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Re: orgasm
Dan_Sing 1082 reads
posted
1 / 21
Providers that don't/can't/won't orgasm

I was with a 22 year old provider recently that has never had an orgasm. We had a good talk about it. I gave a few suggestions: relaxing, toys, various techniques, etc. She was very healthy minded about it: says it doesn't bother her, when it happens it happens, she enjoys sex without climax, etc.

Point is, I don't really enjoy sex unless my partner is also having a good time, being vocal, getting into it physically, etc. I really appreciated her concentrating on pleasing me - and she did. But there just wasn't the heightened arousal that happens when both are really into it. I have had this happen a couple of other times in the past with providers and had a similar feeling of disappointment that i didn't experience that connection.

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Jacque_Jenesais See my TER Reviews 646 reads
posted
2 / 21
Is she new?

I used to have the same problem until I hit 30. Could be my prime, or it could be that I've become comfortable with my sexuality.  

There are suggestions one can make, but what helped me was not to try so hard to orgasm or worry about what the other person is thinking. I just learned to enjoy. I O almost every time now. WOOHOO!!!  

Lol

Dan_Sing 702 reads
posted
3 / 21
Re: Is she new?

Yes, fairly new. She was in a LTR in which she tried "everything" with her boyfriend without success.

Dan_Sing 628 reads
posted
4 / 21
Are many providers of the opinion that.....

I don't need to orgasm because this is business. He is not my lover, partner?

macdaddy1944 51 Reviews 583 reads
posted
5 / 21
orgasm

try to be more of a client than a gynecologist..

Arovet 62 Reviews 742 reads
posted
6 / 21
Every provider I've been with...

Has had at least one, usually two or more...I guess I'm just that good!  Bwahahahaah!

A bit of tongue in cheek to reflect my good mood on a Friday :-)

MissErinBlack See my TER Reviews 718 reads
posted
7 / 21
Unrealistic expectations.

Honestly, I think its unrealistic to expect a provider to orgasm with every client she's with.  Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't.  Mind you, that some women don't need to orgasm to actually be enjoying themselves either.  

With GFE clients, I almost always orgasm. With domination clients, I normally don't. Achieving an orgasm (and the process it takes) often time takes me out of a dominant mindset (unless the session involves me using my submissive as a toy of sorts).  

Given her age, it doesn't surprise me that she has trouble orgasming or that she hasn't at all.  Most women don't really know what's going on with their bodies at that age.  I mean, I knew. But a lot of my friends had a lot of trouble.

Pressuring her to orgasm is only going to make it worse, btw. Being self-conscious or thinking there's something "wrong" with her because she doesn't orgasm definitely hinders the experience

kavitaflowers See my TER Reviews 618 reads
posted
8 / 21
Re: Unrealistic expectations.

I have to agree with MEB.  

Just with men, I know some women who can orgasm in 10 minutes and others who need to be under certain circumstances to cum such as being emotional connected to the person. Everybody is different.

"Mind you, that some women don't need to orgasm to actually be enjoying themselves either"
I can personally validate this statement. Some of my top favorite moments in bed didn't end with a big O. I know girls who get off with foreplay more than intercourse.

Lastly, please don't continue to bring up the big O issue with her. You have to be comfortable and at ease to cum doing sex and reminding her about it will probably make her self conscience and worse off. Give her some  toys suggestions and leave it at that.  
Posted By: MissErinBlack
Honestly, I think its unrealistic to expect a provider to orgasm with every client she's with.  Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't.  Mind you, that some women don't need to orgasm to actually be enjoying themselves either.  
   
 With GFE clients, I almost always orgasm. With domination clients, I normally don't. Achieving an orgasm (and the process it takes) often time takes me out of a dominant mindset (unless the session involves me using my submissive as a toy of sorts).    
   
 Given her age, it doesn't surprise me that she has trouble orgasming or that she hasn't at all.  Most women don't really know what's going on with their bodies at that age.  I mean, I knew. But a lot of my friends had a lot of trouble.  
   
 Pressuring her to orgasm is only going to make it worse, btw. Being self-conscious or thinking there's something "wrong" with her because she doesn't orgasm definitely hinders the experience.  
   
   
   
 

margomatisse See my TER Reviews 631 reads
posted
9 / 21
Brownie points for her for being honest!

Because she could have just faked it!

A few pointers for you:

1. I'd suggest seeing older providers (late 20s and beyond). Women don't hit their sexual peak usually until sometime around their late 20s or early 30s (some even in their 40s). Plus, in general, an older woman is going to know her body better than a younger lady and is going to know what works for her.

2. Actually listen to the feedback you get and pay attention to body language. I tend to be very direct when men try to please me. Not in a mean way, but I am encouraging when they're doing something right, and I tell them when they do something that doesn't work for me. But I have seen a few guys who have insisted on stimulating me in a way that didn't work for me even after telling them that it isn't working. And guess what? I'm not going to have an orgasm! It's just that simple. Women's bodies vary so much and not all women like the same thing. Forget what you've read in books or seen in porn. Listen to the lady!
Posted By: Dan_Sing
I was with a 22 year old provider recently that has never had an orgasm. We had a good talk about it. I gave a few suggestions: relaxing, toys, various techniques, etc. She was very healthy minded about it: says it doesn't bother her, when it happens it happens, she enjoys sex without climax, etc.  
   
 Point is, I don't really enjoy sex unless my partner is also having a good time, being vocal, getting into it physically, etc. I really appreciated her concentrating on pleasing me - and she did. But there just wasn't the heightened arousal that happens when both are really into it. I have had this happen a couple of other times in the past with providers and had a similar feeling of disappointment that i didn't experience that connection.  
   
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bebedoll See my TER Reviews 597 reads
posted
10 / 21
"wringing my hands and drooling a little"

Bring the pretty to ME! I have a few tricks to show her. ;)

Posted By: Dan_Sing
I was with a 22 year old provider recently that has never had an orgasm. We had a good talk about it. I gave a few suggestions: relaxing, toys, various techniques, etc. She was very healthy minded about it: says it doesn't bother her, when it happens it happens, she enjoys sex without climax, etc.  
   
 Point is, I don't really enjoy sex unless my partner is also having a good time, being vocal, getting into it physically, etc. I really appreciated her concentrating on pleasing me - and she did. But there just wasn't the heightened arousal that happens when both are really into it. I have had this happen a couple of other times in the past with providers and had a similar feeling of disappointment that i didn't experience that connection.  
   
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xxxenvy4u See my TER Reviews 575 reads
posted
11 / 21
I understand you completely

You were not getting the full experience. Sadly. She should know what it takes for her to come and should be open about it. Trust me, every girl has their ways baby! You need an ultimate eXXXperience!

JosephineBelle See my TER Reviews 524 reads
posted
12 / 21
I always forget how lucky I am...

That I cum so easily from intercourse. :)

ralphltr 5 Reviews 491 reads
posted
13 / 21
Re: Are many providers of the opinion that.....

You are correct sir.  

Posted By: Dan_Sing
I don't need to orgasm because this is business. He is not my lover, partner?

nipring12 31 Reviews 393 reads
posted
14 / 21
LOL Like sacrificing a virgin to a volcano

Makes me laugh just thinking about letting Bebe have her way with some innocent little 21 year old. I can imagine Bebe reaching out from the door to grab her than, after an hour of ear splitting screaming and moaning, Bebe walks out and there is the girl lying naked and unconscious in a pool of her own juices.

MissErinBlack See my TER Reviews 460 reads
posted
15 / 21
I wouldn't call that a correct assumption to make.

Some women don't want to orgasm with clients, some women can't, and others can orgasm all they like.

You can't classify all providers the same way when it comes to orgasming/not orgasming.

LucasHood 532 reads
posted
16 / 21
Re: orgasm

And show her the reviewer board?

Posted By: macdaddy1944
try to be more of a client than a gynecologist..

Jamie.Solo See my TER Reviews 537 reads
posted
17 / 21
I have met...

Before I did this- I met a few ladies that said that they had never had the big "O". One specifically- told me this, and I told her that I would be able to get her to. She didn't believe me. ..... I think she had at least 5 that night. I would definitely suggest having your girl be with another woman. We know what to do to make at happen!

As far as myself, when someone really puts the pressure on and is like I want you to "O" - that makes it harder. But if you just go with the flow and let things happen, I can every time. But maybe my piercing helps, ;-)

Dan_Sing 573 reads
posted
18 / 21
Thanks for the great responses- Very honest and forthright

Bottom line (pun intended) is that I would probably not see a provider for a second time that told me that or just plain did not seem to be "getting into it"...but I do appreciate all of the perspective

Posted By: Dan_Sing
I was with a 22 year old provider recently that has never had an orgasm. We had a good talk about it. I gave a few suggestions: relaxing, toys, various techniques, etc. She was very healthy minded about it: says it doesn't bother her, when it happens it happens, she enjoys sex without climax, etc.  
   
 Point is, I don't really enjoy sex unless my partner is also having a good time, being vocal, getting into it physically, etc. I really appreciated her concentrating on pleasing me - and she did. But there just wasn't the heightened arousal that happens when both are really into it. I have had this happen a couple of other times in the past with providers and had a similar feeling of disappointment that i didn't experience that connection.  
   
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Crisis25 657 reads
posted
19 / 21
Re: I have met...

I can think of a few ladies I need to sic you on.

Posted By: Jamie.Solo
Before I did this- I met a few ladies that said that they had never had the big "O". One specifically- told me this, and I told her that I would be able to get her to. She didn't believe me. ..... I think she had at least 5 that night. I would definitely suggest having your girl be with another woman. We know what to do to make at happen!  
   
 As far as myself, when someone really puts the pressure on and is like I want you to "O" - that makes it harder. But if you just go with the flow and let things happen, I can every time. But maybe my piercing helps, ;-)

Lewis_Black 474 reads
posted
20 / 21
So why do you keep trying when you can't.....

Make them cum?

Perhaps if your LITTLE DICK was  "FUCKING BIGGER" you didn't stink up the joint, and you washed your nasty ass from time to time.....she might enjoy it and have that elusive orgasm.

Butt for now you'll have to be content with paying for something you don't enjoy

MissErinBlack See my TER Reviews 437 reads
posted
21 / 21
Re: So why do you keep trying when you can't.....

Most women don't cum from penetration only. So your comment about the OP having a small dick is not only immature and asinine, but also uneducated. In fact, if she were to cum from g-spot stimulation, a smaller cock that curves upward would be more likely to make her cum than a giant cock ramming into her.

If you had a bad experience with the OP, that's fine. But your nasty comments have no merit in a conversation pertaining to female orgasm. He didn't attack anyone, he asked a question.  

Not to mention; if you wanted to be taken seriously, perhaps hiding behind an alias wasn't the best move

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