I just can't help myself at times.  I'm not familiar with you or your posting/review history; ask me if I care? Answer: fuck no!  But you asked what appeared to be a reasonable question, at least in the opinion of this cub reporter.  Then BAMMMMM,  the sky falls from all over hell's half acre on top of you.  I'm not defending you or being nasty to anyone else (nah, wtf, since folks who engage in spending time posting shit on this site DO NOT have their elevators going to the top floor anyway - including me -here goes):

I prefer being the aggressive one; but sometimes it's nice for the lady to be the aggressive one; when the lady does not wish to be the aggressive one, then I'm the aggressive one; and vice versa; see, it's very simple.  Now, there are times; however, when neither one of us chooses to be the aggressive one; that's when the REAL fun begins (but that's another topic, let your mind wander).  Does that help? OK, OK, Wayne, calm down, you're having a panic attack,  take a deep breath and read the aforementioned again and again VERY VERY slowly till it sinks in (12/15 times outta do it).  Forget the part about letting your mind wander, don't want you to get a migraine.

Ok, it's back to the PDC everybody (Prozac Detention Center), gotta go, THEY found me!  Just doing some mischief, lol, have fun everybody and play safe.