The reason is, people DO have pictures online these days and if the picture matches their profiles on various sites, it helps with verification.
It all began when I saw this lady's two TER reviews, had a look at her website and Backpage ads [yes, BP], thought it appealing and decided to take a chance.
I wrote her concisely and respectfully requesting an appointment, and she wrote back "As you know,your name is fairly popular,so I would just need a linkedin (with a pic) or something similar as well as a phone number."
All right! My name is popular! Who knew? And "a linkedin (with a pic)." Well, who doesn't have that, right? A linkedin? Yes, I'm aware of the business-related social media site, LinkedIn, though I'm unclear about the relationship between LinkedIn and "a linkedin."
Anyway, I wrote back, providing my RS2K information and sent her an actual candid headshot photo taken over the weekend. Silly me.
And, yes, I noted that I was neither the locally based CEO of a nationally known charitable organization, nor the actor, nor the California computer scientist with whom I share a first and last name. I gave her my cell phone number [part of the RS2K information set] and invited her to call.
And her reply?
"I appreciate the photo,but I'm trying to tie it to your identity,ie make sure you're not a cop or have harmed other providers.Calling you or checking with rs2k with do neither of those things unfortunately.I have to decline and will delete your info.Sorry."
The broken English aside, I now wonder whether LinkedIn also serves as a "provider verification" site.
I have since moved on. I hope the lady deleted my personal information.
Every one of us have our own way of verificaton, so that is her way and no one can fault her for what makes her feel comfortable. However, in my opinion you provided plenty of info for verification and I would like to think for the majority of us ladies we would have accepted your request.
Ok, wait....I can only speak for myself. I would have accepted the info you provided.
Wish you the best on your next request sweetie.
Sincerely..
*Kendall*
I have never used it. but her verification is deff not up to par.
Consider yourself lucky. Her pics are fake or at least 10 years old. Also read the caption on her site for the pics. Some of them aren't her but pics of people "wearing the same clothes she owns"
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That's something you NEVER should do! The little head got the best of you on that. For your sake, I hope she does delete your personal information. Consider it a lesson learned.
The reason is, people DO have pictures online these days and if the picture matches their profiles on various sites, it helps with verification.
I wrote her concisely and respectfully requesting an appointment, and she wrote back "As you know,your name is fairly popular,so I would just need a linkedin (with a pic) or something similar as well as a phone number."
All right! My name is popular! Who knew? And "a linkedin (with a pic)." Well, who doesn't have that, right? A linkedin? Yes, I'm aware of the business-related social media site, LinkedIn, though I'm unclear about the relationship between LinkedIn and "a linkedin."
Anyway, I wrote back, providing my RS2K information and sent her an actual candid headshot photo taken over the weekend. Silly me.
And, yes, I noted that I was neither the locally based CEO of a nationally known charitable organization, nor the actor, nor the California computer scientist with whom I share a first and last name. I gave her my cell phone number [part of the RS2K information set] and invited her to call.
And her reply?
"I appreciate the photo,but I'm trying to tie it to your identity,ie make sure you're not a cop or have harmed other providers.Calling you or checking with rs2k with do neither of those things unfortunately.I have to decline and will delete your info.Sorry."
The broken English aside, I now wonder whether LinkedIn also serves as a "provider verification" site.
I have since moved on. I hope the lady deleted my personal information.
She was probably trying to ascertain if you were the CEO or the actor so she could upsell the shit out of you or else blackmail you. Unfortunately (for her) you weren't. But seriously, no provider needs to see a photo of you or know where you work. If the verification service info you provide isn't good enough, just move on.
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I suspect her motive was in fact blackmail. It has happened to me twice (not with BP girls, but on dating sites). I am not sure why she would want your picture for any legitimate reason (you could send a fake so that is not much of verification). She must have wanted to ascertain if you were "the" xyz famous person.
LinkedIn however does make some sense for verification - she can see your employment information as well as your contacts list. It would give her a million ways to verify you (checking with a random contact for a business reference for example), as well as current and past employment info which is routinely used for verification as welll by many ladies. And it would be nearly impossible for a sting operation to create an effective "fake" linkedin account because the contacts would have to be faked (and she would know when you asked a couple of contacts for a business reference).
However, LinkedIn would also give her access to all of your contacts for purposes less sanguine. Having been blackmailed through threat to expose my activities to my colleagues (by the supposed ex boyfriend of a girl I met online), I can tell you that is a scary prospect.
Social networking sites help a lot. Sometimes looking at someone's profile goes a long way. Please understand that the first time the lady meets you, you are a stranger.
It's either a scam, LE or a service that posts for multiple girls. Btw- did anyone google those pics? I'd be interested to see what you find.
I agree that no photo is needed. If your a member of RS2K all those questions she had would have been answered. My guess is that she's not a member and doesn't want to admit it. I've used LinkedIn as a supplement in verification (ie few references, reviews or white lists) however never as a sole resource.
Good luck and happy Hobbying!!!
Xoxo
VC
I wrote her concisely and respectfully requesting an appointment, and she wrote back "As you know,your name is fairly popular,so I would just need a linkedin (with a pic) or something similar as well as a phone number."
All right! My name is popular! Who knew? And "a linkedin (with a pic)." Well, who doesn't have that, right? A linkedin? Yes, I'm aware of the business-related social media site, LinkedIn, though I'm unclear about the relationship between LinkedIn and "a linkedin."
Anyway, I wrote back, providing my RS2K information and sent her an actual candid headshot photo taken over the weekend. Silly me.
And, yes, I noted that I was neither the locally based CEO of a nationally known charitable organization, nor the actor, nor the California computer scientist with whom I share a first and last name. I gave her my cell phone number [part of the RS2K information set] and invited her to call.
And her reply?
"I appreciate the photo,but I'm trying to tie it to your identity,ie make sure you're not a cop or have harmed other providers.Calling you or checking with rs2k with do neither of those things unfortunately.I have to decline and will delete your info.Sorry."
The broken English aside, I now wonder whether LinkedIn also serves as a "provider verification" site.
I have since moved on. I hope the lady deleted my personal information.
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A lot of women are not.. so that is useless to her. Without that she does need other ways to verify you. I am not a member of datecheck so if that is all a guy has that wont work for me either. We all come about a feeling of safety in our own ways. A presence on the web is certainly widely used to that means. Not unusual for somebody to ask for a pic at all in fact for some girls it is a requirement. Obviously you have to gage what YOU feel is safe at the same time she is.
I think a gent can check if a provider has a verification account with RS2K by scrolling all the way down on the left (the side with the list of pretty providers) until you get to the bottom of lets say the Chicago market. It then gives little tiles without pics but the names of "RS2000 Providers". I assumed those are women with accounts for verification only.
I can second the previous poster's comments re: this "provider" - I have seen her once, maybe a year ago - pics are very old or not her at all - I sent her a follow-up email after our session and she got really weird - decided I was better off forgetting about it!
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