Not sure what to make of it...

I see an Asian provider that is in town. Had a great time with her. Good enough I arrange to meet her again the following weekend. See her the second time and the sex is really great (for me) I'm assuming she is doing her job and for her it's no big thing. We do seem to hit it off pretty well talking, etc. Due to other plans I don't see her the third week. On the second visit I find out she will be leaving in two weeks. Third week passes, I want to see her but don't because of other plans I have. Fourth week comes along and I have really had the itch to see her again. I call to set it up. I get there on a Friday after work and she mentions she was hoping to see me last week and was happy I was there. Third time the sex is mind blowing (for me) she seemed really into it too but I always just assume it's an act although she didnt seem to be acting and her lower girl parts were at full attention and VERY wet for the entire time we were playing. The third time she pretty much let me do whatever I desired when other ladies do not (NO I DID NOT WANT BBFS). ALL the ladies seem to have one boundary or another that makes them just short of the perfect sexual partner for me. Our third visit I could not have had a better time and was 100% happy. Even to the point I might have to use the term ATF. In fact it was better than with a both of my recent Ex'es. After our romp we talk some more. She says she will be coming back in a few months for another visit. While we are both getting dressed she asks/offers me her personal cell number so we can text and talk and keep in touch. I was caught off guard by this. Never had this happen before. Since I genuinely enjoy her company as well as the sex I say sure. So she digs up her personal phone and we shoot a text back and forth to each other. I text her to say Hi a couple days later. Then again a few days after that to which she replies and we text back and forth for a few minutes. I'm not really expecting anything from her other than to have more great sex when she returns (if I am still single) at her regular rate plus tip cuz she has earned it. Would I hang out with her OTC in a friends type situation? get some food together or something similar to a real date? Yes I enjoy her company and not just in bed, shes nice to talk to. I am curious why she offered me her civvie number when she didn't need to. I had no trouble reaching her on her work number and she already has my cell #. Not sure where she is coming from. Really not looking to make her into my GF but at the same time I would not have a problem hanging out with her OTC doing OTC things. Seems maybe she wants to be pen pals of some sort or become friends at a minimum to make sure I return, which I would return even if she didn't offer me her number. Not sure. Never had a provider offer me her civvie number before. Not sure exactly what to make of it...

TP

She might say:

1. "I want to see you on the side, when I come back, and make more $$$ that way (if she is with an agency/assistant)"

2. "I'm from Asian country, feel alone, and would like to have you as a friend"

3. "I feel like you like me so much because you are my regular and you make me feel so good, so I assumed you want to be more than a client to me, so I thought why not try to be friends"

Women are often misguided by men's sexual affection. She might think if a you want her, YOU ARE falling for her, which is far from reality 99% of a time, in all cases with all men. Without asking her that question "why," you'll keep thinking what you're thinking. You must clear it up for her that you you enjoy her company very much, but you pay her for your moral right to LEAVE her, and wish nothing nothing more from her now or in the future.  

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are you going to compensate her off working time or just a meal / drink treat? For the business, $$$ is matter. If you put same rate as regular or may be lower (discount) rate for OTC, just ask her.

If she wants to see you OTC, fine, but if you're married you should not even be considering this. Once lines are blurred, it's really hard to draw them again.

for God's sake, this is pay for pussy only. i'm with CTP on this.....why do all you think you're get a girlfriend from seeing an escort?
Just don't see her again...you're gonna get screwed if you dive into this probable mess.  
And if you do see her again, and she takes all your money, or screws you out of something else; don't come crying back to this board and write us a novel on how you got screwed over.  
It still amazes me that guys on here get caught up in this crap. Its your fault, she's just doing her job

I wouldn't go that far to hang out and become friends. business and friends do not mix.

happens all the time..sometimes they just want to hang out..ladies love companionship..i have several personal numbers..they trust you enough for you to have it..just dont become become clingy..believe it or not..good companionship and conversation does not have to always include sex..

Thanks for the replies.

I don't have any intention of a relationship with her that would be considered anything other than fuck buddies... Maybe a friendship at best. Would I hang with her and get a drink or a burger or something? yeah but no intent of anything more. I am just curious what her intent might me. Figured a provider or two might chime in, as they have, and offer a possible opinion from what might be a provider's perspective.  This has not happened to me before and caught me off guard. I really didn't expect it. I really didn't think I was giving off that vibe to providers. Been doing this since 2009 and this is the first time a provider has flat out offered me her civvie number. No plans to fall in love here in the P4P world. This is where I go when I'm not otherwise in a committed relationship because I really enjoy fucking hoty's if I have nothing else going on. I'm not married so there is no line there for me to try to redraw. Not reading too much into it is probably the best idea. The marketing aspect from her POV did cross my mind too.

TP

I've had this happen with an asian provider recently. She offered her civie # up after our first encounter. She uses a screener and she said that she gets a lot no shows. I took it for what it was. A direct line to a good time. I think she was under the impression that I would be making weekly visits. She would text or call sometimes out of the blue at some pretty inopportune moments. If I had the opportunity to respond, she was just trying to get me over to her incall, which is fine for a single guy. When I told her I am attached and that I would contact her when I was interested, she seemed fine with it.  

I used her private # several times after that to set up appointments but my usual frequency is once a month or every other month. I think this was not acceptable to her so she stopped taking my calls after a 3 month hiatus during the holidays. So I think if a provider (especially an asian that works for an agency) offers up her personal cell, it's mostly about the business. She knows your a good client, might even like you. But she sees it as an easier and more reliable way to drum up business, especially without the boss knowing about the extra income. Of course I am under the assumption that she is an agency girl, if she's independent my theory could be all wrong.