I have a question of protocol. I know it's customary to provide the donation up front which I always have done in the past.

If I were planning an overnight session with a reviewed provider but still maybe a little worried about the grab and dash stories would it be ok to provide half up front and half the next morning?

I dont think this lady would do that but it's a decent chunk of cash and I hate to wind up with just a very expensive first kiss.

I also hope to suggest this would not be offending to the provider. I dont wish to do that.

Providers? Hobbyists?

What do you suggest? Think? past experience?

Thanks

Since I do not ask for a donation up front, I wouldn't expect it.  Of course, it's nice when a man just takes care of business right at the get-go.  But we're not speaking of a regular hourly type of appointment.

I would think that if you did your research and was seeing a reputable lady, then your worries would be unfounded.  And if she was someone like me who didn't collect up front (I know.  Many disagree with my methods.), then it would be rather insulting to pay me half up front and then pay the other half if I had been a good girl.

I know that this is a very subjective answer to your question, but the few times that I've spent the night with someone it has been with someone that I trust and already know, or have screened heavily and as a result just didn't have an issue with him paying or not.  Although, I will admit that one time, I was shortchanged.

It probably has a lot to do with the "type" of ladies that you choose to see as well whether you have that comfort level of paying her completely up front.  And of course, that is ultimately your decision.

So how is that for a convoluted answer!

Hugs,
Elisabeth

Talk to the provider and express your concern.  If she is a well reviewed provider though chances are you have no worries about her grab and dashing.  I know I would not ruin my reputation by doing something like that.  But I am sure she will be just fine with you giving her half in the beginning and the rest at the end.  Just ask her nicely and be sure you at least prove to her you have the entire donation though!  Because it works both ways.  What if you give her half and then the session is over and you dont give her the other half???  What can she do?? Nothing!!  

So be sure to prove by showing her you have the entire donation but you want to assure she stays.  But like I said, if she is a well reviewed lady,  you should have no worries about giving her the whole donation up front and just having a great time and make it a memorable time!

Have fun!

Ask her in advance how donation is dealt with for longer visits.

If you have any concerns at all, why are you doing an overnight session?

You should have complete trust (and it works both ways) before you do an overnighter.

How would a lady who has never spent time with you before know. Trust is a two way street but i'm not sure I would trust a perfect stranger no matter how good his reputation might be. I do spend a weekend with a few special friends and they might hand me the envelope mid stream or in the end but we have a long history.

Don't do it but be sure you have done your homework. Why would you plan to spend an evening with someone you have any negative thoughts about. Your distrust of this lady will land up making your "I forgot it's a service" a lot less intimate and romantic just by making money talk so important.

Kisses Haley

To be honest an overnight with someone you have not met nor know if you have anything iin common with isn't a good idea.  Best to get to know a lady and progress to that.

Cannot imagine why you would spend the night with someone who you do not know and trust enough to pay up front.

Zig

As its obvious you are not ready to make this step with the lady in question.  Have you ever spent time with her before?  Its always a good idea to see a lady first before booking a long, extended appointment.  If you have, and she is trustworthy, why are you even asking this question?

I am not trying to take biz away from another lady, but most reputable ladies would find your actions offensive.  You pay up front.  Most ladies would be more inclined to believe you may short them at the end.  Its sad to say, but in this economy, it does happen.

If you book an overnight, know your companion.  Have a track record with her.  Make sure she is someone you trust and will enjoy spending a long appointment with.  (What if the two of you have no chemistry and you have booked an overnight?). Then pay her "up front."

The ladies reviews should greatly help. What do they convey? EZ

and never take such a big step with someone you don't fully trust. Overnighter's should never happen on a first meeting and probably not on a second meeting either. There's a large degree of trust on both sides for long appointments and it takes time to build that trust on both sides.

Don't do it, big mistake...

Why even chance it with someone you might suspect of cash and dash.  There are sooo many wonderful beautiful known providers who would most likely give you the time of your life, why take the chance!
Just my two cents, as someone who just had their first overnight!  Woo Hoo!!
Good luck!
JJ

When you go to the grocery store do you pay half....then come back and pay the other half after you eat the food?


It sounds very simple, but that is kinda what you are asking to do........and it would be a hugeeeeeeeeeee turn off for me.....how would you overcome a turned off provider? when the reason she is now turned off is due to your own assumptions that she is a thief?.....YOU CAN'T....we show up ready to play, baby sitters are paid for, other guys have been turned down, our brains are set to rock your world. When you set a session with someone and all expectations are very clear....when there is any slight hint of some drama....as a provider, I can tell you....it totally waters down my performance.

If I stayed, I would probably stay for the amount of time half my donation covered then leave.....there would probably be no way to talk me into staying any longer than that even if you produced the other half of the fee.

I believe that the advice from those suggesting no overnight without getting to know the woman ahead of time are right on.

I also believe those suggesting ways around it miss the great advice of those suggesting you should have created some rapport prior to an overnight.

Do a four hour dinner date and sleep alone after. You'll need it after that.