A lot of times, fantasies are really intense and wonderful in our minds, especially if they're recurring fantasies that include taboo or edgy content.  It's really difficult to trust someone with that part of yourself, in my experience.  

If your fantasy is something that you've built up over time, I'd suggest playing it out with a provider with whom you share great rapport and chemistry.  For some, it can be easier to trust someone with your fantasies when you actually trust them.  You also have to understand that when fulfilling a fantasy, the provider is going to follow your lead; if she feels something is off or that you're not into it, she's not going to be, either.  Generally speaking, the more a client is into acting out his fantasy, the more into it I become as well.  This isn't the case for everyone, but if you come to me and tell me you want a particular fantasy acted out and then shy away from it when the time comes, I won't push you into it (unless the session has an element of domination included).

As for fantasies going away? That's never happened to me.  I get to live out my fantasies pretty frequently, and I still have them. All the time.  I have a really vivid imagination.  Fantasies are different for everyone, but I doubt that acting on your fantasy will make it go away; acting on it may in fact make you want it more.

-Erin

...from my experience when making my own fantasies come true, they usually only grow and take on new flavors. Essentially, once a fantasy of mine gets experienced, I start thinking of ways to embellish the experience and make it even more wonderful the next time. I think it may be dependant on how key the fantasy is to your sexual arousal, but for me I don't feel like a fantasy is ruined by experience. I suppose everyone is different, though.

Curious, are you saying you wish providers didn't tune down to you, but plow ahead with your fantasy, even without clear verbal, our even non-verbal, communication from you to continue?

Oh, btw, I wouldn't call yourself a "troll" if you mostly just read theads. A troll is actually a negative term used for those who are annoying on purpose and try to incite arguments and attention on themselves.

If you have trouble playing through a fantasy, I gues you have to ask yourself.......

1) maybe the fantasy is not for me? Sometimes a fantasy sounds a lot better in your head than it does in real life. You might not know if it's a fantasy you truly like unless you try to play it out. If you can't go through with it, it could your body and mind telling you that you're not actually into it.

2) If you know you really like the fantasy and you're just shy or awkward in playing them out, I would recommend letting the provider know in advance and ask her to try and push through even if it seems like you are pulling away or not really liking the experience. Roleplay can get awkward with someone you just met for the first time. If they know you might not be as responsive as normal, that might help things out a lot.

I have done just a couple roleplays and I had a similar reaction as you but the provider never gave up and pushed through my awkwardness like a champ and I had a great time But there are some fantasies that might be left untouched. Like I've always had this fantasy of bringing a provider with me to an asian massage parlor and sort of combining those two worlds by having the provider join in on the massage pretending we're a couple or married. Maybe one day.....

It really depends on the fantasy . . I find . .

The more engaging my date is the more HE will get out of it which is the ultimate satisfaction for me. If you want me to be a stripper dancing on the table while you gettin' a good view . . that role I can pretty much handle without much from my date . . but for instants, I have a regular roll play date that loves to get creative, even to the point of super heroin fantasies and kryptonite to school girl teacher themes . . there are times where I need my man to take the lead so I can be that hot sexy amazing supportive roll that sends him home with a smile on his face

Just my 2 cents!

xo

Adriana~

update

well all this talk on fantasies got the blood rushing..
Big date Thursday to work out a long time fantasy with a top notch Chicago provider and her friend...  wish me luck!