I have been out of the hobby for 2.5 years. I was discussing if I might return with my best friend who is a man recently  He knew a couple of months into me becoming a provider because I told him over lunch one day when he knew something was up with me. Of course, he was concerned for my well being but without going into too many private details, I assured him I felt safe with my screening and always felt satisfied with the choices I made. I rarely did not want to see somebody again. For the ladies, it makes sense for us to see the same gentleman as much as possible- for the guys it can be 50/50, see somebody again because they connected and know it should be good again, but the other half is the excitement of being with a new woman.  
I am sure my best friend has hobbied. I would never ask- but as I contemplate my future, I just am thinking of the whole experience for you guys. Was the first time ever, any different than the first time you see somebody new? Did you leave and swear you would never do it again?

We miss you up here in The Big Apple.
My answer to your question is, for me, it's always a mix of old and new.  I do like the variety of seeing new women, but I have a core group of gals who just do it for me and I'll always come back to.  But in my case, seeing a regular probably only happens once every six months or so.
Why?  I am just a slut I guess.
PS: Thanks for making me remember that time in mid-town after I won your annual "lottery" a few years ago. I can still see you marching through the lobby in that zebra-striped, skin-tight mini-dress perched an flaming red Loubies.  You rock!

My first experience was when I was in Sydney on business and saw a provider there where it is legal. The girl was gorgeous and sort of a GND. Very sexy time and it made me want more. In seeing a "new" provider there is always the tingle of the unknown but the risk is that there may be no chemistry or she just might go through the motions. I have several regular girls with whom I have a great connection and it just gets better and better as we hone in on what we both like. If I had to choose I would pick the regular provider over new.

You melted away. Glad you're back!

The first thought was "Holy cow, that was great!"   The second thought was "Holy cow, you just paid for sex, you stupid shit!"  Despite the second thought, I was flying high as a kite, it was an incredible rush.   Once the rush wore off a couple of hours later, the second thought became dominant and I promised myself that I would never do it again.    Obviously, I did not do too well with that little promise because two decades later, here I am      

I suppose that like for many guys, for me these encounters are more than just the encounter itself.  I derive great pleasure from the anticipation and the anxiety, the good kind of anxiety, that I get days, and sometimes, weeks before the date.    I have a lot to be grateful for in my life but this is the cherry on top.  I even catch myself having a bad day at work and thinking, "but just think, in a couple of days you will be able to spend time with Suzie Q, you are a lucky bastard."   These days, when I leave I may have five minutes of a high, but nothing compared to the first time.   Actually, a certain sadness hits because I don't have the encounter to look forward to anymore and then I have to begin focusing on the next opportunity to perk me up.

Since I mostly partake when I travel, and since I was very late in my discovery of P411 and TER, I have only had the pleasure of repeating once so far.   That being said, I do look forward to creating some relationships that will allow me to repeat more often, specially here in FL.  There is something to be said for looking forward to an experience with someone you already know.

I should say that I a really grateful to the great professional ladies who allow us to have such a great time.

 

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I swore I would never do it again.   Broke that pledge within a month (some 40 years ago) and too many times since to even guess how often

I'm a life long single... When I met my first thru this internet method back in 2003 she was the one and only I ever wanted to see and no one else. We had become friends in the real world as well.. But once she retired, I got thrown under the bus and that was that.. Didn't think I'd partake in this anymore after that.. I then got layed off from work and also dealt with medical issues and hospitalizations so life took a turn for the struggle.. Play time took a back seat and was never again a thought till I got back on my feet with secure employment and medically cleared and now I have enjoyed time with several lovelies over the last few years!!!

Ha such good memories lover!!!!
I have not had anywhere to wear those heels in a couple of years now
If I come for a visit, I will be sure to bring them!!!

Somethings are worth waiting for.  
I am better than ever but if/when I come back to playtime- don't miss me this time!!!!
xooxox

really do hope you come back!

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I felt like a new man.  After having caught my second wife in bed with her Baptist preacher brother I have gravitated back to the hobby in the past 3 years.  We both know what we are there for and occasionally I meet a lady who is worthy of dinner and shopping trips.  Being a regular with a provider lets both explore fantasies and fetishes.  I tend to stay with the same provider until she betrays my trust.