I contacted a provider through pm here on TER. Through those messages I gave her my RS2K info for verification.  The next day she texted me, unfortunately my dumb ass left my phone at home and my wife intercepted the texts and now things are ugly.

I doubt the provider intentionally texted you to cause you trouble, sounds like she was just following through once you had been verified.

It's your responsibility to keep the evidence of your transgressions covered. Should she have asked if it was okay to text first? Probably. But it's up to you to passcode-lock your phone, turn off SMS previews, etc. By not covering your tracks, you've not only put yourself in a shitty predicament, but the provider as well. For all we know, your wife could end up going ham on the provider, and that sucks (I've only been exposed to a pissed off wife once, but it's something I'd rather not experience again).

If she texted you randomly, that would be one thing.  But since you were in the process of setting something up, this one's on you.  Keep track of your phone, dude.

This is the classic example of why, if you are going to play this game, you need to have a hobby phone that you keep in a secure place.

I don't believe she did it intentionally either.

my dumb ass has been groveling  Also sent flowers.

I'm a big believer in coded text messages for confirmations even  if the fellow has indicated it is ok to call/text via a cell phone.  Most of my clients think it is cute and silly but they all appreciate my extra level of security each and every time I do it.   I can't tell you how many clients have said it is ok to text them and I find out later they forgot their phone, or their SO was very interested in their texts and they are relieved at my extra caution.   For example, I'll text something like "Please confirm your appointment with ComEd by either going online or calling our main number".   And then I or my assistant will email them that I sent the coded confirmation message.  That is an easily explained "wrong number" or an error with ComEd to the SO.  I have a half dozen of these I use just to be careful.   I do also agree that if you are a gentleman in this hobby, you need to be extra careful about knowing where your phone is and I'd stick with the old adage deny deny deny (as in wrong number).  Nobody on our end wants to intentionally cause a ruckus for the fellow.   It is most certainly bad for business so it was probably an innocent error on her part.    

requested we move the conversation to email or text and not stick with it via TER pm.

Hit the nail on the head.

I text w/my ATFs all the time... Sometimes they initiate or vise versa but it's your responsibility to make sure when it's appropriate times to text/call or communicate...., in ur original contact to the providers , you should of stated: do not text/call, only contact me via pm's, I'll get back in touch so until then please no communication of sort.. Etc the list goes on...... We don't know your situation, if ur single married, gay, str8, Bi.... Whatever......... But qWe're just responding to your request on a timely courteous manner....  But as you stated in ur post: your D-Ass left ur phone open for spouse to see.... Don't blame the provider for doing her JOB!!!!   GOOD LUCK!!!

No problem from me. I'm not Married.

If your wife ever finds this site (which could happen since she's suspicious,) she'll see this post and your 20 reviews you've made here and you'll be in the doghouse all over again.

You're a dumbass

If she figures out your user id, and if she backtracks months or years.  lol