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When I got started in this industry, I sent emails to other ladies here in Chicago that advertised in the same places I did, and that were in good standing in the community. All of them were very welcoming and supportive; a few even offered to go out to coffee/lunch with me. Having connections with other ladies in the community has been essential for me.

Posted By: Havana99
How do I as a provider make friends with other providers?

Havana991124 reads

How do I as a provider make friends with other providers?

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Chance_the_Gardener798 reads

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Havana99857 reads

I'm supposed to go to one a week from now. How many of these meet and greets go on and are there any in the city?

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Crisis25728 reads

There was supposed to be one at the convention last week. Kind of a bust though.

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Jack Bauer894 reads

I have heard enough stories about back stabbing and petty arguments from so called ladies that were BFFs in this industry that I can write a novel.  Just go about interacting with the ladies via meet and greets and reference checks.  Don't actively seek out friends.  If you must, let it happen naturally.

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HangingwithBears813 reads

Providers are better off seeking out female friends in their civvie lives where they're not competing for clients and $$$$. While it might seem that having female friends in this business would be a "birds of a feather" type beneficial relationship, it's rarely the reality. "Acquaintance" seems like a more accurate description of what a provider might seek in another provider. Funny how $$$$ influences all of our "friendships" in this hobby and not just the male/female ones.

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EveAlexander753 reads

In short, the ratio of negative:positive comments just doesn't reflect reality in nearly any relationship or situation.

Yes, sometimes things do fall apart. I've had one myself. That is ONE out of dozens of ladies I've met and become friends with. These are women who I could count on to have my back and tell it to me straight about a my business/my photos/ad location experiences/a client she's seen and is now reaching out to me, etc; who I can trust to check her personal life at the door and be ready to rock in a threesome; who have been there as an essential support system to laugh and cry with about all the intricacies of this subculture who no one else but another companion could relate to. Most gentlemen check out of their hobby life when they depart from their lady companion, and pick it back up again at their own choosing. Ladies, however, live it, and when you really immerse your life in it, rather than keeping it confined to mere pockets, it becomes a lonely place indeed if you have no one in your same situation to reach out to and share with.

Lastly, let's keep in mind that things fall apart and backstabbing occurs in the real world, too, and may be more a reflection of the general age of the ladies you see than some particular phenomenon of companionship as a whole.

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HangingwithBears864 reads

You're a drama-free provider and a well-spoken moderate from what I've seen of your posts over the years. Providers like you would tend to make good friends for other providers but I think even you would admit that you choose your friends carefully. That's the point CTP and I were making although he stated it more clearly than I did. Proceed with caution and choose wisely.

I don't agree that it's a reflection of provider age, rather, it's more related to socioeconomic standing and pecking order - just like in the real world :-) It's the haves vs the have-nots in terms of both clients and $$$. In the real world, there are strict rules that tend to punish those who backstab, in this world it seems that anything goes and the nastiness has no bounds. I'll leave it at that

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JcsPlayGround729 reads

Let me know when the book gets published  
I would like the first sign copy....

This is a hard industry to find true friendship but you will always find the Drama.  

I am glad I prefer the simple life that allows me to control my own drama in my life, no one else!
Plus, my suitcase is full..........  

I will be taking appointments for counseling sessions, for those in need

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GingerRose596 reads

A lot of backstabbing, you may have the best of intentions, but she might wanna steal clients. Just b careful. Be more if an acquaintance, not a friend

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TrulyMsMocha734 reads

.....discussion board interaction, PM's, ladies boards, m&g's etc.

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margomatisse743 reads

When I got started in this industry, I sent emails to other ladies here in Chicago that advertised in the same places I did, and that were in good standing in the community. All of them were very welcoming and supportive; a few even offered to go out to coffee/lunch with me. Having connections with other ladies in the community has been essential for me.

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How do I as a provider make friends with other providers?

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will645866 reads

If true,  this is sad.  Wish I had hobbyist friend,  and think providers should have others as friends.  

Posted By: margomatisse
When I got started in this industry, I sent emails to other ladies here in Chicago that advertised in the same places I did, and that were in good standing in the community. All of them were very welcoming and supportive; a few even offered to go out to coffee/lunch with me. Having connections with other ladies in the community has been essential for me.  
   
Posted By: Havana99
How do I as a provider make friends with other providers?

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Jamie.Solo763 reads

Feel free to contact me! I would love to have friends to talk to abt this. Meet up for coffee...etc

 
Where is this M&g? I wanna go!!

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TazWantsSome683 reads

Trial and Error...

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ksoixanteneuf689 reads

I've posted on TER asking other providers if they would like to offer doubles with me. I've met some amazing providers who have become great friends by doing this. If you'd like to offer doubles, it's a great way to get to know another provider and have a lot of fun;)

How silly am I to forgot to ask ? Since I'm here posting- anyone interested in possibly offering doubles with me in Chicago?
PM if you are...
Tara Kennedy

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TonjaWallace750 reads

I haven't ever looked for provider friends... I have just through lucky discovery found that some of the friends I already have ARE providers. That's a fun thing to discover, but usually we never talk work.

I have heard bad stories about cattiness, so I tend to be somewhat weary of making friends or mixing work and friendship, but I think it can be done. I'm seriously not a fan of judgmental attitudes, poor decision-making skills, and things that tend to cause drama--in any kind of friend actually, whether in my personal life or business. I love to support friends I care about, and I love friends, but I'm not interested in letting a lot of negative people into my life. I'm a huge lover of life, and my real friends are all very similar in that. People with positive attitudes are a must, always.

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