So, I'm dating this stripper and last Saturday night I go out with my friends to go see her.  When we get there, she says hello and goes about her job.  She later comes back and I tell her that I have to use the facility and that is when she says, "that's ok because your buddy is going to take me back to the VIP room."  I look at her and say WTF!!! She comes back and tries to get friendly and I tell her, 'FUCK OFF!'  She proceeds to tell me that all they did was talk about my friends girlfriend for 30 minutes.  What does she think that I'm stupid.  She tries to rub up on me the rest of the night but I reject her then she tells me that I'm not acting very mature.  I told her to go sell herself on the corner because she'll never get another piece of me.  This is why I love the women of TER. We know what we are getting and there are not strings.  Sorry about my rant n rave.

You didn't handle the situation in a very mature manner. You're dating a stripper and that's how she makes $$ by bringing guys back to the VIP room.  Sounds like you better get a grip on reality.  Definitely don't date an escort if you can't handle your stripper gf taking your buddy back to the VIP room.  

Were you paying her the whole time you were there to not work?  Hopefully you were filling up her g-string w/ $20's while you were keeping her from working the floor.  

I don't mean to be harsh, but when one dates a stripper, isn't it a given that she is going to be entertaining other guys?  That's her job.  If you're not comfortable with that, then you shouldn't be dating one.  Although, she should of at least had the decency to steer clear of your friends.  My prescription is to call up one of your favorite ladies and enjoy a debaucherous afternoon.

Sorry to say it but that is her profession.

It would be no different than her being a waitress and waiting on another table that your friend is sitting at. It may have been in bad taste of your friend to use her services but thats between you and your friend. She is just doing her job.

Geez, my girl sold a cup of coffee to another guy the other day....how could she?  Oh wait, she works at starbucks.  She is kind of expected to do that!

There is usually a rule that no boyfriends are ever allowed in the club when their gf is dancing that night..

Because Just what you described okay.. You went to her place of employment what were you expecting..

She's their to make money not friends.. It's nothing person on her behalf she's Just doing her Job alright..

Obviously you took things to personal and I would have to seriously agree with "seeker717" on this one..

With all of the "I've fallen for a provider/stripper" stories on here, you didn't learn from reading the other stories?  I am sure that you thought "you are special", and now you find out that you're just another "john".

Come on comizzo...get over this ASAP and go back to P4P without the silly drama YOU wanted to invoke in a "relationship" that was never there.  She is earning a living doing what she does...and you're offended?  Think about that...it's asinine and you know it...now!

affairs of the heart. But this is ridiculous.  I'm actually embarrassed for you...lol.  Dude...she IS suppose to get guys to the VIP room....that's how she pays for the fake boobs and platform heels. I find it curious that you are upset with her BUT not buddy who took her to the VIP room.  Isn't he the one who really fucked you over.  actually , upon arriving and introducing your fave dancer to your pal ,  a mature ...balanced gent would have winked at the lady and encouraged to show your bud a good time.  Bottom line...not sure if you are the type that ought to be hanging out in gent clubs to start with. You are acting like a 20 year old.

.... never EVER attempt to date a provider. You knew what you were getting with her too given her job you just couldn't deal with it. -_o

Of all the strippers he chose HER to take back to the V.I.P room. This is her job- her job when you started dating (right?) She's there to make HER money, your friend knew you were with her and took her back anyway. She did what she was there to do- and it sounds like your friend did too...

In the words of Chri Rock "there is NO SEX in the Champaign Room!"


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-YM86xvpzzE&feature=youtube_gdata_player


Xoxo
VC

I know a lil' devil who has had sex in the champagne room...

I realize it is not what the OP wants to hear/know...  

-- Modified on 8/12/2011 1:27:20 PM

she kept trying to get next to you and told you that you wre acting foolishly about her job on the other hand, your so called friend is probably laughing at you!

I am surprised a strip club lets bf's in the place while gf is working.

I was in a cab, so I have no idea what the station was, but it was called Cheaters or something like that. Guy called up, said he was dating a stripper and some of the girls were turning tricks. When he asked his gf about it, her reply did not convince him she would not do it. DJ agreed to "test" her.

The DJ calls her up to arrange a private lap dance in his hotel room, gets to the point of dancing around happy endings, she quotes a basic price for the private dance and then if they mutually agree to anything else they can talk about it then, gives him a price range for extras.

At which point the dumb fuck chimes up to out her. She is quiet, while the Dj chants Cheater, and then she hangs up (go figure). So they call her right back and she asks if the dumb fuck is still on the line, yes, so she asks if he realizes what they just did to her (entrap her into publicly admitting to committing a crime, maybe?) and he is just blabbering about what an unfaithful slut she is, so she says something like "don't worry about that or ever contact me again."

I was cringing, really horrified, through the whole thing, it was just painful for her, and humiliating for the dumb fuck, though he did not get it. And it is one thing to try to catch someone cheating on you, quite another to try to out her for breaking the law.

As for the OP - let's see, you went to visit a lady you are dating at her place of employment and were angry that she continued to do her job? You probably were showing her off to your friends, too, and were surprised one of them liked her enough to pay her price (and I do agree that if you want to be angry at someone, that friend is the a-hole).

If you want her to quit her job and dedicate herself to you, offer to support her. If not, accept her job or move on. Hey, I know we all get emotionally confused at times when the lady pushes our buttons particularly effectively (which, after all, is when it is the most fun), but can't you at least be sufficiently self-aware to understand the basic transaction and not bitch about it?

grumble,
zig

1. So, you brought your friends to a strip club where your girlfriend works (as a stripper. They have waitresses too lol). At the least, logically, this implies that you are okay with your friend seeing your girlfriend naked. (they do have to dance on stage eventually, right?)
2. Did your friends know she was your girlfriend? This adds another dimension here, but I think the answer is yes. Also, did she know that he was your buddy? I'd assume yes.
3. More than the girl, what the hell is wrong with your buddy? It sounds like you missed the establishment of some simple ground rules (at least, what I feel based on your post that you should have had):
a) Don't bring your friends to a strip club where your girlfriend works
b) Your friends should not ask to see your girlfriend naked, nor pay for her services, as that makes you uncomfortable.
c) Your girlfriend should not dance (or at least offer private dances to) your friends as long as she knows they were your friends.
d) At the very least, a-c should require the mutual stated consent of all parties involved (yours, your girlfriend's, and your friends').
4) What do you think happens in a VIP room? From your statement, it sounds like you're accusing her of being more than a stripper/dancer for that type of outrage? Yes, your friend probably saw her naked and she danced for him. Most guys that go in for 30 minutes or hours in a VIP room end up talking and just hanging out. With a naked woman. It's relaxing. (and another hobby) Deal with it. Providers also often say that most guys 'just want to talk' too.
5) So... you're against your girlfriend going into the VIP room for 30 minutes but yet in the same post you laud the hobby and TER women. Do you actively hobby while in a relationship with her? If so, you need to loosen up and realize you too are on shaky moral footing.

Here's what I think the situation is: You brought your friends into a strip club where your girlfriend works without setting up any ground rules or managing any expectations. I feel that your 'buddy' is much more to blame than your girlfriend for this because there is a 'man rule' that applies here relating to your friends not hitting on your girlfriend. Asking a girl to dance sure qualifies, or comes damn close. Your girlfriend is also to blame because if your 'buddy' is too damn stupid to enforce a rule on himself she should have. However, it is her job and unless you were going to hand her a few $$$'s that night the money can be too much for her to resist. And, due to the mindset girls put themselves into while working she might not have had time to really weight he moral pros and cons of this in light of that monetary prospect. Finally, you are right to be upset but I think that's because you simply freaked out. I don't think you expected the situation and never planned nor talked about that contingency with her or your friends. You probably feel ashamed for letting it get that far and were letting it out on her and venting on this board because you haven't thought about it logically.

Solution: Talk to her, explain how you feel, and establish some ground rules. Explain how you feel and that you were taken by surprise by the situation and didn't know how to react. This conversation should decide whether you will be staying together. If she can't respect the boundaries you want to set up in the relationship, and you can't live with the rules that are inherent with her occupation (ie: anyone with a minimum amount of money can see your girlfriend naked) then this will end. However, based on what you said she was doing after the situation she was trying to repair the situation. There's hope if you recognize this for what it was. Also, NEVER bring your friends to that club again. In my opinion, that was stupid and invited everything that happened. Don't do something unless you're prepared for the risks involved.

Sounds like he made a complete ass out of himself!!!

We have friends who are dancers.  Getting dancing when you know the girl is different than regular customers..

Its like tipping the bartender you know $20 for one beer - its a show of supoort.  It has nothing to do with the beer.  (or in this case, her ass).

If he had a problem, tell it to his guy friend!

Now the gf, and her co-workers, all see him as a drunken, jealous ass who can't deal with her job.  That ship has sailed...  Too bad.  Stripper love to bring their friends home.

Unless she told you that she won't do VIP any more, why are you pissed. She is just doing her job.