After TER went dark I stopped with the dance and found a regular. about every other month give or take. She knew me quirks and we explored so many fantasies together. She was so easy to talk to and ask for kinky things to do. we did a couple 3 hour explorations and it was awesome. Recently she is not caring as much, hygiene, weight showing up high and asking for smoke breaks. I really am no longer interested and am very sad as we connected so well. I have been seeing some great agency girls but they are here today gone tomorrow.
Are independents more likely to make that connection? I prefer Schaumburg area and most are out in the city.
Should I talk to her or chalk up the last 3 years as a good time and move on?

time to move on!

I supposed your right, now the search begins

Any takers LOL

How dare you complain....

I have 35 reviews to your 24, been here since 2002 ...I choose to use an alias on the post as to not embarrass that person I spoke about.  
Respect...

LOL...you are pathetic.

Might wonder over to the Erotic Highway board and chat about SBs as it sounds like you might be interested in that approach.

if she can't make you a priority over smoking..move on. You should be treated with respect during your visit and that isn't good behavior.  Wish I was closer...I'm about 90 miles away or a 3hr train ride away. Good luck in your search. Xoxo.

Its called being respectful to someone I care about, Im sure you don't know much about that do you.

Time to move - similar things happen to many hobbyists. Personally I had a once a month thing going and then she started cancelling with no reschedules and the last time I saw her she went from beautiful lingerie to a ratty looking over shirt, a pronounced belly and a stinky  smelling pussy. I pondered on what to do for a bit and then decided I didn’t owe her anything because all of our experiences were paid services.  
So I realized time to move on!
Found a new play date friend who is better looking, slimmer, costs less, does 2 pops and while she isn’t utr like the first isn’t overly busy. Best of all, she isn’t bashful about licking my balls!

Weight gain as a change isn't always a bad thing. You might think it is because it doesn't benefit you. Along with the other things, it sounds like depression. Quarantine has a lot of people fucked up right now.

People aren't there to benefit you alone, they're there or mutual benefits. Sometimes people just don't fit together anymore as life changes - and don't have a marriage contract to force them to make it work.

I would be hesitant to tell someone you're no longer attracted to their body though.

May I ask your reason for being hesitant? Is it because you'll miss her, or because you are worried about your finances going somewhere else?

Also, out of that one appointment per month, how much time do you take out of her days/weeks/month in communication in-between?

The reason I ask is if you also have friendly communication, that makes the situation a bit different.

To post this publicly when you have enough reviews to post this on a private forum that is available to you... you know this person is able to read this, and you know this situation is pretty specific... so you know they can read this.

 
This is our "job," but how about re-reading what you wrote, and notice we are going through a pretty nasty time in the world and perhaps she is struggling. Those are all tell-tail signs of depression and you're worried about "getting your money's worth."

 
You don't have to keep booking anybody, but if you decide to speak to her and "keep in touch," attach those emails with a useful gift.

 
It costs money to look the way we do, and you're expecting someone to have it all together when you damn well know our economy is going down. Maybe send her to the spa so she can feel good.

 
The world expects you to not give a crap about anything but our looks, our sex, and spectacular service to you - which is fine... but it is eye-opening to see you on here whining and breaking a spirit over "your money's worth." The world expects you to not care at all about our feelings.

 
You may care about her, but you kind of don't. You kind of are masking yourself in such a way that you look respectful, but if you sit down and really think about it... you don't really care about her, this is business to you - you are on here posting this stuff...  

 
So stop lying to yourself. You pretend to love, it's your fantasy that you are a good man,,, but you won't take a second to think about what's really going on, but run here to post a post that says she's replaceable and you are going to replace her if she doesn't get her shit together.

 
Depression is not easy to beat and it takes time.

 
This is what you posted, and if you sit down and think about it, you will see that this was your intention:

 
"Dear lady,

You're no longer servicing me. You are replaceable. I just want you to know that I'm about to replace you if you don't step it up. Watch and see how everybody agrees with me. But look, I'm still a good person because I posted under an alias to protect your privacy. I didn't actually expect you to know who you are - but you know who you are, don't you? Whoopsie!

Sincerely,

A loyal customer who's business you just lost."

 
Way to go on trying to break someone's spirit.  

 
We're here to do a job. Theoretically, we "should," but depression is disabling - at least give a damn about someone while  being excited that someone is obviously having a hard time. You've been there too, and if you have not, here is some reading material.

 
To people who feel they are failing and are going through these things, take a look at this. A lot of us are going through this right now, go easy on yourself and know you're not a bad person and you're not being lazy - and you don't not care about people... you might just be going through depression, especially during these nasty times.

 
Xoxo,

With the smoking - agitation - anxiousness
Weight gain - changes in appetite
Enthusiasm - loss of interest in hobbies, physical ailments, loss of pleasure & interest, feelings of guilt & decreased energy, moving or talking more slowly, "empty" mood...

One thing it did not list here is one of the major signs and that is forgetting to shower for days / aka hygiene.

Anywhoo...

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