I have a question that I hope has not been asked on here.   I have looked and have not seen anything on the topic.   I am what I guess you would call a minor hobbyist.  I enjoy a good incall message.  I have been offered a shower both before and after my appointment.  I always shower before I leave for the appointment so I am sure I am clean for the provider and after the message I decline the shower and head off.  My question is,  am I missing out on anything or is it just a provider being nice offering for me to clean up before I leave.  I would hate to think I have been missing out on an "extra" all this time.  I know not every situation or provider are the same and there probably is no solid answer,  just asking for others experience.  Thanks