and look out my bedroom window, I am able to view a pool here at my complex.  Well, what do you say there is a hot guy cleaning the pool..

As I am watching him with the pole (wishing it was his)to clean the pool, it got me thinking..What is it about a man that really excites me.

Well for me I am very visual woman but many things excite me.

A man with dark hair, blonde hair, grey hair does it really matter? It what's in the brain that truly matters.

A man with a hot athletic body?  Well us woman would be stupid if we didn't say hell yes...However, I have met some mighty fantastic men who are true gentlemen who are not athletic built anymore.  It's what's in the brain that truly matters.

A man with olive skin or fair skin?  Nah don't really care about that either. However, I will admit to preferring someone who has very soft skin. Being that I have soft skin, it's nice to rub up against each other and spoon when you are not rubbing against coarse hair or skin.  However, it really is what's in the brain that truly matters.

On that note, to me, if you can treat me like a lady and stimulate my brain, you are a winner to me.  Can you touch my gentle spots in such a way that will leave me tingling all over?  Can you talk dirty to me to get me all warmed up inside?  Can you be real appreciative of what you have in front of you?  Again, it's in the brain that matters.  I truly love being around a true gentleman that appreciates the warm, softness, yet flirty sensual side of a true woman.

Any opinions???

but I agree with you Bella, it's all about the guys big head

It's not creative writing or a game of wit.

Kisses Haley

Brain that is. I'm blessed to have both sides pretty well developed being both an Engineer AND a performer; my IQ, for what its worth, tested well into MENSA range before I destroyed so many brain cells in the 60's (lol) - but so was Albert Einstein. He was both a Physicist and an accomplished violinist.  

My body used to be very athletic as well with track & field & baseball, but you'd never know that now to see me; although I'm certainly not a gargoyle and ladies usually peg me at 15 or more years younger than my true age (thank you God!)  

What is funny is that I am MUCH luckier with the ladies now than then; both provider & civie.  Maybe its experience, a high confidence level (not arrogance which I may have had when younger) & a genuine interest in & love of women.  Doezs that explain it Bella?

love me some spooning that leads to forking...dang I am getting myself all worked up again....

having a confidence without arrogance says ALOT....I am told all the time that I have a sensual side to me that is just totally amazing.  Plus, even though I am truly 47 1/2, I easily get mistaken for 35 or so in person....I agree thank God...Taking care of oneself and genetics plays a huge role in this.

Now on the flip side, I believe your interest in women will send me over the edge...Boy I can't wait for that.......

Can I come watch him clean the pool too?

I so agree!  The best sex has always been ‘between the ears’ – if an encounter can start off with good conversation (longer than 20 minutes), what follows becomes even better!

This year I decided to ‘erase the white board for the last time’.  That decision was not an easy one to make as I was teaching and lecturing through the US on a weekly basis which afforded me the opportunity to meet a lot on interesting people.  When my schedule permitted, I would often ‘cast my net upon the waters’ in the city I was visiting and very carefully selected a companion.

Just as providers are careful with whom they choose to spend time with, I was as well.  I would start by ‘looking’ on various local boards, see an ad or post that was obviously written by someone with (or appeared to have) more than two brain cells.  Then, after a brief e-mail relationship with questions like, ‘tell me a bit about yourself other then what you have posted on your site’, or ‘what do you look for in a person with whom you choose to spend time with’?  Based on their responses (and not many came back at that point), I would make a selection and book a minimum of two hours – the first hour or so would center around ‘just talking’ about any and everything!  It could be any subject from the weather outside to politics, the economy or religion.  The subject did not really matter, what mattered was we both were establishing a ‘comfort level’ with each other – Also, one of my ‘initial questions’ was ‘what do you like to much on and drink?’  I made absolutely sure I had that on hand when she arrived.  

What started off as a two hour encounter usually lasted 3 or sometimes 4 hours!  Of course I would add additional monies as (hate this word) ‘tips’ (acronym for ‘To Insure Prompt Services’).  Surprisingly enough I was told many times that was not necessary and twice was told to ‘save it for next time we meet’!

So, in short, get to know you ‘playmate’ on a mental level, stimulate them and most importantly, listen to ‘them’ and what they have to say – I have had the pleasure to meet some very, very interesting ladies over the years.  I truly enjoyed what I did and even though my lectures and classes catered to very, very ‘high end software design and development’ – I came across some of the most intelligent and engaging people outside the classroom!

We can get into trouble by ourselves peeking out the window.

Or we should go on the porch and invite him upstairs.   hehe