I am only really taken by and enjoy it from men whom are genuinely very into it, take their time, and are practiced. (I require an immense amount of stimulation to orgasm from DATY). Once, after having a lover daty, I commented on how much I enjoyed it and how good it felt. He responded with something along the lines of, "Well, if I take care of you, then you'll be more inclined to take care of me." For some reason, I found this statement to be a turn-off, and somewhat insulting. As long as I am compensated adequately at the beginning of our date, I always bring my A game, so to speak, and do everything I can to insure my partner is elated... regardless of my own pleasure, which really comes from giving to my partner. Reciprocity is always appreciated, but not with ulterior motives.