I posted this on the In Search Of board but didn't get many responses. My girlfriend recently told me not much is happening for her during intercourse due to a size mismatch (yeah... down there). I'm joe average and she is quite large there despite the fact she is a petite girl. I'm looking for a warm, caring provider to teach me anything I can do to maximize what I've got and pleasure this girl who the Kama Sutra would probably term an "elephant" lol. I really want the relationship to work but it seems we have a big problem.

you can try using a large strap on. I have never used it myself and don't know how it will fit on a guy with all the other moving parts, but I sure it can be worked out.

The other option is a G-Spot or clit massage with your fingers. Or G-spot massage with your middle and ring fingers and simultaneous clit massage with your thumb or tongue.

If she likes full body contact during orgasm (many women do as it provides a feeling of security during surrender and a complete possession of each other) then the strap on route is the best.

Finally check if she is suggesting a group sex or swinging. Depending on how you feel about such activities you are either a very lucky or unlucky guy.

some women never come from the actual sex.  Learn with your mouth and your fingers find her spot.  Once you find it you might be able to work with her with her in top to be able to manipulate that spot during the act...  Size doesn't really matter about having the big Oooo, positioning does and maybe a vibe on the nubbin

Lol asiantantric neither one of us are swingers, definitely not what she's suggesting. Sage, I can always get her off with my mouth, and she did tell me that she never really cums from intercourse, but she also told me it just doesn't feel as good as what she'd like. She told me this is not that important to her, but she also mentioned vaginoplasty (!) so obviously it has some importance to her. I will try some clit stimulation during sex but I'm also interested in some things I read about trying to move in a circular motion instead of just the old in 'n out.

I am sure anyone of us Bi- providers could help you hit the right spots plus toys if she is into that.

I would need more information or a conversation about wants and needs of both of you.

Kisses
JC

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