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Let's say that all providers sell chairs. Different providers sell different chairs, and a few may sell several different types. Let's say I sell computer chairs. A potential customer walks in, telling me he's really interested in my merchandise, but I can't help but notice that he's trying to get them to lean back, searching for the handle that will make some lower part extend so he can kick up his feet, and is figuring out if the arm rest will hold his remote control. I suggest to him that it looks like he's looking for a lazy boy, and that a fellow dealer sells those just down the street. Instead of a thank you and and heading out the door, I get an angry guy bitching about the fact that he's looking for a chair, and I'm in the wrong for not selling him one.
Any lady who reads her own email has seen a lot of different correspondence approaches. She's had the time and experience to match up those approaches with the guy and encounter that most often comes out of each correspondence style, and as a result, she probably has a pretty good handle of pickup up on which ones will result in good, bad, or ugly encounters. I realize that we're all supposed to be money grubbing whores over there, but guys, if a lady turns you down, it's probably because she knows neither of you are going to have the awesome time that you're envisioning in your head. Let her do you that favor, instead of ending up pissed off about feeling conned into chair you really wish you hadn't blown your money on. Any ethical companion accepts that screening goes beyond the posted requirements, and that the question of a positive fit must come into play whenever it's possible to determine such.
I rarely run across this issue, but every so often it does rear its ugly head. Most companion related issues aren't ever worth posting about, since as you boys know, the parties who need to read it most aren't the ones reading the boards and I'd just be preaching to the choir. However, since the people who throw the biggest fit (sometimes to the point of frothing verbal violence) invariably include "I'm on TER..." often alongside "with many reviews" or "many whitelists" in their original message, it does seem particularly apt to post this message here. (To note: while the men who throw the hissy fits are TER players, this in no way means that ALL men on TER throw hissy fits. A subtle, but distinct difference here. 
There exists a number of lovely men I've met or corresponded with who are clearly respectful and mature, who are active players on TER.)
...eomAny lady who reads her own email has seen a lot of different correspondence approaches. She's had the time and experience to match up those approaches with the guy and encounter that most often comes out of each correspondence style, and as a result, she probably has a pretty good handle of pickup up on which ones will result in good, bad, or ugly encounters. I realize that we're all supposed to be money grubbing whores over there, but guys, if a lady turns you down, it's probably because she knows neither of you are going to have the awesome time that you're envisioning in your head. Let her do you that favor, instead of ending up pissed off about feeling conned into chair you really wish you hadn't blown your money on. Any ethical companion accepts that screening goes beyond the posted requirements, and that the question of a positive fit must come into play whenever it's possible to determine such.
I rarely run across this issue, but every so often it does rear its ugly head. Most companion related issues aren't ever worth posting about, since as you boys know, the parties who need to read it most aren't the ones reading the boards and I'd just be preaching to the choir. However, since the people who throw the biggest fit (sometimes to the point of frothing verbal violence) invariably include "I'm on TER..." often alongside "with many reviews" or "many whitelists" in their original message, it does seem particularly apt to post this message here. (To note: while the men who throw the hissy fits are TER players, this in no way means that ALL men on TER throw hissy fits. A subtle, but distinct difference here.
There exists a number of lovely men I've met or corresponded with who are clearly respectful and mature, who are active players on TER.)
Yish. If he was a jerk to you about it, he really sounds like a guy that should get used to sitting on the floor, with NO chairs at all. Or at least until he can conduct himself like a gentleman while he is chair shopping!