The one hour pay for play escort session is a highly charged event filled with emotion, hormones, and basic human instinct. Two strangers step into a complete unknown and rely on their raw human impulses and intuition to both analyze and discover the other and then attempt to have a positive sexual experience with them, all taking place in a much shorter time frame than would happen naturally. The prevailing instinct that dictates the intensity of the session is attraction. Attraction, however, is a deeply complex paradigm that involves both the conscious mind as well as the subconscious biological life force that controls the involuntary side of human existence. It is through this instinct that a deeper comprehension of these sessions can be reached.
In order to understand attraction, it is imperative to examine it on its most basic level, the physical. There have been many studies completed over time that all reach similar conclusions in what is deemed physically attractive in humans. In men, women generally prefer those who are taller than them, have a high degree of facial symmetry, a v shaped torso and narrow waist, as well as broad shoulders. In women, men gravitate more towards those who are shorter than them, have a high degree of facial symmetry, have full and youthful breasts and lips, and have a low waist to hip ratio. In normal situations, these are the traits that men and women will use as a platform for their attraction and will look to build upon them with emotional experiences that come from social interaction. However, the pay to play session is not a natural situation where this attraction is allowed to be grown with time. The essence of these experiences is determined by a fixed length of time, usually agreed upon before the participants have actually met. Moreover, the session is governed by the expectation that sex will take place, regardless of it. What is interesting, however, is that the attraction formed may have more to do with the situation than the actual attractiveness of the other person.
In 1974, researchers Donald Dutton and Arthur Aron conducted an experiment in order to gage the role of situation on arousal. This experiment, later termed the Bridge Study, placed males on two different bridges, a fear-inducing suspension bridge and a standard non-threatening one. The males were instructed to walk across them and then speak to an attractive female holding a clipboard on the other end. The woman would conduct a brief survey and then she would inform them that she was available for any questions and would give them her phone number. What the study concluded was that the males who crossed the suspension bridge were more likely to feel aroused and more inclined to call the female interviewer than those who crossed the tamer bridge. In other words, attraction was much greater when there was a stress response. With a typical session in America being illegal, coupled with the notion that the client may be married and looking to avoid contact with anybody that would recognize him, those 60 minutes in a hotel room make for an adrenaline filled encounter that will activate those same stress responses on much more pronounced level, thus leading to a surge of hormones being released long before the client has actually entered the room. This surge of hormones will undoubtedly increase the perceived attractiveness of the provider, to a level that perhaps would not occur under a normal pretense.
Attraction, however, does not stop there. The latest research shows that the physical bond between two humans may be much more ingrained than simple stimulus response. In other words, it may be completely out of our control. The Major Histocompatability Complex (MHC) is a group of cell molecules which are present in all vertebrates. They are located on the cell surface and are encoded by a large gene family. MHC plays a major role in the immune system. There is evidence to show that it could also play another role in the human body. In mice and various fish species, MHC is a determining factor in mate selection, meaning that individuals constantly mate with others who have a dissimilar MHC structure, therefore guaranteeing the diversity of the gene pool. What this means is that mice and fish are able to tell which mate is dissimilar to them genetically and, thus a suitable partner. In other words, their bodies are telling them who to be attracted to. A recent study done in the UK speculates that this may very well be the case in humans also, that through taste and smell, the biological engine in the body is activated and thus releases the hormones that are indicative of attraction. Another study shows that birth control pills may not only impede this natural process but actually reverse it, causing females to be attracted to males with similar MHC profiles. What this means for escorting sessions, is that the client and provider may very well proceed with intercourse even if their bodies are telling them not to. And if their bodies are aligned, and the attraction of both the situation as well as the physical characteristics is pronounced, the sex that may occur in this session might very well be deemed better than sex that can be conceived naturally.
What is equally as compelling as the attraction that happens prior to sex, is the one that happens directly afterwards. After orgasm, the body releases two very powerful chemicals in both men and women, and all mammals for that matter. These two chemicals, oxytocin and vasopressin, permanently alter the body chemistry and consequently affect behavior after sex. Oxytocin, in mammals, is responsible for pair bonding. The euphoric feeling that is induced with its release conditions the brain, through repetition, to recognize and seek out their mate. For humans, Oxytocin is what causes the afterglow following sex, the period where the couple feels a compelling closeness and a bond is formed. Each subsequent sexual encounter, reinforces this bond and thus leads to the development of emotional attraction. Vasopressin is just as powerful and compels the male to be protective of his mate and monogamous in nature. Furthermore, it is responsible for jealousy of her when other potential mates are around.
This change in body chemistry, while desirable in monogamous conventional relationships, may very well be detrimental to both provider and client in a no strings attached dynamic. With 39% of surveyed TER members admitting to having fallen in love with a provider, it is quite reasonable to speculate that a similar occurrence has happened with providers falling for clients. Since providers make their living seeing different clients, one could easily see that this level of attraction, on either end, could cause a multitude of problems. What is interesting to ponder is whether or not it is preventable, if the conscious brain can override the genetic instinct ingrained in us since the conception of our species.
In concluding, attraction in the world of paid sexual encounters is an instinct that is ever present, from the initial browsing of potential providers by the client, to the highly influential period after sex which often lasts longer than the session. It is part and parcel with sex for money. Therefore, with a deeper understanding of its principles, both client and provider can attempt to mitigate its risks when attempting to maintain the dynamic that is desirable in the industry. In other words, you cannot outrun your natural biological tendencies, but you may be about to outsmart them, and even learn to control them.
