Since there is all of this "confusion" about what is GFE and what isn't, the providers should be allowed to make their decisions, etc. why don't we create a glossary of terms that have NO confusion?

Sure, for you (and others) GFE means getting the "connection" and "friendliness". But for the hobbyists it has come to mean something else (at least for many of the hobbyists) -- this is what we have learnt from this discussion.

So here's  solutions: let's get rid of (or enhance) the confusing terms and clarify everything in plain black and white. Say, for the sake of argument, something like:
- GFE: basic "girlfriend-y" experience (whatever that may mean) and if the girl really likes you she may offer more, but it essentially means CBJ and no Kissing
- GFE+: The GFE from above along with kissing but CBJ only.
- GFE++: GFE+ with BBBJ
- GFE*: Provider offers Greek  

So as an example, if a provider ad says: GFE+ & GFE* --> Then I know she does kiss, does CBJ and allows Greek but not BBBJ.

It is very easy to expand this to have absolutely NO confusion. If now, a provider offers GFE++ and doesn't offer a BBBJ then the client has a right to protest and either write a bad review or get their money back (good luck with that! -- but word will get out and her business will suffer.

I mean, you can even replace the GFE, GFE+, GFE*, etc. with simple letter codes even: A, B, C, D, etc. So, all a provider really has to put on her website is something like: ACD (this will mean GFE++ with Greek).

Sorry, this is the engineer/scientist in me -- it is very easy to design a code/system that lacks confusion on either side. Should be easy to do: once a few providers start using this (in on local market, say Chicago) then it will catch on in a more broader area. ESPECIALLY if the hobbyists start using it in their reviews -- at the start of the VIP section, just put up the code (so that people can quickly glance at it) and then go on to the descriptive parts.

In fact, the code doesn't even have to be very big/long. Can cover the essential parts that guys look for, such as: BBBJ, DATY, Greek, etc. It can easily be extended to more categories (or remove others) once tastes/preferences changes.

And I'll stop writing now. :P