If you stated to a provider that you were interested in hints at enhancing your prowess that many would give positive suggestions.

Make that part of your getting to know you conversation.

Hello everybody.  I'm a long time member, but have very rarely posted.   I have a question for everybody, but specifically the ladies out there.  Ladies will never tell a guy when he is bad in bed.   Girls know that guys have very fragile egos when it comes to their prowess.  Even if he's horrible, she'll usually pretend he was the best ever.  Especially in the hobby where the ladies want the guys to feel good, and come back again and again.

I am looking for somebody who is not afraid to hurt feelings, and is willing to be honest about my performance, and better yet - teach me to be better.  I'm looking for somebody who can help me improve my skills.

Does anybody have any recommendations?  I'm in the NW burbs.

If you want to learn how to bake, don't ask the carpenter.  How do you know your skilz aren't fine now? How do you know the critique is a true critique on skills versus processing thru filters, which we all have?

Unless you are consistently hearing from several partners that they don't like a given thing you do, I would say you should ask what your  partner enjoys and try to work on that thing to please that given person. If she wants gentle caresses do that.  If she wants her head bouncing off the headboard, do that.  Best advice?  Be attentive in the moment and be flexible.

IMO my friend

When you make the date, mention that while you're as good as the next guy, you know that there are always areas for improvement. Pick a lady like Sinful Sinthia who is well reviewed and, through her posts, is always willing to help bring along newbies. Without making it seem too clinical, ask if the lady would participate in a few sessions including constructive criticism. Be up front about your wants and desires.

As long as you're RS2K or P411, you shouldn't have much trouble connecting with a "teacher."

Hurting someone's feeling is not constructive.  Helping them learn is a more positive experience for everyone.  That is if the gent is open to learning.

Negative reinforcement is counter-productive!