I know nobody likes a clock watcher, however, I am the type of girl who likes to make my friends feel as cozy as possible which is why i rarely pay attention to the dumb ole' clock. BUUUT, i have incidents where I am having such a good time with my fella that we totally loose track of time and have had to scramble to pull ourselves together so the guy is not late to get to wherever he needs to go without getting in trouble.

So my query is...should I be more aware of our time for the gents' sake (because i am not too worried about it as I always place plenty of wiggle room-lol-between playdates) so they are keeping their schedule as planned and not have to dig around the old excuse for being late bag o'lies?

Maybe I should set an alarm to wake said pleasure fueled devoid of reality sessions or stay freespirited and make my boys be in charge of their time...

Chime in from both girls and boys please

XXX-Giselle


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when your gent shows up by merely asking him, "hey honey, do you have any where to be that we need to end this session at the exact time?  The reason why I ask is that I really focus on the passion that we create and time has known to get away from me on occassion."
 
Do you know how welcoming and what a great tone the session would start off on if that's truly how you feel!

Wish more ladies would have that attitude.

B

I agree with Briar. Also, f you schedule based on precise times, you have to keep precision during the time period. But if you both keep an hour or so slack time after the appointment, a little "passion time" shouldn't be a problem.

Is that personally the gent should be the one clock watching not me.  I want to get lost in it, I hope he feels the same way but if he is constricted either time wise or financially then he should be the one making sure we don't go over to much.  

In my case, I have been doing this for long enough I just know when time is up or about up without even looking at the clock so not an issue for me.  I have a life outside the industry that I have to get back to, so going over by 30-60mins isn't going to happen.  Not that I don't want to, I want to play ALWAYS but I also want respect for my body, time, and space.  

HOWEVER, I do know of some ladies who complain that the guys "camp" and keep coming back to sit on the bed and talk or hang out long after their time is over.  If we can do this we will sit with you, join in whole heartedly in the convo.  If we are hinting, we are making the bed and getting dressed or even hopping into the shower(one lady once told me that after the session was long over she said it was nice seeing the guest and to lock up on his way out, she hopped in the shower because she had another guest, do you know he didn't leave, just stripped down and jumped into the shower with her???)

As much as you gentlemen love to get extra time, make sure you will not be looked at as a camper because that will make it into references you are furnished as well it can leave a bad taste in her mouth if you made her late for something.

Yes, I have had campers too.   Where I have pushed them towards the door to the hall and overstayed 45mins on a 30min session without any thought of added comp.  Afterward I wanted to shower, and had no desire to rebook.

So, my summery is that overstaying a little is not a bad thing 5-15mins, going longer and you really should be willing as a guest to go into your wallet.  You want our all, but don't abuse a generous nature.

Not being a clock watcher is one of the things that makes her special and proves that she really truly loves what she does.  To answer her question - a provider shouldn't have to watch the clock for the benefit of the hobbyist - a responsible hobbyist/man will be aware of his obligations.   Giselle - Don't ever change

There are definitely some knuckleheads who will camp out or try to stretch out the appointment further.  When they get called out for it, they either do not see you anymore or they write a review with a lower score.

As ChgoCPA wrote, most guys know when it is time to leave.  However, it makes it tough when the ladies move up the clock in the room or delays the start of the session [giving out the room number late].

If both parties are having a good enough time where time flies and the clock is forgotten, I think that's a good thing. And if that causes a gent to be late for something - that's his responsibility, not yours. That said, if you enter the session knowing full well you may very well go beyond originally scheduled time - simply ask first if there's anywhere they need to be at a specific time. If not, whoopee for the both of you. ; )

You should only be watching the clock for the benefit of yourself. If you have someone else booked, have somewhere you need to be, etc. This applies to both parties, including the hobbyist: watch the clock for the benefit of yourself. If the gent has somewhere to be, he's not paying you to be his personal assistant.

I usually book at night so this is usually not an issue for me, but when it was I made sure I knew what was going on (even if I have to ask "how are we on time?" to see how much play is left).

Sage brought up valid points about "camping." It's up to the gent to watch for the hints and also the lady to give them. The hobbyist should know how much time was paid for and should not overstay a welcome unless explicitly invited to.

Make this the last song

and each has their own method for keeping track of an hour.  Be it the music on her ipod...or regretably the TV (has happened once or twice).  But it does seem most have their routine down pretty well to know where they are at as far as time.

But OTOH you have those guys that just have an affinity for "trying to stretch" the session. And I can certainly understand your not wanting to disrupt the "flow", but then again rewarding a guy for overstaying his session allows him to continue to do so with the next gal.  This is just the opposite of the gal who shortens the session we read all too often as well.

For me, I have that "clock in my head" and know when time is nearing.  And really, I think most have that as well (maybe not exactly like mine as the hands are that of the gal I am with at the time).  What I do find interesting is when "Johnny" writes in his review that "she is not a clock watcher" and then states that they chatted for quite a while after the time was up.  And I'm sure if this guy contacts you, he will not be on your "must see" list since he feels "entitled" to more than his paid time.  At least the gals I have seen have told me that this is how they view this guy!

And then there are times when a gal is in a quandary - a new client was 30 min late (no big deal traffic was bad yesterday) and so 50 mins into the 1 hour appt he wants to try for a second cup. You know it took him 25 min for the first one, and seconds usually take a little longer... so I'm curious as to what other girls would have done- and what other hobbyist think of it.

Xoxo
VC

I'm sure the guy knew that he was already well beyond the scheduled allotment (given that he was late by 30 minutes and you still were willing to accomodate his "hour" session).  And to ask for the second try with only 10 or so minutes left...he knew exactly what he was doing!

I'm not sure that there is a quandry here, as this is probably NOT the guy you want repeating..at least if it was my time to sell I don't want this guy back (unless he ponied up for another hour before you got started again).

Again this speaks to the guy that doesn't care about you or the session time involved.  And if you give him "an inch, he'll take a mile".

If a client has a time constraint and has to leave at a certain time, I will set an alarm for them about 5 minutes before they need to leave so they have time to clean up.  I do not want to be the cause of their arriving late at home or for a meeting at the office.  

Clock watching is never fun, but to some extent we all do it.  If a provider claims she doesn't, try booking and hour appointment and then stay two or three hours (or the whole day for that matter) without extending  and see what happens.  What is really the issue is how strictly a lady enforces the appointment time, e.g. "are you expected to leave exactly when the appointment has ended!"

I am reasonably accomodating with my time unless I have something else going on after.  I do try to leave plenty of time between commitments so that it does not become an issue.  Occasionally, if a  client arrives quite late, it can become an issue in spite of my efforts. As an example,  I had a doctor's appointment for a checkup and allowed 2 hours between the end of a 1 hour client appointment and my doctor's appointment.   My client arrived 45+ minutes late as he did not leave his office on time and then encountered traffic congestion.  I had to shoo him out 15 minutes after the  end of our time so I could shower and get ready and drive to my doctors.  I recall his being put out and feeling I should give him extra time at our next meeting.  I was dumbfounded.  However, this surely was an isolated incident.  

My feeling is that you should book the amount of  time you plan to stay.  In other words, in my case I offer an hour or hour and a half appointment.  If you book one hour, please do no attempt to take advantage of me by staying an hour and a half unless you plan to extend and pay the difference. Likewise, I will be courteous and make sure that we spend NO LESS than the amount of time we booked.

I do not like being put in the position of asking someone to leave.  It ends the appointment on a sour note.  When our time is over, I gently ask if my client had a good time and  if they need time to wash up.  It works as I seldom have a problem.  99.9% of my clients are considerate of my time as I am of theirs.

Sinthia

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(if your schedule allows), that you would be happy to extend the appointment a half hour if he would be willing to pay the additional fee)

I realize now I cannot be such a sweetheart just to make everyone feel special. I do like to though but I do take into consideration that I shouldnt be taken advantage of just because I am so laid back. I will try my hardest to be more vigilent so I dont get a reputation of one to be taken advantage of timewise.

Thanks all for the advice. Much appreciated but I still give my favorite weekly boys special treatment*wink*

XXX-Giselle