I just received a note back from a provider that I was trying to schedule an appointment with (out of town not local to Chicago). She verified me, but then said "I've read the couple of reviews you posted on TER and it appears you rate pretty hard, which is your choice, but honestly no reputable lady wants to visit a guy who she feels will be extra hard on her, if he reviews her: we are all only human after all. " I didnt think I was rating "pretty hard", in fact I thought I gave two good reviews.
Would love to hear thoughts from the local ladies on this if they care to weigh in!
Happy Thanksgiving to all!!!
JJ
Although the narratives are very well written, I could see how a lady would say you rate hard when she consistantly is getting 9's and 10's and you give her a double 7 even though the written part is very complimenting. Just my opinion
Review reads as 9/9 min .. but scoring is 7/7.
That definitely will raise questions. When I get contacted by someone who has a lot of low scores in their review history I always try to figure out why.
If person had negative experiences and wrote about them honestly as warning to community, it is not an issue for me. However, if there is consistent history of "i was bored she was not my type but she was on BP and did not screen" or if it says something to extent "she does not provide services I was looking for but I booked anyway because she had special rate and date was bad" then I will decline.
To me it signals luck of research or unsafe conduct.
Lina
Really HARD...just my own perference ![]()
Everyone have a Happy Thanksgiving Day!!!
In fact, I don't even ask for TER user handles, either as a screening method, or any other time. While I've heard the benefits of reading reviews (both avoiding "hard reviewers" and learning what a particular potential patron enjoys), I personally find that reading a gentleman's reviews tends to set undue expectation and false scripts. An experience is based on two people, and trying to construct a template/expectation set from his written past experiences (which are further skewed by TER restrictions) not only throws off the organic development of the experience, but pegging an individual as a certain "type" denies the gentleman the opportunity to approach me in the way he wishes to. I have one lovely friend that comes to mind who's seen me repeatedly for dinner dates, and somewhere along the way I discovered that he typically orders agency girls like Chinese takeout. Had I read his reviews before hand, I might have either refused to see him because I'm obviously incompatible with his standard MO, or else taken a very different approach during our date purely based on prefabricated assumptions pulled from his reviews. Instead, I read him as he came to me, and we have a wonderful organic relationship as a result.
In fact, the very act of knowing that an individual is an active reviewing TER member turns the whole experience into more of a "performance" than an "experience," and I'd rather avoid that whole monkey dance, if possible. So, while I can understand your not-quite lady friend's stance (lower scores hurt business, so better to avoid chronic low scorers), it's not an ideology I choose to incorporate into my own practice as a companion.
All that said, there exist 3 types of chronic low scorers that I would prefer to avoid when possible.
The Black Hole-Individuals seeking to fill a bottomless emotional void in their life. This lifestyle is a fantasy escape of one form or another for many people (both patrons and providers), but people with severe emotional voids are like drug addicts-they'll use you up, drain you dry, and still feel like they didn't achieve that satisfactory point of "enough" (emotional or physical). They score low not because of the provider's efforts, but because the provider didn't live up to the unrealistic expectation of filling up that internal void.
The ED sufferer in denial-Often egotistical, sometimes taking ED medications, but forever in denial that their inability to get it up, keep it up, or finish might not be in relation to the provider's efforts. The horror stories some girlfriends have related on efforts going both above and beyond the call of duty, often well over the clock, only to be rewarded with a lower score and complaint in the written portion simply baffles me. (And really, let's be honest. How often do any of us actually see a reviewer admit that he has ED in any of his reviews?) Sometimes this sort of individual is also one of those Black Hole folks, since the blue pill seems to have less of an affect on emotional related impediments than pure physiological ailments.
The Self Important "Connoisseur"-Writing reviews and dispersing advice as if they were an internationally renowned sommelier critically appraising a new wine in order to educate and guide his readers. These folks seem to be in the hobby less for the actual enjoyment of the experience and connection, and more for the rush of accumulating status and brownie points with their buds on the boards. I'm all for objectification in the right moment and the right measure, but I'd rather not be the cookie in the middle of a circle jerk, thanks.
I should mention, though, that all three of these sorts of folks seem to be rare breeds. Even without reading reviews, the vast majority of gentlemen I've met during my time as Eve have been exciting, funny, though provoking, weird (in all the best ways), and/or all around wonderful to have in my life. ![]()
don't give out your TER handle. Your ratings are your own, so take steps if you want to keep them your thoughts as independent contributions to the hobby and your hobby activities fun, I guess.
Personally, chemistry is so important to me that if it doesn't materialize I know I'd be rating the experience pretty low. That's one aspect of the TER hobby - you can't really meet face to face until you show up at her door. So, I will only review times when the chemistry was there. Otherwise, I'm not really being fair. Id' have to rate myself too in that case!
I appreciate everyone's responses and the time they took to add a comment. I haven't heard back from the provider so I'm guessing she won't be seeing me. C'est la vie!
JJ
I personally have stayed away from writing reviews unless I have a favorable review for a lady. Reason being it seems that every time you write an honest review, it is questioned or not published. Reason? Maybe lady challenges it with site, unsure. But you go thourgh the trouble of writing an honest review to assist hobby (both gents and ladies) and not published. I stay low key but will give a review for the ladies that do deserve a good review. Lets not forget we all have a bad day. Anyhow, wish all a happy and safe hobbying, I mean holiday!!!
I personally never read my reviews as I like to see the gentlemen that I see as regular people not random message board handles.I do not know if that makes any sense to some of you but I guess that how I like to do it....
xoxoxo,
Jacqueline