I'm using an alias for obvious reasons. Don't want to offend anybody, but I've had this experience in my last couple of dates.

In my 50's now, I'm pretty much a one pop guy. As bad as I hate it, that's pretty much reality.
Now I love BBJ's as good as anybody. Twice recently, I could tell I was about to cum and ask the provider to stop so I could enjoy FS. Both times, they kept on until it was too late.

I'll admit, both times it felt so good....I probably wasn't real adament about them stopping. But I do think they should have honered my wishes. Since after all, I am the customer.

I guess I'm conflicted. Should I be mad ? I don't want to be real asshole and ask for some of my money back.

Don't know if I'm mad or not, definately leave a little disappointed. And in both instances, they did try to get a 2nd pop out of me....but I knew it was a waste of time.

I'd just love to hear other's take on this.

ASSHOLE thing to do.

Are you or were you clear in the beginning that you are a one-pop guy and must save it for the end?

YES a lady should stop if you ask her to... and in my years of hobbying I've never had one not stop when I asked.

Some ladies think you can recharge and do it again even though there may be no second pop, there is second wood.

So my friend... it could be that you just need to communicate more at the beginning.

...you didn't ask early enough or weren't emphatic enough. I would've gently withdrawn and said I'm saving myself for some FS.

Knowing what you know now, make it clear what your needs are in advance, and a responsible provider will comply.

In the vernacular it could be construed that you mean the opposite of what you say.

Like  "WOW she is a bad bad girl"

can mean she is great!

So as said maybe next time you need to state your wishes in advance........Just a thought.


Thank you
2009 = 27

Asking for some of your money back right after you had an orgasm in her mouth is probably not going to make you real popular, but you already knew that. I'm mostly a one round guy also, but that's okay. It used to bother me, but I had a great lady teach me how to relax and enjoy the second journey, even though there would be no second destination. And what's even better is that simply being cool with it, and learning to relax, I've found that the second destination has actually happened more often.

I have been in this situation before.

If you are anything like me, the part of you that is still trying to tap into your Big Head is thinking, "This feels really good, but all the serious action will be done very soon if I don't get her to change up right now."

On the other hand, the rest of your body is in league with your Little Head and is thinking, "This feels REALLY GOOD ... and I wanna keep it coming.  MORE!  MORE!  MORE!"

Whichever brain has control of your vocal cords will win out.  So often the utterances become:

"You'll have to stop ... I'm ... ummmm"
"Don't.   Uuuuggghhhh ..."
"Stop.  You rrrrrrrrr ...."
"Don't!"
"Stop!"
"DON'T STOP!!!!!"    

Makes it somewhat confusing for the lady.

ask for some $$$ back.  This has happened to be a few times and I was able to go for a round two; thank goodness for multiple hr. dates.  If it had been a 1-hr. date, no way for a 2nd cup.

My suggestion would be to express your situation to the lady (get be warmed up with BBBJ but stop so I can enjoy FS) during the "talk time".  As others have said, once the action heats up, it is usually too late.

When you say STOP!  Come on, get over your inhibitions, its not up to you to please her sexually since you're doing so financially.  I don't mean you shouldn't be polite and a gentleman, but after all, you are the customer and the customer is within reason always right.

I know I read the title and Thought Oh BOY I'm gonna rip someone a new A-hole

#1 Please give me these girls names I think I want a date

#2 I think you are fustrated. If these ladies hadn't offered or tried for a second cup then I would say you have the right to be mad

My advice is use these two experiences as a learning tool for next time

Rub one out a couple of hours before the date
Be Clear Upfort with the ladies about
Exactly what you are looking for before the dat starts

silly putty.

...i've tried that before. i had so much backup nut juice, my balls grew to the size of those giant exercise balls. hmm, come to think of it, it wasn't silly putty, it was crazy glue.
never mind....

I would suggest you both ask her to stop and also pull your body away at the same time.

I let the lady know in advance of me being on the verge of erupting! I have never really had a problem with anyone NOT stopping to do something else when I asked.(cum to think of it...I don't ask,I just grab her by the ears and get her off the thing  LOL)  Besides, she did offer round, and tried.(which I don't think happens as often as all the reviews tend to say)  I can always get the gun loaded, but it often just won't shoot in round 2...but that doesn't mean I can't have some fun, and let her share in it!
Ask for your money back?????   I don't think so! You gotta speak up man!!!!
If you're gonna be mad, be mad at you, not her! sounds like you need assertiveness training!!!
I don't know who you saw, or if the date was longer than 30 min, but I've never run into anyone who will just keep going after I let her know I want to do something else!  Good Lick, I mean luck in the future!

As I read your post, I had flashbacks of somewhat similiar encounters I have had with a few of my gentlemen friends. However, I did stop and happily satisfied them in their desired way. The only reason I knew what they wanted was through their communicating with me. I find that it is quite helpful when a gentleman gives me a heads up regarding what he likes, what he is looking for in a session with me, and what he does not enjoy. Personally, after kissing and removing some of our clothing, I like to ask what does the client like. Typically, as the kissing continues, he whispers through our connected lips, “everything…” At that point, I know there is no stopping me now! Other times, a gentleman will take that opportunity to communicate his specific needs to me; perhaps letting me know he would like to finish inside my warmness, rather than a BJ. Knowing these things is much appreciated!

Keep in mind, letting a woman know your needs and desires does not have to come across as scripted, rather just simple communication.

Xoxo, Giamarie

Us guys spend lots of time reading reviews of potential providers to learn more about them and their services. I find it especially gratifying when I meet a lady who has read MY reviews and has learned what I like and puts that knowledge to good use

Well, Left Fielder,
My recommendation would be always to communicate your desires before any action takes place-then you both understand what's expected and there should be no problems-Best of Luck and good hobbying-1rob

.. "Come up here & kiss me ..."