Okay - first - I love these sessions. (Don't get me wrong. I love sex too.)

Mmm... yeah, I'm trying to think of a way to ask. Honestly, if you don't think it's awkward, and say it confidently like you said in the post ... it really won't be a problem. People pick up on other people's vibes.

Mmm. via. email is best because:

1) she'll have more time to react.
2) you won't feel awkward asking.
3) (beforehand) so that she won't enter the session on the 'full-service-mental-track,' and will be prepared for that kind of session you're looking for when you meet up.

Just flat-out write: "I'm not looking for a discounted rate, I honestly just don't want a full-service session [today]. I just want a relaxing time...a lapdance, cuddling, caressing, kissing." or something along those lines.

no sex

different strokes for different folks..this is like paying for full service at a car wash and settling for your windshield being cleaned..makes no sense to me..if i am paying for the full package..i want the full package..

Upon successful screening, I am sure any companion would not have a problem with discussing more in detail how you would like to arrange your time. There are WAY weirder things out there being requested, so you should not feel awkward for your requests.

..And really, it should not matter how other people spend their time; It is about you. Do what you will enjoy.

Believe it or not, there are companions that actually like meetings where she can get to know you rather than the wam-bam-thank-you-Ma'am type scenario - Of course, A mixture of the two can be quite lovely and very enjoyable for both parties!

and I just might soon...I'd still like "Full Service" to be on the menu of coarse but as an option rather than a requirement of having a fun time.

I think this could be a great way to approach a session when a client is a little stressed out and even the worry about performance and "rising to the occasion" could be a concern.

Have you thought about...

just getting a massage and before the session asking her if she would be willing to dance for you? It would be more cost effective and the lady may be up for it! I used to dance at clubs, but it has been a while! I think it sounds like a lot of fun!!!

You should probably find an AMP in Chicago. You will get massage, HJ and full service sex if yoiu want it for $160.

This will save you from wasting your hard earned cash when money is tight these days.

I like to make people happy and if that is what they desire then I do too.  Have to admit sometimes I NEED to get railed but I am not going to MAKE anyone feel obligated unless I KNOW they want to be pushed to do more.   So do I enjoy those kinda dates?  Sure they are fun too!!  Alot of fun and there is so much more then S*X that can happen, there is something about a hot mind F*ck that can leave you diy and reeling too.

Letting the lady know in advance helps, that way she doesn't have any expectations that you will or won't be doing during the time.  No disappointments

They know how to pamper the body and will be cost-effective.

Don't misunderstand me, I love sex in all its many forms--but I've truly *never* understood the idea that penetrative sex is the only *real* kind of sex. Maybe that's because I have sex with women as often as men in my personal life.

And while I do love sex in all its many forms, and want it pretty much all the time, lord knows I don't *need* it all the time. A good provider understands that what we do is about a lot more than putting certain body parts into certain other body parts, and should be perfectly understanding if you say that you're interested in something else.