I have tried what I'll talk about here several different ways without luck, well maybe some luck but nothing right now, so am opening up to all my TER friends for assist.  Maybe it's an evolving personality thing or maybe just getting old (I'm mid-50s), but I find myself less and less enamored with traditional escort incalls and seeking more ongoing GFE relationships.  By that I mean probably 10-15 visits annually, each starting with coffee (not what you're thinking, but real coffeeshop coffee or soda or whatever), then walking, talking, shopping (for her of course), maybe dinner, and then quality incall FS treatment (nothing kinky and always safe) to wrap things up.  The public foreplay part addresses a heretofore unknown desire in me for PDA, i.e. having a beauty on my arm and me on hers and both looking proud to the world to be in a romance.  I figure about 3-4 hours per visit, unless she wants dinner or movie, jazz club, etc. in which case obviously more (on her time but my coin and I'm usually game).  Tripping points seem to be fourfold: I am very choosy (pretty face, slim and shapely bod, nice bust, 20s or lower 30s in age, within about 150 miles of Chicago); the PDA has to really work (teasing and sexy body language, sense of humor, openly affectionate disposition, touching, discrete DFK, and most important not being in internal agony trying to pull this off with me); the incall has to be quality and kind of flow naturally from the rest (not just a sloppy wham-bam-thank-you-mam ending); and a rate (not including out-of-pockets) of somewhere between $5-10,000 annually paid as we go (unpredictable variables of course will come into play, but you generally can do the math).  I am not overly concerned about selling my side in terms of appearance, disposition, romantic flow, and reliability.  To broadly set that scene, I have no ties and am looking for none, insist on everything being discrete, am WM in trim shape with all my original equipment, am calm and respectable and an establishment type with all that entails in terms of dress and behavior and cleanliness, am not a hotshot so will follow her lead, and can afford the fare.  And as to the fare, I don't subscribe to possible moans that it should be higher ... there are big advantages here to the provider in terms of regularity, reliability, expectation, safety, and fun, and times are tough, and the fare I fugure accumulates to a substantial annual nest egg.  So in my mind finding the right girl is the real challange.  I've tried that in context of traditional escort incalls, but short-term focus seems all too often to blow the longer-term thing out of the water (I'm sure some of the girls have had second thoughts when I didn't call for a second or third date, lol).  I also have tried it through dating sites, but found all of them to be either frauds or marriage oriented.  So am turning to all my TER friends out there for leads and suggestions.  Especially you girls ... if something like this sounds appealing maybe we should talk.  

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