I had a strange thing happen to me yesterday - thought I would seek some feedback here.  i set up an appointment with someone in the west burbs whom I've seen several times in the past who has a good reputation and many reviews here.  Set the time in advance and confirmed it was the usual place. arrived on time, texted her that I've arrived and please call me when ready with the room number, which is our usual protocol. For safety's sake, with someone I've seen before or someone new, I always like to voice verify before heading up - seems good for peace of mind on both ends.  15 minutes pass and I get a text with the room number, so I call back immediately, no response. Then I text again asking her to please call.  After a couple minutes I get a text with the name and location of a different hotel, not the one she's been using for as long as I've known her.  Strange.  I call again, no answer.  I head to the new place fairly close by and again I text, please call me, stressing again that I'm not comfortable coming up unless she calls, which again has never been a problem in the past. No response. At the 30 min mark I followed up with a text saying if for some reason you are not comfortable calling you could meet me at a side door, but I'm not comfortable coming up without at least hearing a voice on the phone.  radio silence...so I texted her saying sorry but I can't come up if I'm not comfortable knowing who's going to be behind the door.  again no response. Through all of this I was very discreet, never mentioning anything aside from time and place.  So I wasted roughly an hour of time just trying to get her to call me.  

because you've seen her 'several' times already, or so you say. Something sounds a bit fishy if you ask me. I say always go with your gut instinct first no matter what either 'head' is telling you. I personally don't follow suit with any communication other than email and unfortunately if a gentleman struggles with that fact, well them's the brakes I guess.  

I once saw a BP provider, and it was non-eventful session.  Until a week later, when I get a phone call from her number, and it's her boyfriend on the line.  Apparently he was not clued in to her source of income, but he obviously got ahold if her phone and figured it out.  He started calling the numbers in her call history.  You can imagine how upset this guy was.  My point is that it isn't a big stretch to see this scenario turning into what the OP was worried about.  

Your simple request seems perfectly acceptable to me!
I won't meet someone who I haven't talked to on the phone.
Manners and attitude mean a lot to me.
Move on

Your gut said that something strange was going on, and it's better to be safe than sorry.  That goes both ways.   Both parties really do no know who is actually doing the texting.  

Worst case it could be Merry F'en Christmas from Tom Dart and the Boys

but anybody who knows me knows this.  I like to keep the "edge" of not talking first even with people I have seen before. Cause its all about me me ME afterall!

I always have my friends call when they arrive. We can email and text up until that point, but when you park, you call. So I think that there probably was something fishy going on and you avoided trouble.  

But if I knew a dude was stressing like that, I'd call. Or I'd text in my own writing style explaining why I wasn't calling…  

Thanks everyone for the responses - your feedback is valuable and I really appreciate it!

If you've seen her before what does it matter .... I can understand with a new person but if you have seen her several times.. Idk what the problem was??  Maybe she was busy getting hersef perfect for you & couldnt call....My repeat clients I just give them the info & that's that... Someone new of course, phone calls are a must & I don't even give the exact address just the vicinity & then have them call me & direct them to my buzzer & actually await to hear the buzzer before hanging up....

Chances are someone else was in charge of her phone (agency, assistant, pimp) and they didn't want to reveal that the provider was not the one communicating with you.  You handled it correctly IMO, especially after a change in hotel.  That would of put up a big red flag for me.

Another valuable cautionary tale here. It's a shame there have to be so many —but we are dealing with human beings here, after all.

This is definitely a two-way street.

He was being cautious, especially so because of the sudden change in hotel. LE has busted and turned providers into john traps. Not hearing her familiar voice could be worrisome if that was the usual protocol they had established. Even so, LE could put her on the phone to lure him in and have this in the past during local stings.

Eh... If a guy I had seen several times was stressing for an hour over whether or not I would call him, I would honestly get a little spooked as well. Like, there's careful, and then there's "why are they being so insistent?". If I sent a room number and he kept insisting that he spoke to me, I'm not sure I wouldn't move on either, and get a new hotel while I'm at it. You may be normal, but there are a lot of guys who aren't, and it might've been as simple as she felt extra creeped out that day.