when a provider does not see white men.
It never ceases to amaze me how many hobbyists think that the wallet buys them everything.

Providers are ENTITLED to their preferences. Why is that so hard to understand?

There are a million providers out there that you can have, and a very small percentage that you can't. Get over it and move on.

http://chicago.backpage.com/FemaleEscorts/busty-black-bbw-craving-white-guys-only-21/8598749

I didn't chime in on the last major post.  Quite frankly it sucks that you have to ask if a provider sees a given ethnicity. Oh well, but let's not hide behind that its a smorgasbord of personal preferences.  It aint. Whatever the personal filters, it tends to be African Americans that are singled out the majority of the time. Oh well. It is what it is and that's cool.

What's not cool is when asking the question, the response is "as long as you are clean". WTF??!!! I then ask the provider if they ask that of all the hobbyists they see.  So, not all of us are computer literate thugs, with funky asses, asking for discounts, trying to pimp you.   Some of us are computer literate, trying to get our freak on and are attracted to beautiful women, regardless of the amount of melanin in the skin.

I feel for you man..

I see it all the time too... from other providers, here, on personals, everywhere.

Whats really funny (or not really) is when they say that they won't see brown people... meaning those from the streatch of the world that incorporates north africa to turkey (including India) because they're "allergic" to some spice that they use (to eat?).

Didn't we just have a multi-threaded conversation topic about the technical wording on Yuri's profile, in regards to this same subject?

I just think thats funny easily the conversation can sway from one extreme to the other depending on the general atmospheric mood on any given day, lmao!

Its a matter of principle and a hope that maybe I'll catch something that makes my dick bigger

Low credibility even before she segmented the population.

BTW, segmenting sounds much more PC than discriminating, don't you think?

Beyond the principle of it just shows a certain amount of ignorance, and I'm not compatible with ignorant people.  I find cultured, enlightened ladies to be extremely sexy.

LoL allergic to the spice? If I had more money and free time I'd probably eat 3 meals a day up on Devon!

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Some men LOVE larger women and only see them, and some men can't get it up at all with a BBW.  To each his own.  I suspect that most providers want to enjoy their jobs, as its not just about the $.  At least most on here want to have as much fun with their clients as possible.  If they don't like a particular person, they are entitled. I know a provider (she's eastern european) in Vancouver that LOVES Asian, Middle Eastern and Indian men, but had several bad experiences with black men, although its not what you think.  She dated several black guys, and one ended up badly, so she doesn't see black men because she thinks of her last bf.  Don't jump to conclusions as to what motivates a provider to not want to see a particular ethnic group.

She won't see black clients because ONE relationship with ONE black man ended badly?  That's ridiculous.  The thing that makes a good provider a good provider is her ability to find enjoyment in entertaining a variety of men.  The professionalism comes from an ability to put the usual social limitations to intimacy aside and show a man a good time.  Now, I don't fault a woman for not having that ability.  But I do fault a woman who calls herself an escort for not having that ability.  If the provider you mentioned can't separate her past relationships from the services she's providing, then she's in the wrong line of work.  One of the biggest reasons we pay for this luxury is to take the guesswork out of the pleasure.  If we start rationalizing these types of little hangups and idiosyncrasies and not holding professionals to a higher standard, then what's the point?  What are paying for?

I had a white barber yell at me as a kid when I entered his shop to get a hair cut. My brother didn't want to go in but wanted me to learn my lesson.  This was the SOUTH side of Chicago in the late 60's. I challenged him, as a young kid.  He then told me he had arthritis and I probably wanted a good hair cut and his hands couldn't do it.  I then question him on how he was able to cut hair at all. He then threatened to call the police.

No, this hobby isn't society in general, but I will be damn if I don't sometimes challenge hypocrisy or things that are plain wrong. It's not about getting over anything.  As I said before, life goes on, but I will not necessarily give a blank check to lunacy, regardless of the options I have in life.

....There preference be glad she stated it in her ad before she had you come to the door and be turned away. Some of you gents don't see black women or women under 25 you don't see us ladies gettin upset about that. well atleast I don't.

My advise keep hunting there are to many fish inthe see to be worried about one single provider.


Just my 4 cents

Xoxo
Kyla

Are not white themselves. I really am attracted to women with dark hair and eyes so I look at adds from all exotic women. I assumed that the reason was really because they wanted to keep this business and didn't want to meet someone they might meet somewhere else or become attracted to.

+1 billion to this ....... or in my case if a guy wants a petite or spinner provider (which i'm not lol) etc.

but I find it highly amusing when people get all bent out of shape about BLACK WOMEN not wanting to see non-white men. Everybody is pro-choice when it comes to abortion, but when it comes to the fun part, you act like you can change peoples' likes and dislikes. Sorry, but I don't think THIS very intimate and due to it's legal status, potentially DANGEROUS "hobby" is a very effective place to try to socialize EO. I'm not saying you shouldn't stand on principles, but don't expect to change much. That's a problem SOCIETY hasn't even completely come to terms with.  Heck, the Afghans will kill you for just being from the wrong village, and you're probably talking distant kin, in reality.

I tend to focus on the mentality of the people who are honked off by someone stating a preference or a boundary.

...On some level they believe the lady should not have a choice.   *THAT* is the part that is wrong and even potentially dangerous, IMO.

Think about that for a moment.

I can come up with several reasons why that's her preference. She

1. Probably doesn't want word of her profession get back to guys she might want to date (if she dates within her own race only),
2. Might want to avoid post-sale negotiations,
3. Doesn't want a john to break down the walls between her professional and personal life,
4. Has had a bad experience with a non-white client, or
5. Is oriented to white guys only. It does happen

OTOH, if I see a white woman makes such a request, I tend not to see her ... not neccesarily because she's a racist but because she's indiscreet and probably a poor screener.