Maybe its just me but I do prefer phone contact as it tells me a lot about who's calling if you start the call off with " What's your rate.... are you free or available instead of introducing your like a real person would do, chances are I am already booked another one is " yeah I saw you on the interenet " could that be anymore impersonal? Just say something nice like I see your in town welcome to our city or loved your pics something to put me at always wrks for me .......just a thought.... thank you and I do understand sometimes it just a case of nerves when calling but relax we are just like you regular people....thanks for listening
it is always nice when someone familiar calls because then they actually say things that are more personal and I know are geared toward me and not just a girl they found on the net that they may of may not even know the name of.
You know the one that KILLS me, I mean totally slays me every time. When I get a call and the gent asks immediately "Who is this?" All I can ever think to respond with is who did you call? 4 out of 5 times they claim they just quickly wrote down my # and forgot to put my name. If I do give them my name(sometimes I won't, generally it is a sign of a time waster that is never in a million years going to pass my screening) the next question is always about my gifting which is a huge no no. Also a HUGE turn off for me. Don't get me wrong the idea of getting paid for getting laid is really hot to me and I lust it as much ass the appendage I am receiving BUT talking about it with someone I have no idea who he is is going to kill it below the belt.
Another that makes me laugh every time is one you point out "Are you Free?" Really? Best response by far is "Never Free but available, Yes." or no as the situation deems fit. Using that wording with a pro is on all kinds of levels hilarity at it's finest.
We are normal people, please when you call don't treat us like we are a pizza delivery service. If you want Fillet then treat us like you are ordering Fillet, make the effort. If you order us up like pizza 30mins or less, you are going to get not quite ready, possibly rushed, and certainly not up to the Fillet standard.
great post you said it perfectly and its true when they have a list of # and do not even know which one you are another side-note for hobbiest please do not tell me your first two choices fell through and thats why your calling me no one wants to hear that would you ?
I do understand most have a preference for the phone, but I tend to like e-mail because I usually set up my appointments for a day or more in the future and it's way easier for me to send my RS2k via e-mail than to try and say it over the phone... I have a weird last name with a lot of similar-sounding letters in it and I always have to spell it out for people, even when they're right in front of me... but on top of that the way the letters are pronounced is also similar so when I say them to someone I always have to repeat myself 3 or 4 times before they understand it. It becomes even worse when there's a bad cell phone connection, or if I'm speaking to a woman for whom English is not her first language.
Just my 2 cents and why I like e-mail, at least inintially.
Due to my circumstances, I have to make appointments three or four weeks in advance. Then I can head out for a "planned" meeting or presentation. (Working from a home office can be a pain at times.)
But in the circumstance described, I can visualize a lady responding with:
"Of course I'm free. I've been sitting around with my makeuo on, in a glamourous gown, all day just waiting for you to call.
Why not come over and call me from your car. I just have to put away the groceries, wash the dishes, tidy-up, shower and retouch whatever makeup and hair may have gotten messed up. You won't mind sitting in your car for a while -- say an hour or so -- while I finish up being free for you."
I personally have had numerous times where a guest calls and is in the same town or is driving by my incall. I mean there is nothing I can do since I don't live there, and for some reason past guests forget this. It would be nice if everyone were able to give 1hr plus notice, but unfortunately it doesn't always happen.
.....I always make arrangements about two weeks out when traveling on business. The downside to planning so far in advance has been that when the day I planned for comes, more often then I care to mention, my chosen date has car trouble, has come down with something, or just suddenly can't make it that evening - in spite of the fact that I always plan for 2 hours now - (to try to eliminate the - "a longer engagement came up for tonight and I can blow you off because I don't know you" problem). It usually happens the morning of the appointment - and I'm left scrambling because I haven't made a backup plan so I'm suddenly thrust into a situation where I have to find whoever happens to be available for outcall on short notice if I want to entertain.
It does bugs me a bit because I always pick very carefully, those that I what to see - because I have a specific sweetspot for a type I like to connect with - and many times I don't get to see who I really would like to. They are busy or just not working that day now!
I do understand it if you are sick, then your sick! It happens. I can usually tell by the tone of your "I'm sorry to do this" email though and too often I get the feeling they just decided to take the day off. Oh well, it is just a business - I do understand that more now!
I have to say though ..... I did meet the original poster from one of those cancellations, and she was awesome! Remember what I said about white popcorn?
1. When I call a provider I haven't seen before, I say a clear opening statement like, "Hello, my name is [insert real or "stage name"] and I'm wondering if you have availability [specify date and time]."
2. Introduce something about yourself so you aren't just a weird heavy breathing voice making a crank call. "I'm a 55 year old retired salesman from Iowa." At least make up something if you are paranoid about telling something truthful; it's courtesy to say something like this to break the ice even face-to-face at a cocktail party. Otherwise you're an annoying telemarketer or a horny 11 year old boy who has just discovered the phone for the first time.
3. When the provider asks how you found them, then say "I saw your ad on TER or Eros or Cityvibe."
4. Be prepared to name specific providers you've seen before - the "class" of the other providers instantly conveys key information to the provider you're calling. Otherwise be ready to have a service (rs2k or equivalent) as your verification.
5. Be nice. Be nice. Be nice. Be nice. You aren't calling your heroin dealer for a fix - you're calling a person and asking them to do something intimate with you.
6. Don't haggle or negotiate price. You can ask if they're running any specials at the moment; if they're not then drop it.
That's how I suggest handling the initial conversation.
..... my response is always "I'm never FREE honey but I can let you know if i'm available....or not". lol
It usually gives them a good laugh to. And as long as "are you free" isn't the only thing they have to say I probably won't let it grind my gears too much.