If they're the asker, it's easy, but in this case he's only said, essentially, "Well if you get bored this weekend." and things like that.  

.....you said you think he'd be fun to hang out with.  Enough said.  Enjoy dinner, site seeing, or whatever hanging out means to you.  Works out far more often than you might think.

Disagree.   Compartmentalize!   Combining business and pleasure is sure to ultimately diminish both one's business AND one's pleasure

If it goes well, great. If not, call it a night and move on. I don't see a down side. If you think he will take advantage of this new "friendship", you can tell him your feelings. Good luck you two lovebirds!

while everyone is different, I've learned that compartmentalization is crucial for my overall well-being. It's definitely not easy to do, but boundaries are really important.

Personally, I do not offer ANY sex time off the clock... you pay for that shit. I do however extend many of my regulars, offer them OTC time and discount them for overnights should they fly to me. The only way you are really going to lose their business is if you are fking them for nothing, in which case you've become what people in real life call a slut lol.  

.....that you are overanalyzing.  sure there are many viable and logical reasons to go either way.  but interpersonal relationships are not built on logic.  do what you think works for you at the moment.  you may gain a friend, you may lose a client, you may get both or you may wind up with neither.  but life is about taking a chance, isn't it?

Just make sure you establish boundaries before committing.  If you still expect to be paid for BCD time, then let him know that so as not to create an awkward situation at the end of the night.  Otherwise hang, have fun and enjoy his company.

a client will look to get action for sure especially if it is free.

I believe it's a bad idea. So do some ladies in this thread.

i love sluts..

Once it's out of your hands, there's a large possibility that you won't be getting it back. If you think in your head that it's a gift, but they think of it as a loan - if you don't get it back, you've already accepted that. If they do give it back, it's a pleasant surprise.

Looking at how guys review around here, they're not just looking to see one lady.

Here's how you work the OTC angle. Charge a higher than average rate or have a two hour minimum. Market yourself as "exclusive." "upscale," "low volume" etc.  
 
After fucking, hint that you'd love to go to dinner. The dupe will be delighted that you're giving him free OTC time. If you soaked the sap enough for the appointment, your rates pretty much take care of the OTC time. Best of all the sap thought he got "free" OTC time. It's a good way to cultivate loyal saps/regulars.  
 
Work the angles and bleed those saps. Bleed them dry!  

We all understand that this is your business but sometimes would just like to hang out without being on the clock. Good idea and he will more likely want to increase his other visits.

My ATF frequently spends off the clock time with me. I started seeing her in 2006 and we have established a friendship We keep boundaries clear, If we were getting together to hang ( movie, lunch / dinner, shop ) then thats all we did on those days.  

This feels a little odd because I truly have no idea if he reads these boards or not, but I did read and take in everyone's advice so I feel like you're due the update.

During my brief periods of being unattached.  Now I mostly get paid for it, which is pretty freaking cool and definitely raises the bar on who I might see uncompensated.  He totally meets that bar.  Just sayin.

Some people think of these guys as guys who just dream their whole lives that they'll get some pussy. And if they find one free one, they'll never want to pay again. NOT. Most like variety, and are avoiding a girlfriend - hence, why they even pay "to watch her eat". No one's business is going to fall because you decided you wanted to grab something that makes you feel good. And if you lose him, he's replaceable, as long as he doesn't start to think you're going to be available for his free time over paid time with others.

Enjoy life,  enjoy his company. We do need personal time as well, we are human as well & not robots as some want to think of us. I  do not date any civies or care to, I do spend extra time with my favorites & life for me is balanced much better. Im about the personal connections I make in life. I've met a few great dear friends this way & I know I can contact them if I need guidance or something along those lines, so go ahead & make a new friend, but you have to make things clear be upfront with men what you request, they do respect you & your boundaries, or at least it works for me.  Enjoy

No, I am not against regular dating whilst doing this if your vagina can handle that kind of volume and if both parties share common ground. You asked if seeing someone off the clock would affect your business with him... the answer is obvious. If he STOPS PAYING YOU, duh... you've lost his business. Nothing wrong with making a client a fk buddy if that's what you're into. However, when you use TER to promote your freebie shit, well then it becomes comical... not that 'you' personally are doing that but in general. This is not a free hookup site, though we all know many providers barter and give away shit for high review scores, now don't we?

I just wanted to say, I was a slut too.  

As long as you are happy with your decision, then that is what is important! I hope it works out for you!  

Is pretty key. I've just started dating someone else and when I just tossed out an escort joke, he said that isn't funny, those women are abused and I'd never be a part of anything so disgusting.  

and I can speak from personal experience that with the right guy you can have anything from a serious LTR to a good client that you share some enjoyable personal time with, or anything in between.  

There's the rub. He's been to the mountain, and it's gonna be damn tough to tell him you're not climbing that mountain now.

They did not lose my business. OTC was always without sex.

I think awkward might be an under-statement. LOL. When I think awkward, I think of a time when a girl I dated told me she had a lot of moles. Not to steer things too far off-topic.

I know this top ic has been beaten to death, but Iwas really interested in this subject.

So I'm not sure I could use that, unless your actual advice is to tap my fingers together and cackle "Muaaaaaaaahahahaha!"

And, if every provider became friends with every MARRIED man she fks for money, we would have no more hobby... just the way it is. I have been tempted to see quite a few of my guys OTC, but being I work so little to begin with, that would just be stupid. For every guy I fked for free, I would have to fk another one to make up for it... sorry, don't need the volume. Now, if you mean drinking and going to dinner OTC after he has paid for an appt. sure, why not? Do it all the time when traveling.

you're opening yourself up to a lot of influence. I say, be very selective with the people who come in and out of your life on a personal level. And nourish those relationships.

Speaking from experience, it can be done without losing business.  I have done it with a provider in the past for over two years.  It never stopped appointments and there was never any expectation of freebies.  If it happened (which it did often by mutual choice) it was great.  Many times we just had fun together.  Sadly it ended because she moved to Vermont.  I remember those times often and fondly.

Posted By: MissMarieM

If they're the asker, it's easy, but in this case he's only said, essentially, "Well if you get bored this weekend." and things like that.  
   
 I get that a lot, but- he's pretty new in town, single, about my age, and I think would be fun to hang out with.  However, I don't have time for an actual boyfriend anyway and if it came down to it, I'd rather have a really pleasant appointment a time or two a month.  
   
 I haven't thought about whether or not there would be any action if we went out, but I'm not a "waiting proves something" kind of girl in the first place.  I'm also not a "you've got to take a chance on love" kind of girl either.  
   
 So, any practical pointers, phrasing, etc on how I can have my cake and eat it too?  
 (I'm greedy, I know this. )