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Can anyone help me find a psychiatrist in the Chicago area?
5terrance1939 1207 reads
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I'm about to get married and have an inadequate sex drive that may prevent me from satisfying my wife--obviously a serious problem.  It's possibly due to medication I take for depression/BPD.  
  I asked for help on The Erotic Highway and was recommended to find a psychiatrist who deals with psychiatric medications in this context.  It's posted under "About to get married and concerned with lack of sex drive."  (Wish I knew how to post a link, but I don't.)
  I'd really be grateful for any suggestions.
Thanks.
Terry

I'm trying not to make fun ijust n case ur serious, but i'm confused.  Ur afraid u can't satisfy your future wife, (havn't u taken her out for a test drive to see what happens?), so ur looking 4 help finding a dr on a site for guys who can't get enuff???

Please understand.  I have too much respect for the people here to be pulling your leg.  I am serious and I came here because I thought I might find some insight--and have.  It just seemed to me that people who don't suffer from my problem but are experienced in the area, even from a different perspective, could offer me some valuable wisdom, and several have.
I am not the 40 year old virgin.  My intended and I have been living together for several months.  Beyond that I've had other relationships in the past where the problem came up, sometimes to the extent of destroying the relationship.  The problem has repeated itself enough that I know I am the one at "fault" and not my partner.
This is the first woman I've ever proposed to, and happily she said yes.  I really think this could be something good and I want to take every precaution possible not to ruin it.

Assuming you two weren't saving yourself for marriage (in which case, I don't know what the hell you're doing on a board like this), have you considered that your future wife has entered into this engagement with full knowledge of your sex drive levels, and is actually comfortable with it? Many women (not all) have lower sex drives. Don't assume she needs to be needs to be sexed up 24/7 unless you have actually talked with her and she's expressed this sentiment. Second women are just plain old more versatile than men. We don't always need a penis or even actual penetration for satisfaction.  Consider, say, toys, fingers, or even just a really fantastic back/body massage.

In short, if you've assumed a problem before even talking with her, then this really an issue about your mental perceptions of an inadequacy that may or may not even exist in reality (at least in any way that would actually pose a problem for your relationship), and if she has expressed a desire for me, put your penis ego aside and realize you can rock her socks with a great deal more than your cock.

And a note on the drugs in general-consider doing a full round of neurofeedback. It's designed to naturally "teach" your brain to regulate itself into more ideal brainwave states, and many, many people who have undergone it either no longer need drugs, or else need a drastically decreased dose. I can promise you a reduction or elimination in the drugs will increase your quality of life far outside the bedroom.

Assuming this is a serious post, which I doubt, and assuming your fiancee has a brain, I think your risk of not satisfying her is much greater in the intelligence department than anything sexual.

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