would not be comfortable doing the session.
Ready my replies as they come up to various comments to my threads. I have a heart don't worry. There are some disabilities and illnesses I can deal with and some I can't - same as the other girls who commented. What we're saying is - we think it's right that the client give a head's up first. Wouldn't it be awful if someone in a wheelchair showed up to Tara's and get turned away when they could have booked an appointment with you and have been welcomed? Researching and selecting the right girl is called due diligence and each client performs it in their own way when choosing which provider to book.
Agree with you. And, i have heard plenty of stories from providers like some of those mentioned above and those professionally made photos often hide blemishes and characteristic that are just not appealing. Let's have a little tolerance>
One of my best freinds had his prostate removed ten or so years ago and is a survivor. The good news is that he's alive today but the bad news is that his wife will NOT do anything with or for him in the sack. As a result he was seeing a provider who was very good to him in dealing with the fact that he had to use a pump and later injections in order to get some amount of erection. This provider has since retired or vanished and the economy downturn hit him badly so he's unable to afford anyone these days but hats off to the lady who took "care" of him to the best of her ability, and his.
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and may or may not be able to get an erection or ejaculate. I think the more mature man would find this of interest to him and for ladies who do see gentlemen with ED.
I have a thread from the over 60 board in which we discussed this issue. For any gentleman that may have an interest to a more mature aspect of the hobby please stop by the over 60 board.
Kisses Haley
I had knee replacement surgery last summer and was left with a 6-inch scar on my knee. I saw one of my regulars soon after the doctor released me and I asked her if she wanted me to cover it up. She said there was no need because she had seen worse. But I think providers want to know information about disabilities up front.
(with the exception of severe burns) ... they tell a story & add character.