Guys: If you're doing FMF, do you prefer to pick both providers, or do you let your favorite provider select her partner for the 3some?

Ladies: Do you prefer to pick your FMF partner, or are you okay if a guy has 2 ladies on his mind and seeks to schedule both of you together?

Some of the best threesomes I have had have been with a lady that I knew well - and she knew my likes/dislikes - and ladies that she recommended (although I almost always retained final approval).  My definition of great threesomes is when there is chemistry between the ladies as well and one of the best ways to ensure that is to let one of the ladies recommend the other.  I have found that threesome reviews are also helpful, but nothing beats the personal recommendation.

I prefer to pick my partner. It can be quite awkward if you've never met the date or the lady.  Picking the lady myself ensures a better time for all.  I also like the idea of having attraction for the lady I pick.

I assume your answer will mirror those of other providers for the reasons you mention.  I was just curious.

Well, the answer can go either way, sometimes it is good if we pick the 2nd lady, that way we are sure about the chemestry, however sometimes the "who is behind door number two" can be quite thrilling and super sexy...especially with blindfolds ;0)

In my experience, it's better to let the ladies pick their partners.  I tried to put a threesome together once with two ladies I liked.  It never happened, and it ended up being a big mess and blowup between the two of them.  Never again.

One other alternative, that I've discussed with a fave provider but not yet explored beyond the fantasy stage, is going somewhere with the provider where she might be able to find a civilian who she might seduce and invite to join us.

I'll report back if we try it.

and the provider pick one

I've actually done that.... well, the gentleman invited me but his lady had no idea and it was 3 people getting to know one another at a beautiful Sunny Isles oceanside bar.  The seduction was so much fun over cocktails and sushi.  I was then invited to their beautiful suite and I took over..... The night was magically delicious.....