Is it his personality? What he looks like? Your chemistry? His generosity? What makes some men stand out from the others for you?

For me, it is a combination of good communication, his ability to engage my brain, his level of respect for me, for women, and for this profession in general, and our chemistry. In my former provider days I did dinner dates and beyond, so I also got to see my gents interact with various people in different social situations. I love when a man is sweet to everyone. How he treats others (especially service people- waiters, bellmen, valets, cashiers, etc) is so important.

Also, I can often get quite turned on at the prospect of seeing a new client during our pre-date communication. The back and forth banter is tantamount to foreplay for me, though nothing sexual is discussed. Maybe it's just the anticipation of seeing someone new. And if my body has already been there,  sometimes it is even better.

Personality!

a very well written post Sarah! Nicely done.

Why thank you!

what makes for an ATF is mutual chemistry - physical, mental and yes, a li'l bit emotional.  

and what is this mutual chemistry?  it's my excitement as i get ready for his visit, my delight in choosing just the right outfit (one HE will love!).  it's his broad and genuine smile when i open the door.  it's our eagerness to "catch up" with what's been going on with each other - and our inability to keep our hands and mouths off each other as we do.  it's the fact that we're both much more interested in pleasing each other than in a bunch of letters and numbers.  it's the fact that we're so comfortable with each other that snuggling together "after" is half the fun.

most of all, i love a man who makes me giggle, and who is truly happy when i do!

Jmarie your comments are spot on. Could have not said it any better.  

It is about physical and mental chemistry for me.  And if he is lots of fun when the clothes are shed that never hurts.  

someone who makes you wet when you think about him..you cant fool mother nature..

respectful, under six inches lol, and does not have the personality of a brussel sprout, I am a happy camper. The ones that truly stand out are guys I have had dinner with off the clock and got to really be myself with. If they get free time from me, you can bet your ass it comes with its own price ha ha.