You may want to change your advertising away from VIP.  
Your definition of VIP is shared by you alone.  
There is no one here who thinks "VIP" means what you say it means. We all think it means BBBJ, DATY, and DFK'ing.  Advertising as a VIP provider, puts expectations on you, thus having the disconnects you are currently involved in.
It's misleading to guys who would like to meet you.  And your scores will only go down further.  VIP doesn't mean no BBBJ, etc.  
If you advertise yourself as a "safe-provider" thats fine.  You will attract those men who only want to participate safely.
There are plenty of gal's who promote CBJ's, and they do very very well