I also feel like a common tactic in asking for BBFS is to say “so many other people are doing it” when that may or may not be the case. This person was trying to use your naivety of the term to his advantage, as many providers know what PSE is not something that requires BBFS.
Yes there is discrepancy over what exactly it means, but honestly it’s fairly intuitive - a lot raunchier of a time than GFE.
Some ladies choose to further define it as other things; I have a write up on my site of what different experiences mean to me for clarity on my definition:
“You can rest assured I am armed with a loaded toy box, a closet full of racy outfits and sexy costumes, a very dirty mouth, and an exploratory spirit- all signs that things will get interesting very quickly.
These experiences are great for people who are interested in any or all of the aforementioned; if you enjoy trips to the Mediterranean isles, an additional woman (or man!) in the bedroom, groups, role play, sensual foods, water sports, or any other things, this is also for you.”
Whenever someone asks for BBFS, best practice is to decline then delete and block their number. Even people who ask about CIP and cream pie. I feel these people are unsafe. My fear with people who ask about these things is that they are boundary pushers- even if I were to see them, who is to say that they wouldn’t “stealth” me instead (pulling off the condom during sex) or deliberately try to ruin condoms (thereby costing me money). I don’t deal with clients who I have to watch carefully instead of enjoying my time with them. And I like to watch the equipment slide in and out of me, I would be absolutely horrified if I looked down and couldn’t see the condom