I see in many posts the providers prefer older men. Is this really true or do we just have more $$$?
From a provider's prospective it's win-win. We do tend to have more disposable income and are least likely to create problems. Notice how you will also hear cries for being drug free and alcohol free. I am sure they get their share of hassles, but then again, this is how they make a living and despite cries from the less popular ladies, some do very well.
Beside those reasons listed, we generally are "one cup of coffee" guys and you know they try to get you off right away and give off "we can get you going again in a while" talk knowing that it probably won't occur. Same price, less work.
I think what it is, is that most older gents are more respectful. Not to say the younger ones aren't, by no means...
A younger gent is more likely to want to progress things quickly which is fine, but not perhaps the relaxing time the provider was looking to have.
It is nice to sit back like old friends and chit chat first, it makes the getting down and dirty more personal(I also know that it makes me feel like I can let go more with my guest). Older gents are more likely to let the appt flow...
Thus the preferance is born.
DISCLAIMER*** I do say some, many, or more likely and NOT all, and will happen so please do not think I am trying to generalise. I do know however that is how most of the GFE ladies think.
I just demand a man respect me and try to make me feel good too... That is just my demanding ass though!!
"It is nice to sit back like old friends and chit chat first, it makes the getting down and dirty more personal(I also know that it makes me feel like I can let go more with my guest). Older gents are more likely to let the appt flow..."
My now retired ATF always did the chit chat thing first. I hated that. I had looked forward to the appointment for days and I can do two things at once. I can chit chat while my hands are exploring. 
You guys complain when they are, you complain when they aren't. Please make up your minds!
I didn't say I wanted slam-bam. I said I wanted the session to start when she arrived. I didn't consider sitting in chairs fully clothed a part of foreplay. It was just my least favorite part of the session. It was always a two hour session and I NEVER complained because she was quite reasonable with the rate, but if I had my druthers, the chit-chat would have taken place in a different room.
Did you ever stop to think that her asking how things are going with you is part of her warming up? Interaction BESIDES the physical is part of the session for many ladies.
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I can only speak for myself, but I always enjoyed chatting with Sage. I always knew at some point she would grab my hand and lead me back to her bedroom...the small wait heightened the enjoyment. It depends on how you look at it...with me it was a plus. I am mid 40s so not too old yet
They like older gents more since older gents will be happy with a lame ass massage and one cup, where we yout's are ready and demanding of our two or three cups. Roar! heh :p
I have had some HOT experiences with guys in their 60's. IMO guys don't really hit their sexual peak until their 50's. I have had some really erotic sessions with older gents. They have more confidence in bed, know what works, know what they want, and come up with some of the most wicked roleplays around. And yes, they can go more than once. Though usually not twice in an hour because the rounds last longer. 
Not to bash the younger guys, but I'd take a 50+ year old any day over a guy in his 20's.
Though maybe I was just warped when my professor seduced me...he called me last week to tell me school was back in session...methinks he wants a visit LOL. If the desk in his office could talk...
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Wedo okay, but sexual peak, hardly. I am sure you are trying to pay a compliment, but I doubt any man in his 60s wouldn't like to have the virility of his 20s back. IMO, what you are suggesting has a lot to do with how the older guys treat you. Sure, some of us can pound you, but not like a 20 Y.O. who knows what he's doing.
But that's the trade off. How to explain it.... younger guys are more ummm athletic in bed, but usually klutzier at what they are doing. Older guys take their time, tend to last longer and have more of an innate erotic streak.
I hope I explained it ok. SexySophia got my drift.
I agree with Olivia! Guys start to be better lovers after 35-40 and they just get better with age I think. They know what they want and are not afraid to communicate it----thats a big turn on for me! tell me harder, faster, slower, gentler! Older guys tend to lavish attention and touching --- they warm up like women, slowly and more passionately
All young guys don't think like you do, thank goodness!
Ofcourse I can only speak for myself, but I'm 87 years old, and when I take out my teeth and start gumming their nipples and their pussies, I drive them girls crazy !! Not only that, but when the old joy stick gets arroused, I've got less wrinkles down there than some 70 year old punks. The trouble is I have to take so many Viagra's, the fuckin medication ends up costing more than the session !!
I love the way your gums feel on my nipples. Instead of highandtight, you should call yourself lowandloose. LOL.
You see, you've helped to fulfill certain needs I have as a result of being deprived as a child. When I was a baby, my mother thought I was so ugly, she breast fed me through a straw. By the way, did you find my teeth? I think I left them in a glass on the sink after our last session.
Yes. I have your teeth here. I've been using them as a paper weight.
Does anyone know where I can find a provider that can remove her teeth for a gumjob? This has been my Holy Grail. I'm 46 years old, but I'm old in hobbyist years. I'm willing to pay extra for the subsequent PolyGrip application. This is not a joke. It is in good humor, but a serious fetish.
YakYak: if you were really a "mature" man, I would think that you would not have to ask the question. Those of us who have reached a certain age realize that the mental/emotional/spiritual connection with a lady is even more significant than the physical connection. Even though the money gets me in the door, the lady knows that I am honored by the opportunity to share a moment in time with her.
My age? Remember well the Eisenhower Freeway being built.
I believe you're on target to a point, but there is more to it than that.
People are in the hobby for different reasons. I am "mature" age wise and mature in mind, but I don't seek providers for the mental/emotional/spiritual connection at all. I seek them only for the physical. For mental/emotional/spiritual I look for a real relationship with a woman who'll be there for the long haul... not just a few hours.
Am I honored by the opportunity to share a moment in time with her? Not when I have to pay for it. I had a session with a lady once and when it was over, she invited me to stick around and hang out with her. Four hours later we finally parted and I thought it was a great time. I paid for the hour and got an hour of sex. The other four were just two people gabbing it up for a while laughing and joking and I enjoyed it almost as much as the session. Was I honored that she slept with me? No, I paid for it. She slept with me for my money. Was I honored she asked me to stick around and keep her company? Very much so, I wasn't paying for that so she was legitimately interested in me.
I find that most of the hobbiests like me (those who do this only for the sex) don't post on forum's like this and that most of the posters here who crave the emotional/mental/spiritual seem to have a void in their life. Maybe its a poor assumption on my part, but I just can't fathom why someone would pay money for simple "companionship". Perhaps its just that they don't have enough self confidence to approach a woman and say "Hi what's your name?".
I dunno, but I think age and maturity have nothing to do with each other in this hobby. There are just as many older asshole clients as there are younger. I think it comes down to the fact that younger men expect more out of a session physically than the older clients. They want the wild, standing on your head sex that they see in porn videos. They want an hour appointment to be 60 minutes of thrusting and humping. They aren't interesting in talking because they can do plenty of that in bars trying to pick up women.
I knew a provider who told me she preferred older clients and wouldn't see anyone under 35. Six months after she retired I found her profile on Match.com (a dating website). She was seeking only to meet men under the age of 30. This only leads me to believe that (at least in her case) she connected mentally/emotionally/spiritually with younger men, but wanted older clients because it was less work for the money.
The one thing I've learned in 9 years of this hobby is that everyone has their own preference and that there are hundreds of different reasons why people are in this hobby. Of the many involved there are hundreds of different expectations. I've learned to not waste time trying to understand the why or what for... jrather just focus my energy on finding who will provide me with what I am specifically looking for.
Ditto, Ditto. I thought I had "befriended" a particular lady; we had several dates before this happened. Anyway, our appointment was for 6PM right after work for me and on the way home. She told me she was hungry so I suggested that we had dinner together and in that way there we be no rush. I also asked if she had anyone going with her. Well, her reply was that sure I could come take her to dinner(and pay for it) and also pay her normal rate for an hour. I declined, told her I still wanted to have our session, but since then, she's on my no call list because one should never feign interest in another person if that interest is only when the pay envelope is present. I thanked her for waking me up and now even if I asked, I decline. Guys, these ladies are emotionally unavailable for anything other than sex and that is if you got the dough. For those of you who share more, that's great. But ask them for credit and see if your stock doesn't go down in a hurry.
Handsfree:
I've extended "credit" before. In fact, I've extended it several times and have been burned each and every time. Now, if I have a particularly satisfying time with someone in this hobby, the clock becomes moot. I wish I were more emotionally unavailable, but I'm not. I sometimes wish I didn't wear my heart on my sleeve, but I do. I would much rather have emotional depth than be emotionally (and otherwise) vapid.
So, in a nutshell, I guess it depends on what you're looking for in this hobby. GFE is popular because people are apparently looking for more than a wham, bam, thank-you ma'am experience. In my world, GFE means conversation, genuinely getting to know the other person, sharing more than just the physical side of yourself with them, and then ultimately sharing more. It's all about perspective.
Please, be careful the next time you generalize. Not everyone who chooses this occupation is emotionally vapid. In fact, I'd say very few of us are. Most of us are quite the opposite, but we're concerned for our safety and privacy as much, or more than you are. Stalkers are really not very fun.
Meg
Megan,
I'd re-read the thread. If you are what you say then you truly are a rarity. We were discussing what goes on outside a session and if your compadres were totally honest, they would tell you what they tell most of the guys; "it'll cost you."
Hello:
If I may interrupt the Chicago bantar to add my two cents, I prefer an unrushed, conversation-friendly GFE type of experience. With the older gentlemen, I notice they don't watch the clock and neither do I. They enjoy the conversation, the get-to-know-you chit chat, the passion and romance of holding hands and cuddling, snuggling and smooching. I can't say I have ever had a single appointment NOT run over, and I prefer it that way.
With some of the younger gents, they're a little nervous and always worried about how much time is left. They aren't necessarily big on chit chat and don't necessarily much care about holding hands and the passionate intimacy that goes along with a GFE experience.
I myself prefer gentlemen who are a generation or two older than I am. I think I learn something from every single encounter I have and I love the experience. I've had friends who've fought in WWII with whom I can talk planes, friends who lived through Viet Nam who have told me all about their experiences there (which helps because my dad went but will not talk about it), I've also had some great discussions about how sex and relationships have changed through the decades, and since I used to work in Space and Missile Defense as well as in the technology field, I've had other great conversations, too.
So, there is more to it than money for me. Is that a motivating factor for remaining a part of this world? Absolutely. But, I'll take a nice, older gentlemen with some life and experience, both in and out of the bedroom any day over a guy who wants to come in, pop 6 times and never learn that my favorite color is blue and my favorite food is italian. There's more to GFE than multiple cups, french kissing and BBBJ, isn't there? I think so!
Back to your regularly scheduled programming!
Megan
met, I think you a very sweet and most considerate person, and I truly appreciate that wonderful post of yours. I just want to say, that from my experiences in this hobby, your attitude actually prevails in this industry. Since becomming active in this hobby almost three years ago, I can honestly say that I have never met so many kind, caring and wonderful ladies. Sure we pay for our pleasures, but my experiences have been that most providers go above and beyond the call of duty. Someone said you can't get credit, hell, I've gotten free bees on my birthday. I always pay for an hour, and get more. I can't believe the great friendships I've developed with most of my regular providers. Perhaps that's the secret, when you see someone consistantly, you get a chance to develope a real friendship. I love talking with the ladies, and even though the session may run for an hour, I usually get to stay way past that. I often take my providers out to breakfast, lunch, or dinner after a session, and never have to pay for the extra time. I have one provider that I've known for a year now, that has become my best friend. Yes, I pay for the hour, but when I see her she makes sure I'm the last for the day. We talk for two or three hours, have the session, talk more, then go out to eat, or even just for a drive. She even occasionally makes me dinner when I visit her, and our visits usually last for 5 or 6 hours. I'm not stating this to brag, but I belive that as an older guy, (no I'm not a toothless 87 year old) my attitude is to appreciate the women I see, not only for what they do, but for who they are, and once a friendship is established, the conversation and just being together is just as important as the sex, if not even more so. We as men often fall in love with the women we see, not in an obsessive or even romantic way, but in our feelings for them. It would be hard to have such an intimate experience with someone, and not fall for them, especially if you see them more than a couple of times. I can honestly say that I have never had more fun, or met nicer people than I have since becomming a hobbyist. All that being said, I also have corresponded with many guys who post on this board, and although I've never met any of them personally, I consider most them as friends. Sour grapes may occasionally find it's way into this hobby by both providers and clients, and maybe some of it deservedly so, but I think the upside to this industry is overwhelmingly positive.
I don't even bother with anybody under about 35 or so. They are just plain inexperienced! They need to go out and get some experience and then come see me!
I've had a couple guys in their 20's who constantly bugged me for dates, "cute guy specials", you name it!
Gimme the man, the real man, who wants to have some fun, play around, and then go home, happy, to his wife! I am being a little fecicious, but I mean it too. Love, Beth xoxo