While noone's judging you on your polyamorous lifestyle .... how far do you go on safety measures.... do you play safe/get tested regularly.... or play "devil-who-cares until I bring something home then off to divorce court I go?"

I'm single and I get tested anyway. If I happen to get something I want to know ASAP and I certainly don't want to give anything to anyone, wife/girlfriend or not.

for helping keep our growing community safe.

My wife knows about my lifestyle and I get tested 3X per year.

Yes, I do get tested from time to time.  

I'm not worried about my wife catching anything because we haven't had sex in maybe 3-4 years? I don't remember exactly, but only reason I'm into hobbying is because of a sexless marriage.

I'm new to this, but where do you go to get tested?  Your regular doctor?  Is there somewhere more discrete?

You can find discreet clinics here in Chicago with a simple Google search. The one I go to is very queer and sex worker-friendly. I've never been tested with my regular doctor but I do have the results sent along.

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It's nice to be in a relationship with open communicatio

I use stdtestexpress.com

Agree with this place. Not cheap, but very easy and discreet.

You can have anonymous testing that's runs about $200 for everything. I do mine every 6 weeks, that kind of stuff is important!

I couldn't agree more.  

Told him that I had a homeless person spit in my face (true) and I am concern that something may have entered via my eyes.  To keep me at ease, we test annually.  Insurance pays for it and doctor/patient confidentiality applies.  I know a provider in Las Vegas who uses her regular doctor for regular tests as well.  She likes her doctor and is opened with him about her life style

Same here get tested by my Doctor who can relate to my lifestyle. ..By the way he's a bigger who're then myself.

I know that the statistical possibilities of catching something from typical hobbying (which I define as including BBBJ) are discussed regularly with some posts indicating significant risks and others not. Rightly or wrongly I have included another input into my decision making about uncovered oral and that is that it is so widely offered that the rate of STD transmission must be very, very low. I base that on the assumption that a few hobbyists or providers getting infected from those activities would pretty quickly be shared info and rapidly cause uncovered oral to go from the norm to a less standard offering because of the higher risk. Am I wrong in assuming that since the board is not routinely showing "this happened to me" posts I can take it that the actual risk is very low?

I gotta say, I simply don't engage in FS. bbbj is as far as i'll go, and it pretty much all I need for a once in awhile... even if I get it regularly at home, its still a fun once-in-awhile for me

Don't forget kissing, unprotected oral is also high risk

It said that something like 70% of everyone will have some form of HPV in their lifetime. It's true that the vast majority of people don't even realize they have it and their immune system defeats it somewhere in the neighborhood of 1 to 3 years.

20 years for me it was--February 14, 1994!

I too use my Dr office. I trust him and he knows about everything. Never lie to your Priest, Doctor or Lawyer is my theory.