Question for providers- what do you look for in an date request email that would generate a response back? I’ve been trying to schedule a duo date for my birthday next week and have emailed three different women (who state they provide duos) a standard message with no response back.
“Hi, my name is XX and I am interested in a XX min duo date on April XX. I am happy to share any screening requirements you have and provide a deposit. Thank youLinkedIn profile URL” Am I missing something? Or should I wait to request a duo date? Any advice is welcome!
have you double checked their sites/postings to see whether they specify their screening requirements?
If they spell out their screening requirements, and you are not providing the information they request, they may assume that you're a screening risk (i.e. "I'm not providing the information you'd requested, because I know it will disqualify me"), inconsiderate (i.e. "your rules don't matter to me") or narcissistic (i.e. "I am so awesome, your rules don't apply to me"). If they suspect any of these might be the case, they may decide that its not worth the effort.
Its great that you are upfront with acknowledging screening is a thing many providers want.
But if you are providing Linkedin, and the providers don't list Linkedin as a way they screen, it makes it seem like you haven't read their ad or website.
Not reading an ad or website can often be a turn-off to a dead end
Maybe revisit the ads of the providers you have reached out to and see what they request?
You've already got great suggestions around confirming their existing screening requirements. Adding to this: do any of these companions suggest whether they will/not offer duos on a first date? Policy on this is pretty split, and it's worth investigating their site and ad(s) first, and asking them if it's not clear.
Also, a week's notice is somewhat last minute for a lot of companions, and even harder to accomplish when working with two seperate companion's schedules. Instead of requesting a specific day, have you considered including more flexibility into your requested time frame? (Ex-sometime during the week of April XX, rather than a very specific day.)
A week’s notice is too short? I understand time is valuable and some providers aren’t doing this as their first income but how is a week, short notice? Sure, there may be a conflict which happens and is understandable but at a week I’d say he’s absolutely fine on notice.
As I said, it depends on the companion. All companions I know (both part and full time) have cap on how many dates we're willing to take on in a week or month. Once we hit that cap, we're booked for that span of time.
All the companions I personally know, myself included, have schedules like this: totally or near booked with short notice (less than a week) and many other bookings and personal appointments scheduled throughout the next 4-6 weeks. Companions also have, you know, normal human stuff in our calendar too.
So, you *might* be able to see one companion with a week's notice, sometimes. But a duo requires having 2 companions schedules both being open. Add in that the OP had a specific date (rather than a flexible time range) a week away, and you're going to get a lot of not availables.
Agency providers are very different, and companions who very new or else short term (get in, make money until you burn out in a year) will also take every offer available. I can only speak about the companions I know-and those have all been a companion for 2-10+ years, and plan on staying for a while.
Thank you all for the tips. I think the biggest lesson learned is to check my spam folder before making any assumptions! I had multiple emails in there- dang protonmail! I assumed that any email reply to a message I sent would be safely delivered to my inbox.
At the end of the day, only 1 person did not respond. I feel like such a dope.