I have realized if im in a relaxed state of mind I dont mind a passionate bj but if im stressed out and frustrated I enjoy to take that aggression out a little bit . I do watch a lot of gagging, rimming, drooling porn and I find it very hot but only if the woman is into it as well. I have met women who have asked me to make them gag and enjoy getting cock slapped etc and it turned me on for sure.
I think its because its a request im not used to , its just kinkier and to me its fun dabbling in new acts. I had a gf that one time said "please put it in my ass" and I dont think I have been ever harder in my life just from 5 simple words . too bad she turned out to be a psycho . The same goes for cum in my mouth and stuff like that.....just the request alone can bring me to a higher state of excitement. The sounds of gagging , the look drool falling our just raises the senses for a certain type of guy like myself and it does make you feel like a porn star if only for a few minutes. But also just to make me clear it only does that for me if at the end and during the process shes smiling and is into it otherwise I stop because it no longer becomes fun. Thats a very important line and shouldnt be crossed because then I feel a person gets put in "creepy" category.
At the same time I enjoy the control and at times I like to give control. I enjoy cuffs blindfolds and aggressive bjs but at the same time enjoy being blindfolded and have a woman throw me down and have her way with me. It all depends on my mood.
But ive had woman who have said they enjoy giving aggressive head then when they appear they dont I tone it down because to me its no fun if both arent into it....but if she is into it? well then game on and the sloppier the better.
when it comes to hobbying I do tend to request things I dont get in my everyday life. I get normal bjs and normal sex but the inner kinkster in me enjoys doing some things that dont normally happen in everyday life and thats what im donating for. rimming, aggressive bjs etc.
In conclusion I feel the increase in requests has to fall under 1 form of reasoning
1. want something they dont get in real life and yes the increase in gagging porn has upped the bar for a lot of men like myself.
-l4f