Ok folks - major violation here. Saw someone regularly over an extended period. Discounts were offered, gifts were purchased, travel was enjoyed, a good time was had by all (well ok, for me I know) but as the saying goes all good things must come to an end. 

During this period wasn't seeing very many others - so my reviewing activity was silent. When this engagement ended and I started reviewing, I get a PM from one of her other Clients, he had been burned by her and had posted a rant but at the time I figured it was a case of YMMV. Several PMs exchanged, I offer to meet this guy for a drink and hear him out. 

We meet - and he knows EVERYTHING about me. Shows me texts, email, personal information of mine that she shared.  He knows details about how i fund this habit. He has Emails where she trash talks me, is pissed about discounts she put out there to begin with, bragging about lies she's told me, cancellations ("well i fucked him good!") etc. In contrast, while I knew of his existence, she was infinitely more discreet about his information than vice versa. 

He also shares about her addiction to blow, her binge drinking, etc. Sour grapes on his part (ended poorly for him) maybe, but at this point given what he knows about me, and how my LTR with this Provider ended, he's got more credibility than she does in my book. 

So now the dilemma - I've got a 10/10 review of her associated with me, as does he. Both written early on in the LTR before all of this surfaced. She's threatened him if he messes with her biz, and has inferred similar retribution to me if I disparage her on any boards (hence I am no where near Chicago and the alias) and yet some other schmuck is going to read my 10/10 and get sucked down that rabbit hole?

Lessons learned, better hobbying in the future but at the same time, wow, buyer beware. Bottom line I've approached TER about removing her review - party line response that it becomes "their property" yada yada yada. I rewrite it to reflect how the LTR ended versus started, and what, she calls the wife? Blacklists me? (not that I care - other Providers that I've repeated with and happy to continue.)

I read some Client posts and I think "wow man - this guy is heartless. His attitude towards Providers is cold and cynical.". But now, I'm leaning in that direction - or at least I have a better understanding. 

Violated!

you share this gal's name with the board.  I understand your trepidation to "out" her given that you may have given her WAY too much info, and she can create even more drama in your life.  But if you care to PM me, at least we can spread the word on this gal and her manipulations through the back channel approach (heck...that seems the best way to approach so many of these types of stories).

And as far as any further communication with this gal...I would put her on my "ignore" lists on every media that I have and move on to better times!

Providers are giving hobbyist information confidentially and should never share this information  betray this trust out of malice.   This creates mistrust within the community

I am truly sorry that this happened to you

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It would be better served if the gal was named. Nevertheless I understand your hesitation but feel free to PM me the information so she can be avoided.

Anytime drugs come into play in this industry people get hurt.
I am sorry you got burned . Good will come back to you
you sound like a generous man who treated her wonderfully.

So, ok I feel your pain as you feel you've been betrayed in the LTR. That my friend is an entirely different situation than what TER is designed to be.

I'll explain. You've stated your problem 'I've got a 10/10 review of her associated with me'

So was that review a lie? Did you only give her the '10/10' because of a vested interest with her in the LTR? Would it have been a lesser score if not for the LTR?

OR:

Was that actual session (in your opinion) a Once in a Lifetime session? Was it better than any sexual encounter you could have ever imagined? With the most beautiful woman ever in your life?

You see my friend, when you post a 10/10 you can't go back later and say 'Well yeah it was good but she really turned out to be a bitch later, and I was just trying to help her out, and I found out she did the same thing to another guy'.

That's not why we're here. What we want to know about is that individual moment in time. That particular session you had with her.

99.9% of us will never want to have a LTR with her. The .1% will probably learn the same lesson you did but.......

The other stuff is for a different forum.

Chiguy

If anyone needs to know this providers name you can pm me, it's not a question of sour grapes this young lady violated everything  we do, I have had the pleasure of seeing many fine upstanding ladies all over this great country, never should any hobbyist or provider have the trust we put in each other violated. The reason we hobby is  and not date civvies is to avoid this from happening.

I don't care about the lady's name and all that. However, what you've written rings some bells with me about another situation and I have some reading for you as well as personal experience to offer.

Secondly, as far as the 10/10 review... TER review policy allows you to submit a second review for a lady. A subsequent review will replace the current review. The caveat is that you can't put most of the information from your experience there. However, if you recently had an 8/8 experience with her you can submit this and be honest. At the least, it's less advertising for her.

I hear you - and in the end I stand by my 10/10 because it was after our first session together. And as many of you have PM'd me, and you yourself stated, as a one off appointment she will blow you away. Just stay away from repeats.  Of the many lessons I've learned, one is, if you decide to repeat, hold off reviewing.

and HOW the hell do i pm you if you use an alias/?

just asking.

if you would be kind enough to pm ME the info i would appreciate it
thanks