All I can say is, WOW. I recently returned from a business trip. While out and about, I thought I would make an appointment for some fun to celebrate a good deal made. Made the appointment for later in the evening. Whilst out and about, I stopped into a local grocery store for a few things. Down the aisle, I happened on a child begging Mom for their favorite cereal. I overheard the mom tell the child that she could not afford it and to put it back. My heart was broken, so I took my hobby funds and gave them to the manager and discreetly pointed out the family. He agreed to take care of them for me. When I canceled my appointment, I was treated not so nicely. Am I a jackass for cancelling? Wouldn't anyone else have done the same thing as I did.

I think you did the right thing. How many people would have helped that lady in the Grocery store? Probably none, well besides you. Cancelling out on your Appointment, not sure on this one. You did make an appointment before you went to the Grocery Store. Well at least you called to Cancel instead of a NCNS.

Good for you for helping them out.  That's a very nice thing to do this time of the year.

Pete,
If True you "done good!"
Only you, God, and the manager know it's truth.

Kudos to you..an act of Charity is rare in this day and age..we are truly fortunate to have the funds to hobby while so many struggle just to make ends meet..i try to help when i can but then realize no one can save the world alone..you should always strive to balance your own needs with the needs of others..

Please don't forget that the money you gave to someone else may have been money to feed the providers kids as well. All providers are not rolling in dough with cash to spend and miss. If she buys her child something that's money gone, if all guys feel for the woes of others and not the life of providers as if we don't actually have real lives then what happens to us? Do we then require deposits and you be mad at that too? No win for us here it does seem.  

Last month you posted this sad sob story.

Thx CTP ,

Okay, I'm going to let the dying republican in me come out on this one. I agree with the reply above by Joi and I add this thought: The provider you were going to see was not asking for a handout, but willing to earn her money. Maybe she was not in as desperate need as the family you saw or maybe she was--in any case she was doing her best to avoid being a charity case by working for a living, and you didn't hold up your half of the bargain, rewarding someone for being in the right place at the right time rather than for trying to help themselves. You could have spent $3 on the box of cereal and left it for them at the register and still brightened that child's day while upholding your commitment.  

I am glad that I took the time to read every response before commenting, which is not something I usually do.  

I definitely agree with Joi on this one, but, even if the provider you were set to see isn't struggling, unless you asked her if she was working the rest of the day, you have no way of knowing just how much she could have put into this booking. I typically only aim to see one client a day, and, particularly when business is slow, one cancellation, especially at the last minute, can throw off my entire week. I'm not living "appointment to appointment," and am very responsible with my money, but, the time that goes into preparing for a booking, not to mention the fact that, if anyone else tried to reserve that time and I turned them down, there's no going back, means I'm going to be a little less well off than I'd planned to be. That alone would put me in a bad enough mood that, while I wouldn't lash out at you, I would not want to see you in the future.

I like this person's point of view

I agree with Jamie. ALL of your hobby funds is a bit much. If you tell a provider you are 5 dollars short because you treated a Mom to a box of cereal for her kid I'm thinking 10 out of 10 would be cool with it. Once you commit to the appointment,  its probably best to keep it. Sure people flake out in life for all sorts of things and for all sorts of reasons.  But I think its best to keep your commitments. I may have missed if this was an incall or outcall, but this is especially a "no no" if she has booked a hotel room to meet you.  

I'm not the provider you screwed out of her happy Thanksgiving. You gave the entire donation away not knowing if the mother was disciplining her child and without thinking that the lady you were about to see isn't doing this for the fun of it. Do you throw hundreds at beggars on the freeway exit ramps?

Those that have said it is not a good deed if you brag about it.

Jamie,
I know where you come from....though not poor, came from a big family of modest means, where both patents worked when the youngest was old enough to be in school.
Our folks knew how to stretch a buck.
Since my old man worked on south water market, He always brought cases of fruits and veggies, for the food pantries, and parishioners in need.

I have witnessed people who will pay for someones toll, on the highway, or pay for a meal anonymously at a restaurant, or pay for a movie for someone behind them in line. I think this is very cool. That donor has planned ahead to spend a certain amount of money to surprise, and treat someone. Doesn't have to involve money either, could be a donating time at a nursing home, or school, etc.  

Thank you all for your opinions. I truly appreciate CTP calling me a liar. Were you there, CTP? Did you see what I saw? Did you do anything to help ANYONE but yourself? I know what I saw, I know what I did. Got absolutely NO REASON to sit here and make shit up to impress someone on this board. I don't know any of you and really do not want to either. Thanks for setting me straight. Wanted an opinion, got me a belly full. Thank you and may you all be blessed EXACTLY the way you need.

Look at me. I'm so nice. I gave money to a poor person!

If I came upon that scene with the mother and child and I would have done one of two things:

PAY IT FORWARD!!!!  

I know what you mean. And being a girl who has struggled from the age of 16 to support myself, I know that some things are bought at Jewel. Such as meat. If you eat a lot of meat you cannot shop at Aldi and food pantries. But I still don't think someone who is too poor to pay for food would be perusing through the isles of Jewel, and that if this guy is for real, that he gave "all his hobbiest funds" to a mother who didn't want her child to eat a sugary cereal.  

1. You are in a grocery store while out of town on business?
2. Dropped 3 bills on a families groceries???
3. You traveled out of town to complete a business deal? Better be more than 300 in profit for you.
4. How about you found something better or just didnt want to drop the $

1. Yes, I was in a grocery store. Looking for my preferred beverage since that particular store was the first one I came upon.
 
2. Never said I dropped 3 bills on the groceries. So stop making assumptions.

love it!

It wasn't that much....

F'KING JACKASS!!!!

I would have done the first one, then offered the kid some and made sure the box was empty before he reached his hand in. Gotta love a look of disappointment on a child's face.  

That providers are in the exact position and by canceling on such a "generous" whim you thereby put your date out of your donation as well as a potential new client who could have become a regular to put cereal in her child's bowl for a much longer time than your good dead of the day.

Let me guess - you were on your way to an appointment when some kid was begging mommy for a Xbox One.  

is doing this just for fun and not the money.

You win, Chi Town. You and all your little minions have made it clear. Hope those wounds in your wrists heal soon. Must feel awesome to have so many just lined up to take a pull off the mighty unit.

So let's assume for a moment that this fictitious heartbreaking moment actually occurred exactly as you state.  So what, you are in a position to travel to "close a deal" that was big enough to celebrate but the hobby funds in your pocket were all you had access to?  You couldn't do your good deed and then hit the ATM?  Maybe you'd say your SO watches the funds, but in that case why wouldn't you use a CC to take care of the poor tyke's cereal needs and tell your good deed story at home?  Or why not put 50 or 100 toward that unfortunate family and round out your hobby money from petty cash?  Your story has more holes than Spongebob, and I think CTP nailed the real reason for this post.

Hey, Giselle, don't you fucking think that maybe, had she not gone spinning over the edge about my paltry donation that maybe she would have gained a regular? That maybe, in the eight hours between the time I cancelled and our appointment time she could have had several more appointments? Why don't you just go snuggle up to chitown and get you some more from His Holiness.

wasn't trying to brag about the deed, was asking if i should be berated for doing so. just go on down and get your drippings from Chi Town. His Royal Highness needs to shake it off.

Such transparent BS? since you know everything about me, you would know why I did what I did. So now that you hit me with your vapid response, go get your turn on The Masters c*ck. It's amazing how many gutless wonders are here only to please the master. I am glad I did what I did. Sure as fuck don't hear any of you self centered cum guzzlers trying to find a way to help anyone but yourselves. And your tag is the humanist. what a fucking crock. Shut your mouth and close those lips around the master like a good lil bitch. you did his work today.

Such aggressive language for such a do-gooder!

I would have given her the money for the cereal and made not only the mother's, but the child's day as well

New to Chicago section of the boards so please excuse any ignorance this observation might contain.

Hey Pete387,
           
             The only thing you have succeeded in doing here is making as Ass! of yourself.
    There is nothing wrong with doing a nice thing for others but looking for approval on a fuck board.
    Really not so smart and attacking and insulting everyone on here does nothing to add to your credibility.

This sh*t is priceless.