When meeting someone new or even continuing to date, how open are you about discussing the type of porn your watch? Everyone has different fetishes and some are more intense than others in my humble opinion.
My question to the board: are you comfortable sharing your porn preferences if a gf or date asks? Do you share these desires with your SO? I have been in situations where even my date will kind of talk about it but won't commit to the desires they have.
-SB
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Yes I would tell her, if any guy says no he doesn't watch, he most likely is full of BS. But I'm pretty vanilla in what I like, girl on girl, girl on guy, nothing to kinky. And for the ladies in the hobby, oh hell yes I would tell them, why not, were here to have fun aren't we. :
I'm a black man but I love interracial porn. If I was dating a black woman, I probably would not was to put my love of interracial porn too high on the list if I felt it would cause her to feel I was less attracted to her.
I understand that she most likely it open to things that I may not even be into. I am content enough to share that unlike many other people I am not into Greek and have never tried it even in my civvie lifestyle.
I think porn is like a cooking show. It provides IDEAS that appeal to different tastes, flavors, and ingredients. Appealing to different types of people/palates. When I make a date I have an idea about the type of providers she is and how she is appealing to my tastes. I understand that by hobbying she most likely would need to be familiar with pleasures outside my own individual tastes, but during my visit she becomes attuned to my pleasures.
My flavor of porn really has not become a discussion even though that I am sure that there are undertones of influence from what I've observed and probably some influences of what she's observed/experienced. My focus though is on the amount of pleasure I can feel from this visit and hopefully hers is too.
I think there's some confusion about your question. Are you asking about telling providers or civvie gf's?
In general, how comfortable are you discussing your porn tastes. Either with gf or provider.
If asked I share openly. If someone can't handle my kinks then it's easy enough to move on. I am what I am.
Yes, I think people should not be ashamed about what they like even if it's really kinky. Anything between two consenting adults, that is. There are the obvious taboos that are illegal for obvious reasons
I had that topic come up with a guy I was seeing recently, and we were very open about our preferences! (Unless he was holding something back) I, however, was pretty upfront about my love for gagging and rough play!
There is a local provider to whom I once gave a favorable review after my first visit with her, but whom —following a subsequent visit— I really ought to have called out for her persistence in attempting to demean clients for viewing porn.
If I cared enough about the lady or her services, I would wonder what the backstory is. My takeaway was a clearer recognition of passive-aggressive behavior.
The shame —and the loss of clientele— is on her.
The upside of paying for sex is that the financial tribute is insurance against having to care about the person, their unpleasant characteristics and attitude problems —and, aside from the sex itself, one often obtains useful lessons about women in general and their behavior that might otherwise require a greater investment.
I would offer her name on request, but that would only be providing free publicity.
Peace and Love, Everyone …
It's unfortunate that a provider would make you feel ashamed for something that belongs to the hobby. It's a celebration of erotism where people can be safe to act on their impulses and desires. Hopefully you have experienced more pleasurable experience than this.
I'm all about being open. If they can't get with it then they are not for you. Best to have an open, thorough, open minded, adult convo about it. I've made porn, I've promoted porn, but I'm not addicted lol.
I've watched porn with a few partners and It's usually gangbang or creampie porn. And they liked it as well and thought it was pretty hot and extreme that i'm into that porn. But in reality If it's just me watching porn I would prefer for a girl to be getting dominated,taking multiple cocks and over all being destroyed lol And that's really not going to fly with most people ha!! So I try to keep it vanilla unless I know they are REALLY into that stuff.....
After I have seen a girl and we have enjoyed a good session, then perhaps the next time, I'll pull up a photo of a hot fetish scene that I might like to try with her and say "Hey can I show you a cool picture?" and see how she responds. In most cases the girls have said something favorable about it, or shown some curiosity about it. When that happens, we might try something like the fantasy or role-play scenario right then and there.
And any time a girl brings it up, I'm happy to share my role-play fantasy with her. Some girls do ask, or hint at something, which is a great lead into a memorable session
