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textmaster 2 Reviews 1019 reads
posted
1 / 26

I find a number of providers overdo it and sounds fake. Are there providers that you think that do not fake it and truly let you know when they enjoy it?  Who are they?  The faking is a real turn off..

adrianamonet See my TER Reviews 600 reads
posted
2 / 26

Does the projection of an expectation that a woman will "fake" it ruin her ability to relax and do what is natural for her? Catch-22. Often, its also a projection that he subconsciously cannot possibly believe that he is turning her on, is capable of pleasuring her, etc..  Pessimism and orgasm are not bed-fellows.

Women, after all, are cerebral creatures. If you get into a woman's head while she is trying to enjoy herself, then you are going to receive either: what you were expecting in the first place i.e. "The Fake", or her settling on fulfilling your needs rather than the both of you enjoying fulfilling each others. A pity

HangingwithBears 919 reads
posted
3 / 26

For most men, it's impossible to know if a woman is really enjoying it. We're so used to women faking pleasure and O's, it's a safe assumption that she's faking it even when she isn't. Having said this, there are a few providers I *think* I can tell if they're enjoying themselves or simply going through the motions. It takes a long time and many sessions to get to a point where we have any chance of figuring out whether it's fake or real. And just when we think we have her figured out, something changes that throws us completely off, e.g., something that never bothered her before suddenly bothers her greatly and you wonder why this started all of a sudden or if it was there all along and she was doing a good job of hiding it.

All we can do is seek out women who seem like they enjoy the pleasure we attempt to give. I agree that if both are into it, the experience is amazing. But this hobby is full of fakers so even when we find a provider who doesn't seem to be faking it, we still wonder. A sudden change in her behavior is a boner killer and I speak from experience in saying this

FatElvis 23 Reviews 539 reads
posted
4 / 26

Over thinking and worrying about whether or not.a.provider is or isn't faking her enjoyment is a great way to ruin a session and come away feeling shitty. And that's a shame. What a bummer :(

Zana12345 See my TER Reviews 545 reads
posted
5 / 26

That I am all over the internet with porn so when gentlemen meet me they expect all the same noises when everyone is different (even in Porn) ~
I have fun. That is why I like to talk to the person before hand to get to know that we can have good chemistry. I tend to get noisy... that is why music is on and doors are closed... LOL
I am pretty "easy" ~~ I know... I left that one open! LOL
I just feel that if people (women) are faking it then how are they going to "really" have fun?? Just my opinion!  

Love
Zan

random456 16 Reviews 670 reads
posted
6 / 26

I think Amy Xperience (TER ID: 149453) is a provider who is very easy to bring to an orgasm, and she is not likely to fake it. The very first time I saw her, she broke out in sweat when she had an orgasm. Her back was dry just before, and 10 seconds later, it was covered with sweat. It seems to me that this is very difficult to fake. We've talked about what she likes and what she doesn't, and she seems pretty honest about this.

In general, you can improve your chances that the provider will really enjoy herself and not fake it, you should ask her what she likes. If you give the impression that you think that you are a fantastic lover whose ego will be bruised if a provider gives you some pointers, then the provider will really feel the pressure to fake it. But, if you ask her to teach you how to please a woman, then you are more likely to get some honesty.

Of course, some providers simply can't have orgasms with some (or any) clients. In these cases, it will probably be harder to get them to be honest, as they might be afraid that they'll lose your business. But, they still might enjoy themselves somewhat, and if you ask what they like, I think that you'll minimize the chances that they'll be faking it.

Jacque_Jenesais See my TER Reviews 516 reads
posted
7 / 26

The same way a guy feels when he thinks she's faking.

I guess I can understand it sounds patronizing, but I'm hoping he wasn't mean about it.

ThisGuy758888 5 Reviews 470 reads
posted
8 / 26

Not gonna lie, I actually enjoy the moaning, fake or real it actually gets me going. A girl could sit next to me and start moaning and I'll be at attention in a few.

soul50man 14 Reviews 531 reads
posted
9 / 26

Except one time where the girl seem to be enjoying herself so much I just thought it must be fake. I'm not that good. I think.

rockymuffy 28 Reviews 625 reads
posted
10 / 26

Consider yourself fortunate to hear the moaning and go with it. There is no sound better than a woman being pleasured. The sounds are like music to the ears and lets you know your on the right path. I'm a screamer myself and love to join in when things are going well. This is the ultimate time to enjoy why ruin it by saying something stupid? There is nothing worse than not getting any reaction or moaning in this case Silence is not Golden. I'm not repeating unless there is some feed back during playtime some dirty talk, likes, dislikes and moaning.

sertab123 25 Reviews 563 reads
posted
11 / 26

I personally love to hear a girl moan as I'm we're doing the deed :). But at the same time if she's just moaning for the sake of making me think I'm doing good and the physical signs aren't there I.E. moistness, sweating, heavy breathing then why bother. I would rather get pointers, no two bodies are the same and the chemistry doesn't always work. I guess in short keep up the moaning.

sertab123 25 Reviews 354 reads
posted
12 / 26
FatElvis 23 Reviews 439 reads
posted
13 / 26

I guess stuff like this must come with the territory, but God....how awful!

Good on you for shutting it down.

FatElvis 23 Reviews 539 reads
posted
14 / 26

Sex is a whole lot more fun when you're able to give pleasure as well as receive!!!

:)

NDIB 23 Reviews 473 reads
posted
15 / 26

And it is feels good for her to tell me what she likes, how she likes it, and her experiences.

earthshined 564 reads
posted
16 / 26

they feel it's their "job" to satisfy our egos.

If she is not "in the mood" we can do other things.

Crisis25 590 reads
posted
18 / 26

I know a couple who don't fake. In this realm and with a fuck buddy I've encountered screamers who also get a vice grip on me or even push me out.

earthshined 356 reads
posted
19 / 26

exactly what you should have done.  

IMO, It would have been appropriate to tell him to never contact you again.

Attitude is very important and can make or break a good time.

 I had an experience a few years back with a provider that was evidence of that fact. It was my first appointment with her and as soon as I walked in I thought it was not going to go well. She didn't smile at all. In fact, she looked disappointed or indifferent when I walked in.  I was feeling a little uncomfortable because she was younger than the ladies I usually see. Also, I had a bad day at work and was not myself. There was some uncomfortable conversation and, at times, awkward sex. We just were not on the same page that day. Finally, we were done and I'm thinking I'll never see her again. As I was getting dressed to leave she complimented me on my attire, thanked me for the appointment, and said she'd like to see me again. I thought to myself WTH ??? The thing is she didn't let the circumstances affect her attitude. The next day I sent her an  email. We ended up seeing each other a couple of times after that.

resource101 108 Reviews 495 reads
posted
20 / 26

I love hearing moaning. I never worry about it being fake. If it is, fine, and if not , that's fine also. I usually see providers multiple times so I think that the extra connection makes the sounds I hear more sincere. I also don't worry about my partners O's. Hey, if she has one, great and if not, that's okay too. I don't know how many appointments she'll have before me or after and frankly, that's her business. If she pushes me towards one, I help all I can. Let's just have fun out there.

HangingwithBears 522 reads
posted
21 / 26

I wasn't actually talking about this kind of change. Nothing of a sexual nature. But as far as the sex is concerned, by all means I'd want her to speak up and say what she wants. I like women who give direction for more pleasure.

The other kind of change is more suitable for a separate thread. Sorry for mixing things up.
Posted By: AlysonParker
I ask this sincerely: if something that once felt good changed, would you rather the lady say something or would you rather she keep things status quo even if it really was not working for her?

HangingwithBears 442 reads
posted
22 / 26

I get some of my best O's recalling that hot Cali stripper who danced completely nude with her hot ass in my face. Or the stripper who slowwwwllly pulled down her G-string and revealed her ass a little at a time. Or sometimes the hottie who ground me on a couch in the VIP room topless while I played with her tits. And then there's that unbelievably hot Polish girl from Heavenly Bodies who I wanted to snake into a corner away from the cameras and fuck her brains out...

So many visually stimulating memories from the strip club tour days - very hot :-)

Erik_S 30 Reviews 387 reads
posted
23 / 26

I guess that's why I never say anything when I think a girl might be overdoing it with the noise. Because I could be wrong. And if I ask her to be respectful to me then I certainly want to be respectful to her. She's doing me QUITE a favor!!!

holdmybearclaw 462 reads
posted
24 / 26

When I turned 29 I decided I didn't care anymore and, not coincidentally, sex became a lot better. If you fill your head with worrying about BS like this you won't enjoy yourself.

I'm willing to do just about anything to get my partner off. The way I see it, if someone is going to fake their way through instead of guide me or tell me what they like then it's their loss.

WICardinalfan 497 reads
posted
25 / 26

Silence is golden, sometimes.

I cannot stand when a provider is quite.  Being older my self esteme as a lover is not the best it has been when I was 30.  I can use all the encouragement I can get.

Often, when I am DATY, I will let the provider know I take direction well.  Most jump on the opportunity to guide me while in the promised land and I am damn glad they do.

Hearing the grasshoppers of summer is not my idea of a fun time while in the sack with a sweetie. Unless we are naked, have the window open, snuggling, and listening.

Zana12345 See my TER Reviews 469 reads
posted
26 / 26

You are so sweet... It is real... sometimes when I had to edit my porn website and my videos for my former site I had to hear it and got embarrassed... I never realized what I sounded like. :)

Love
Zana
Posted By: sertab123
I love your morning Zana!

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