A lovely woman i met once has texted me randomly a few times and i am fearful of telling her that i can’t get these texts without risk of my spouse seeing them. I realize it’s a form of marketing and staying in touch but I’m worried about offending her. How to i handle this?

Call or text her that you can't receive text messages from her. Kindly tell her you'll contact her when you can see her. Or get a burner phone.

I would email her telling that your preferred method of contact is email and you cannot receive texts, if she cares at all about your discretion and business she will stop.

Dont be afraid to speak up! We don't want to get you in trouble. Also save any numbers under guys names or guy related places like plumbing or cars etc. When I text it's always a simple hi... In this work you should always be discreet on both sides!

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Then keep it turned off and hidden in your garage under a pile of tools or something where your SO will never look.  Not under the spare-tire in your car, because then your SO will get a flat for sure.    A Trac phone costs like $30 and $99 a year for service, easy and cheap.  There are also guys who use a secret App that runs on your smart phone, to avoid having to hide or explain if the phone is found. It's easy to search in the newbie forum for advice on this topic.  

One huge rule of this hobby is to never use your regular work or personal phone or email.  

I agree with above advice to block this gal's number, then notify her and nicely tell her you have a new phone # and you'll call her.  Good luck, stay safe!

Great advice from enough to decide. If you wish to see her again, contact her and let her know what’s up. I’d also go with an app you don’t save your word on so if wifey finds it and questions it, I’m sure you will quickly have a hood reply lol.

It’s as simple as that. No one wants to get anyone in trouble.

I know a lot of ladies do this, but it screams "lack of concern for a client's discretion" to me, at least.

I have wondered often how common this is.  I've even had a couple guys ask me why they never heard from me again, after meeting once or twice, and that they thought I must not want to see them, if I was avaiable, in their area, and never reached out... but my mentors, when I was new to this, told me NEVER to contact a client who has not specifically asked you to contact them, even if you believe them to be single.  

I just assume that if you want to see me, you will call/text/email me.   In my bedroom, we play by my rules, but we meet at YOUR request, when YOU feel the need... and my schedule allows.