I'm sure this happens to most of the guys here:  you're sitting at work & you get a text msg (out-of-the-blue) from a provider you haven't seen in a while.  The msg is something to the effect of 'Lets get together'. I think this can be a smart play for a provider.

Last week I got a 'Lets-get-together' message from a provider I didn't plan on seeing again. And the previous day my ATF had cancelled on me (the agony!).  So guess who I saw that day.  

In my case, the provider who sent the text msg already had a room, there was nothing to set up, all I had to do was drive over there. I know this girl isn't in love with me, but it was a nice gesture, and she made it so easy.  Just a smart play by her--one text msg and she got my ATF's envelope.  --z

its ok to do that guys? i never text or call previous friends. i will email if that was orginal contact. i perfer to let them see my ad and decide for themselves. and besides who would save contact info.  i try to forget and disgard that stuff

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text messages can be fun... phone calls are a little more intrusive... but if it's not good to talk, I let it go to voice mail...

most guys though, I think will want the privacy... .02

As mentioned earlier, if it's a text message it's good all around and you can get away with it as long as you don't do it on a regular basis and as long as you stop doing it after trying it twice and never getting any sort of reply. Sort of the whole taking the hint thing.

Lakeysha, the problem with e-mail: in most workplaces, e-mail traffic is monitored.  You could access a private HotMail account at work, but I think there's still some risk there.  

A text message sent to a privately-owned cell is more discreet.  So if you wanted to contact a client during working hours, it's safer to text him than to mail him.

And I'm surprised you don't save contact info on your clients. I don't see a problem in sending a text to a client.  But as Alucard mentioned earlier, if you get no response after a couple of messages, move on.   --z

Well,

I know that in the car business, for instance, that it's essential to keep customer callback info, for service requests, and "the resell."

For Providers, it certainly SHOULD apply, but... There's a delicate balance of intent and commonality, no? I mean, most of us are equipped and happy to recieve such a sales pitch "out of the blue," but then again, a selective few would find ANY contact intrusive. What's a lady to do? In most cases, I think you'll find that it's more safe and prudent to wait until your client gives the "buy sign" a second time, or a third, and et cetera.

Now, for me, I like to check up occasionally with Providers that I know and like (and there are a few that I have never met or engaged professionally, RIGHT OR WRONG). I've been criticezed for doing so, but hey--I insist on some level of friendship and/or "likeability" on the part of my favorite Providers, and I've found that the overall experience is enriched by that approach. For the one who thought I was "wasting her time," I know I'm regularly in contact with four who seem glad to hear from me, and hope to get together sometime, when we're convenient.

So, no--I wouldn't mind a callback, at all! However, I just don't think it's that common in the hobby, and I'd be surprised if very many hobbyists reported that it was so. And that's a shame, to an extent: I mean, really. Why can't we be friends, no? Selah.


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Bobbo

Z- I prefer the provider's who do not contact you. They leave the ball in our court. If we want to see them they know that we will initiate contact. Privacy is respected and we don't feel any pressure......Luke

I can understand why some guys don't want to be contacted.  And there's risk here if you forget to clear your messages--always use a hobby phone.

My SO knows nothing about the 'two call system', but she could piece it together quickly if she had seen a 'Lets Get Together' msg, followed by a hotel name, then finally a room number.  Try explaining that away. --z

It is pressure on a fellow to give me some money if I call him.  and I feel it is not good business practice to possibly (and probably) make a fellow feel uncomfortable.

My opinion is that we are here for YOU.  Unless you have clearly set the boundary to be otherwise.

I hope my vivacious personality and the great time you had while we are together will keep me on your mind.  If I fade from memory that quickly maybe I need to improve my service -- not call you up asking for a 'visit' *ie: your cash*
 

of course this depends on the 'relationship' the two have. Frequent flyer buddies certainly a little email, text or phone call between visits is flirty and fun... and when initiated by her, very flattering. But then I'm single, the ladies know it... and they know if I'm in business situation the phone call goes to VM.

On the other hand, someone I've not seen in awhile - a personal direct contact by any method seems a bit odd to me if it's to drum up BCD time... and usually I get the feeling she needs money, or things are slow... if she needs a friend to talk to though, I'm there... that seems to be who I am.. lol

i don't call or text them simply because you don't know whos looking at whos phone if they leave it say on the 'office desk" or "on the dresser at home" not thinking .  trust me my mom has picked up my phone a time or too, just to call 411.  also its plausable to believe that this is a hobby and hobbist should feel free to hobby with whomever he wish.  call me again great!!! if not take care sweety and have fun!  i usually have alot of repeats and they love the fact that i'm not calling them in the middle of a meeting or their kids softball game and god besides if law enforement (knock on wood) i dont want to expose myself or anyone i have ever.  lol, that like keeping a log like that madam lady that got busted in dc

I was trying to 'ditto what' ALEA said.

Hope you all had a great Easter!

Jas

Hobbiest is it ok to call, e-mail send text?
I try to leave a web site ,post, and a phone #..
Message on phone What city, state, times available..It's hard to please everyone
April  Washington DC 20th-26th
May 13th-16 Houston
May 27-29 Dallas
The proublem comes up when a web site is down,
When is it ok  for a provider to e-mail, call text Hobbiest?

Tabatha, if you think you have good chemistry with a client, I believe it's o.k. to text or e-mail him later on.  

A phone call tends to be intrusive (my rule: I don't call a provider unless I'm seeing her that day, within a few hours).  Text msg is my preference since e-mail is typically monitored in the workplace.

And I'll tell you something that you already know: men are vain creatures, & we like to think that you really want to see us.  Here's what's tempting: you already have a room, you have some free time, and you were just wondering if I can get away.  It's hard for me to think about anything else when I get a message like that. --z

See?

There you go again: "Use a hobby phone." Zangari, some men DO NOT HAVE A 'HOBBY PHONE,' you nitwit.

Many of us simply manage our affairs, and our phones, and don't need your bloody unwelcome advice...who's with me, here?

I swear on Willie Nelson AND the Alamo, I'm doomed to be kicked off of this fine board, because YOU CAN NOT LEAVE PEOPLE THE HELL ALONE. Godamighty, but you're a chore, man! lol


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Bobbo