that sort of issue.  Unfortunately I don't know the name of it.  You may want to google numbing cream and pre-ejaculation.

Amanda

The MSOG is your bet as few of the ladies have suggested. Blow your load and get ready for round two.

Embarassing problem I have had recently. Over the last year or so , I cum way too fast. I been one minute into a BJ and 2 mins into sex. What can I do about this ? No replies about thinking about my grandmother or baseball.. dosent help. Im only 40 yrs old. I never lasted a long time, but at least could have sex for 5-10 mins before having an orgasm. Is there any "real" medication that can help me. Now on the flip side.. I have no issues getting hard again.. I can get hard and "finish" 3 or 4 times or more in an hr.

This is becoming a big issue when I see providers ( especially those that provide only one cup ) Sux to pay 200-400 $ for 5 mins or less of fun

Help me out guys and gals

Have a discussion with your MD. Mess can be prescribed that delay ejaculation. Zoloft is one. And even Viagra can delay

sensual teasing for a lot of the session. I love to tease and find the release in the end to be far more earth shattering if you hold off for a bit. Also, have you tried a cock ring? They really do work and might help prolong your orgasm. I think if you were to convey your *sensitivities* to your companion, she would be happy to get creative with you. Of course, I would wait until I have been screened before talking about these things.

Good luck!

Veronica Sweets

You would love the product since cumming isn't an issue. You'll find longer lasting activities and little time in between since your able to cum 4 times in an hour. Always read a ladies profile and reviews to be sure she does offer all the activities you want in your hour. I call that a rip-off when a lady takes your hourly rate, get's you off in 10 minutes and ends service.

Can you tell your ready to cum before it happens. If so change what your doing and please the lady. Another solution which I wouldn't suggest to anyone else is to masturbate a couple times just before your date. The hand motion might desensitize you a little which might be good.

Wish I had more info to help

Kisses Haley

As someone who does not come at all from time to time, your "problem" does not seem like much of a problem, especially in this world. Now if you have this problem with a civvie GF and she is not enjoying the sex, then you need to do something about it, but I suggest you take the advice from Veronica and Sage seriously, and:

- Only go with ladies who do MSOG. Can't see how you getting to come 4 times in an hour is a bad thing for you. Might not be ideal for the lady, but most will work with you.

- Tell the lady. Admit it, relax, don't feel bad about it. Then experiment, see where it goes. Part of it may be that you are nervous, anyway, so I would not discount the idea that it will go away as soon as you normalize it and relax about it. But I also think there are some forms of play that might work for you and be a lot of fun.

Does the situation change if it is a new lady, versus a repeat? Have you tried jerking off before your date? How does alcohol affect this? Those are some possible things that may help you to delay coming, though my advice is to enjoy it while it lasts and play with it. Seems unlikely this phase will last that long.

enjoy,
zig

The point is enjoying yourself, not how big of a load you can blow. I've never met a single woman on this planet who actually cares are about how many teaspoons of ejaculate her lover produces. This is a man myth, right up there with "mutton chops are sexy."

that I never thought of growing "mutton chops"

But you are correct in that some fellas equate their "output" to studliness.

But for many of the fellas...we don't care about that too much...especially if it involves blowing in the cover, or my fave in her mouth!

Perhaps the OP is suggesting that he would like to make a donation to a sperm bank?

or go ala carte and see a provider that offers quickies.
or ala carte specials such as a french special or lesson.

Sometimes things like how fast you complete the 1st time just can't be helped, so seeing a provider who offers MSOG is the way to go.  You can try a slowly progressing session, you know the GFE where it starts making out on the couch and then is slowly building to a finish.  That might help as well.

I don't suggest using chemicals to slow it, your body can become dependent on it.  Or it can even make it to where it is difficult for you to finish.

Consider this, you can finish abet quickly at 1st but you can.  Why mess with that.  Most MSOG providers will not even blink an eye at it so no worries, and I still think that is the best answer for you without messing with your physiological system.  

If you warn a provider that you are usually quick to shoot some will work with you to make it last a little longer.  I know there is nothing like that 1st come, the orgasm is generally the best even on a multi session.

Take care and good luck sweety, Sage

I'm younger than you (26) and I kind of have similar issues in some ways.  It sucked for me cause I felt I was way too young to have these problems (mine were worse...ED).  Like you, this is relatively more recent... and I was in a long-term relationship.  I tried counseling which was a complete waste of time to be honest.  I seriously got two one-hour sessions of "You have to do things that make you happy...take up a new hobby (I should've tried this hobby!)."  I highly recommend you don't bother with that if you were thinking about it.

I'm guessing, like me, you are mentally overwhelmed with it.  I would be on the verge of panic attacks.  My heart would be pounding out of my chest with anxiety.  You may not be at that point, but I'm sure you are thinking about it too much, right?  It's that damn mental aspect that is the hardest to overcome and it's the reason you are having the issues.  It was the reason I was having issues.  

With that being said, the first thing you need to do is find a way to be comfortable with it.  The first step that worked for me was to confront it.  At the time, I was in a relationship...one woman man, so she worked with me.  As time progressed, the anxiety was completely gone.  My first cup stamina wasn't to par, but at least I got the mental part out of the way (well... kinda... I guess I'll touch on that later).  Somehow, from there... things still went awry and now I'm a single man enjoying myself, but I digress.

My suggestion to you is to tell anyone you meet about this (providers that is... not EVERYONE you meet).  I bet they'd make you feel more than comfortable.  If they go the extra mile and stroke your ego in some way, that one is a keeper.  I find it much easier to perform when I feel she's getting off.  

My second suggestion would be to work out.  If you get in better shape... you have more endurance.  On top of that, you naturally feel better about yourself and confident.  Part of my issue was kind of my own insecurities.  

Lastly, you may have to work out down there too.  If you masturbate, you will have to tease yourself in a sense.  Get to the point of no return and then stop... go completely flaccid.  When you masturbate, it is important to do that, otherwise, you train your mind to get used to cumming quickly.  Another exercise is to work the muscles down there too... the PC muscles.  Look up Kegel exercises for men and you'll find some stuff.  

You may not need to do all these things, but every little step helps.  But sadly, I'll have to say there isn't going to be a quick solution here.  This will take time.  I'm somewhat in the process myself.  My first cup is usually relatively quick.  I'm normally pretty good at going for a while on the second, but sometimes I can be way too turned on by these hot women.  I think I will heed my own advice a bit and tell the providers from now on that my first shot is hit or miss.  I do find myself thinking about it.  I know some people say you shouldn't care about the girl getting off in this hobby, but I do... and it makes it more enjoyable for me to at least think she did.  Maybe if I can get rid of that little bit of insecurity, I can have a better first cup.  

Good luck man... feel free to ask any questions you may have.

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Of course you would have to talk to your physician about this. Fluoxetine (AKA Prozac) is a SSRI that is commonly prescribed for this purpose and would definitely help. I do however agree with Sage's advice as well. See women who will offer you more than one shot, someone who understands that you are paying for their time, however you choose to spend it.

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I have the same issue as well, first cup is out within minutes and I'll typically last a little longer with my second cup. I will not seek out another provider that doesn't offer MSOG...