But I am very appreciative of the ladies that have given them to me. I did see a provider that gave them to other hobbyists not give one to me. It could be a case that she "was just not that into" me, or an oversight because she was busy. I have many ladies say that I can use them for references anytime, so if I asked for a whitelist, I think I would get it. I don't think they would exclude doing it to keep money to themselves, imo.
What you say makes sense. I usually prefer the whitelist as references involves some work (emailing references etc).
Did mine not show up? You are whitelisted, A listed and top o' the line on MY list, asiantantric!!
xxoo
Posted By: asiantantric
Just wanted to check with everyone on the board.
1. When a lady ignores your whitelist request would you see her again?
2. Do you think you are not being whitelisted because she does not like you?
3 Or does she like you a lot and does not want a good client spending money elsewhere?
4. Ladies why would you not whitelist someone?
You are really hot and I had a great time with you. Will see you again soon. I saw that you whitelisted me. Thank you very much....helps when hobbying out of town
nor have I ever assumed a lady would White List me. In fact i was kinda surprised when they started popping up. I appreciate the ladies who have went to the trouble [ they are opening themselves up to a lot of inquiries]....and it has been helpful in my travels.
I believe I have only 4 WL's, and never asked for them. I would hope that any provider you would ask would be happy to WL you. Why you would be ignored is a mystery.
I don't think the providers utilize the WL's enough. It could be that some of them don't realize that we appreciate them although they may only be mere tokens.
To give you a direct answer to question #1. No, I would probably not see her again. Asking for a WL is a very small favor in return for our support.
Yes I would not see them again too. The only conclusion one can draw is that she did not like the session.
To answer your OP:
1) If she ignored my whitelist request I would be hesitant to see her again...but primarily because she didn't want to acknowledge my request. Had she sent me a PM (email) saying that she is NOT comfortable for some reason to whitelist, then I would have no issues in seeing her again. If a gal wants to ignore my email request then there is certainly an issue moving forward (at least for me).
2) She frankly didn't LIKE me when I was there seeing her (as she certainly didn't really know me), so not whitelisting me probably had nothing whatsoever to do with her liking me...but more goes to her business in whether she believes in whitelisting or not.
3) She doesn't like me...but certainly has a fondness for my friends Ben, Benjy and Benjamin. Would she NOT whitelist me in hopes of "keeping me all to herself"? I would doubt that, and suggest that this is just not a part of how she likes to do her business.
4) I'm not a lady...so I'll leave this one blank 
I have never asked a gal to whitelist me, nor am I likely to request this in the future. I tend to keep my TER handle to myself for personal reasons, and will only occassionally share this with a gal (but over the past year that has simply been an unlikely occurence). The value of a whitelist is not high for me, and apparently not for any of the gals I have asked to see thus far. Should that change in the future and I see some benefit to this I may have a different opinion.
when traveling. Also some ladies like to see newer whitelists.
I think the white listing principle was lost on many providers. It is an endorsement of a hobbyist, just the same as a favorable review is of a provider. I have lost quite a few that I had due to banned/delisted providers. Others were removed in a blanket action by a few providers who erroneously thought some sort of legal jeopardy was tied to those listings. Still others were requested and then never left for some reason.
The purpose of white listing is to reciprocate a favorable review, by providing a similar endorsement. If you request a review, which takes a good amount of effort on the hobbyist's part, then be a big enough person to white list that hobbyist. One good turn deserves another...always!
I love the ladies who have white listed me and would always recommend them to fellow hobbyists
One thought is that looking at your reviews she might not want to be associated with some of your last dates more publicly.
These is still a lot of bias against the transgender community even in the liberal escorting/hobbying world. It's sad and hypocritical.
Or are you refering to the fact that the latest reviews are of backpage providers. They have reviews too so safety was not an issue.
It could also be the color of my skin, but i always mention I am in Indian when scheduling an appointment. Better not to have surprises and spoil the session.
As I understand what a white list is, a lady is vouching that you are a gentleman and safe to be with. It is not a 10/10 rating for males. In fact, one can be fat, homely and lousy in bed but gentle and respectful, and be worth of a whitelisting
Some ladies have a policy of not whitelisting, lest the gentleman act otherwise with others and leave them (the whitelister) with liability or the scorn of the board.
I have been honored with four whitelistings. Most have been from ladies I've seen multiple times and with whom I've developed a feeling of mutual trust. The fourth I had seen many times at M&Gs, saw once on a "date" and shall see again.
If I misunderstand what a whitelist is, please, ladies, correct my thinking.
Your point, "Some ladies have a policy of not whitelisting, lest the gentleman act otherwise with others and leave them (the whitelister) with liability or the scorn of the board. " makes sense. Hense a lady might wait for a few meeting before whitelisting.
If reminded, I try and immediately rectify it if I promised to and the client deserved it by being a gentleman and especially if there is a connection and tips are always a good way to be remembered for whitelisting.
I have occasionally purposefully not given a requested whitelist due to rudeness, poor hygiene or any other behavior that is unbecoming because if I whitelist a client that I didn't enjoy, my name is involved and makes me look bad and could possibly make a provider who sees that I vouched for a bad client a little irked with me for misleading her.
That's just my .02.
XXX-Giselle
someone you don't like is right thing to do. you don't want to endorse them. In such cases ignoring their request is best as you don't to respond and say you don't like them.
have you seen her more than once?
Ihave a few people I'd whitelist gladly but agencies aren't allowed which I disagree with quite strongly!
I have guys who use my service to see a few different ladies and Iknwo how they conduct themselves when happy with or not happy with the lady. I think agencies have a good idea of how a guy is.
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That's actually a good question, how come agencies can't whitelist?
they use to be able to but not anymore, I don't know why but even if they pay for VIP its not allowed.
White list privileges are part if the provider VIP package. So stop your whining- changes are made by the supporters, not the ones who advertise their services for FREE! I can't believe you make a living off girls and you still don't have the decency to NOT pay a lousy $25 to a source of your advertising.
Posted By: apropo
have you seen her more than once?
Ihave a few people I'd whitelist gladly but agencies aren't allowed which I disagree with quite strongly!
I have guys who use my service to see a few different ladies and Iknwo how they conduct themselves when happy with or not happy with the lady. I think agencies have a good idea of how a guy is.
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which alias are you today? I may pass a month here and there and not pay but for the most part I support TER. I'd rather pass on not paying TER for a month or 2 than turn into a thief like you do!
Keep guessing old lady!
Posted By: apropo
which alias are you today? I may pass a month here and there and not pay but for the most part I support TER. I'd rather pass on not paying TER for a month or 2 than turn into a thief like you do!
Otherwise, I go under the assumption the hobbyist prefers anonymity.
Posted By: asiantantric
Just wanted to check with everyone on the board.
1. When a lady ignores your whitelist request would you see her again?
2. Do you think you are not being whitelisted because she does not like you?
3 Or does she like you a lot and does not want a good client spending money elsewhere?
4. Ladies why would you not whitelist someone?
Makes sense. A review in exchange for a whitelist is fair.
I don't white list everyone, I reserve it for repeat guests who I can vouch for 100%. Because in effect by providing a white list I am saying that you are such a great guy and I can vouch for you without the searching provider contacting me. That is alot of responsibility considering how many will try to use another gents info to gain access to a lady. Anywho, if i have only visited once or there is something that needs said about a gent I will decline white listing NOT because I didn't like him but because I need to actually be able to have a few words with the provider needing reference. Maybe he is disabled and needs added help, or has severe ED and needs special attention, perhaps he is just overly shy and will not move the session forward without a little push from the provider he is with. Maybe he was nasty with TP and #2 stuck to the crack, refused to shower though the scent wafting is very unpleasent, wishes for a gas mask entangling the soul through a very spirited BJ, or he grabbed the back of my head and almost choked me till tears were coming out of my eyes. There are a million things that could happen on a date that might be helpful to pass on to the next lady, though only the most extream merit withholding. Again, it is NOT because I don't enjoy my time, trust me if I don't it will be very evident.
Just ask, there may be a reason and guessing is just going to drive you insane. A reputable provider NEVER withholds a white list simply because she wants to keep you to herself, if that is her reason then she is not in fact reputable
Excellent points and well balanced views....that's why I like you
